Finding Like Minded Individuals IRL (Frens) - You're not going to make it alone.

[I'm With Chris]

I know this thread might seem like the opposite of "self-sufficiency", but it is not.

In a situation where things get really bad, the ones who have formed strong bonds with others will ultimately outlast the "lone wolves". I'm not even talking about truly SHTF type scenarios, I'm talking about how things are going right now.

Personally, I think forming IRL ties with other like minded individuals is key to survival in a bad situation and maybe even flourishing in a less than bad one. People are instinctively tribalistic, all things considered. The question is what tribes to join and how?

I'm interested in your thoughts on the subject. Personally, I've found myself warming up to people at farmer's markets, gardening groups etc. I'm friends with an old Polish guy who kills and prepares venison. Been to the range with a gun club but honestly, some of those guys really strike me as a "heat score" or worse (Fed).

 

[Troonos]

I need this thread. I have a wife and a lucrative career, but haven't had friends since the Bush era. Making friends in your 30s is really tough.

 

[Kheapathic]

Been to the range with a gun club but honestly, some of those guys really strike me as a "heat score" or worse (Fed).

While I'm not going to tell you how to live your life; Church is a good way to be a part of a community, and hopefully have a look into people's lives without having to suspect if they're either an enthusiastic prepper or fed. That aside, the old Polish guy who kills and preps venison, he probably knows other hunters (gun people) and you may want to see if there's anyone in that group who you can warm to. I'm not going to ask or suggest anyone convert, and this isn't a true 100% across the board; but depending on where you are, your local Mormons range from "Be ready for the latter days" to "I have a decade supply of water purification tablets and an armory the feds don't know about in an underground bunker in my back yard." Even if you're not looking to convert, it's good to have friends.

Personal anecdote; avoid prior military. Half of them may want to relive their younger years (the best days of their life) and feel an obligation to Uncle Sam and route out any terrorists (people who want to be left alone). Not all of them are like that, but if you're risk averse, anyone who wears vet gear, drinks Black Rifle Coffee, and shit like that, they're an automatic red flag.

 

[I'm With Chris]

I've known a lot of Mormons as a youth and yes, they are the original preppers. I had friends I would play road hockey with. One day, they showed me their stockpile of food . It was incredible - an entire basement of shelves.
The old Polish guy is a total self sufficient loner and the venison is very good. His wife is dead and the kids moved away. He doesnt charge despite my insistence - he likes the company. I introduced him to Game of Thrones a year ago and he's obsessed. We're on season 3. I dont have the heart to tell him whats to come.

 

[Obeah Mon]

I buddy up with guys Ive sold guns n ammo to. mostly millennials.

Currently I have a couple chollo fellas. I let them shoot my shit because dey po.
The beaner millenials are 100x better than some yt's I had. I just get tired of people , but where i go is desolate w/ no cell in emergency.. you just dead. That is the only reason i require a shooting partner. plus me license is revoked. they dont have a problem with you burning weed while shooting or waste ammunition like the safety 1st yt fine haired who'll kill yer buzz over it. Plus the big guy Im teaching to reload & he came up with a literal shit load of brass. I have too much powder and want to get it all loaded in something. and when its all gone im done reloading.
I also have them casting bullets to get rid of my lead stash. its easy to go overboard buying shit. edits i keep tryna post vids an its fucking up

 

[Bassomatic]

As much as I hate the guy for being a fat ... well I don't need more reasons than that. The CNN dude Michael Smerconish hit it right MINGLE! I don't like to get too deep into anything IRL here for a lot of reasons but, make small talk.

If it goes well you swap #s... you text and see if it was just a "hah we both like cantalope" moment at the food store to slowly finding ya'll cool.

Lastly, I just said I don't like to get overly personal here but I'm a pretty die hard an cap fr fr no cap on god. DO NOT hug box yourself. While I strongly disagree, I have smart friends who disagree, and I rather a smart liberal friend than a dumbass analchest any day.

As a late 30s kiwi, I work a ton and got my family. So I don't have a ton of time to make new friends. Thankfully I got many people I'm close to, and for mixed blessing some moved away we still talk on phone etc. Pick up sports helped me make friends 30+.

 

[Osama Bin Laden]

I just want a friend I can call a nigger too.

 

[Cirrhosis_of_Liver]

I need this thread. I have a wife and a lucrative career, but haven't had friends since the Bush era. Making friends in your 30s is really tough.

I would have friends if I liked people who didn't live in my house. Possibly.

 

[Thel]

Farmers markets, churches, local sports clubs (not niggerball fans, but groups of people who get together for volleyball or something every week or so), volunteer groups such as search and rescue, or CERT groups, young people at gun ranges who don't look like fags, ect ect. There's a lot of good ways to find lots of people pretty quickly in populated areas. Not so much in the middle of nowhere.
You could also join local militia type groups like the 3%ers (although I think they are gay and retarded, I'm sure some groups of them aren't.) or even nationalist groups. If you're averse to that option because of the risk of agent Simons searing your retinas with his bioluminescent power, just set the ground rule of running away the micro second someone asks you to blow up a post office, or something similarly ridiculous.

 

[Not With]

Has anyone here heard of FIC (The Foundation for Intentional Community)?

https://www.ic.org/

There's various communities listed on there, all seeking members who align with their values and requirements.

 

[I'm With Chris]

lol

 

[Obeah Mon]

I tried setting up a BP revolver meetup an got nuthin. at the time i had 5 BP revolvers for use... nobody wants to do shit anymore or flakes or way late no courtesy to text an let you know & everyone saying stupid shit..."i had to take kid/self to the emergency room" my dog ate my homework shit. its pathetic wot theyve done to our people & that they accepted it. world was better w/o cellphones. the same internet that freed our minds enslaved our bodies.

 

[Topsoil]

• Combat sports & martial arts. You'll of course have military and glowies there, but you'll also usually find like-minded preppers there too. Additionally, since these are physically active, it won't be extremely online people or fat fucks who can't haul grain.
• Religion, as mentioned. But you need to do more than be a body in a seat. You need to volunteer, work with people, and make connections.
• Hunting lessons, hunting groups. These can be hard to find.
• As mentioned, gun clubs/shooting ranges. But same issue with exmil and glowies.
• See if your local Home Depot/Lowes is offering some kind of DIY class. Same with gardening stores.

Essentially, think about the skills you have, and then figure out where people are going to be around other people to practice/learn those skills. Then go there. Talk to LOTS of people, this is a numbers game.

 

[Smoke Manmuscle]

While I'm not going to tell you how to live your life; Church is a good way to be a part of a community, and hopefully have a look into people's lives without having to suspect if they're either an enthusiastic prepper or fed. That aside, the old Polish guy who kills and preps venison, he probably knows other hunters (gun people) and you may want to see if there's anyone in that group who you can warm to. I'm not going to ask or suggest anyone convert, and this isn't a true 100% across the board; but depending on where you are, your local Mormons range from "Be ready for the latter days" to "I have a decade supply of water purification tablets and an armory the feds don't know about in an underground bunker in my back yard." Even if you're not looking to convert, it's good to have friends.

Personal anecdote; avoid prior military. Half of them may want to relive their younger years (the best days of their life) and feel an obligation to Uncle Sam and route out any terrorists (people who want to be left alone). Not all of them are like that, but if you're risk averse, anyone who wears vet gear, drinks Black Rifle Coffee, and shit like that, they're an automatic red flag.

As a vet who hates vetbros this is all truth. Vets can and will have skills taught to them in the military that can be useful but look for the ones who don’t wear it as an identity. You will find them.

I've known a lot of Mormons as a youth and yes, they are the original preppers. I had friends I would play road hockey with. One day, they showed me their stockpile of food . It was incredible - an entire basement of shelves.
The old Polish guy is a total self sufficient loner and the venison is very good. His wife is dead and the kids moved away. He doesnt charge despite my insistence - he likes the company. I introduced him to Game of Thrones a year ago and he's obsessed. We're on season 3. I dont have the heart to tell him whats to come.

I was going to suggest your local Mormon church (they call them Wards) they are truly helpful people who have some interesting beliefs. I had some of the missionaries come to my house while I was fixing fence. They spent the rest of the day and came back the next to help me. They did spend some time talking about their beliefs and they were definitely trying to convert me but they didn’t ask for anything else in return. They truly believe in helping those who help themselves and being involved in the community.

My recommendation would be to get involved in a hobby group for whatever you are interested in. My hobby has nothing even remotely related to survival or self sufficiency but if you are a self starter you will end up falling in with a like minded crowd.

 

[Aunt Carol]

Has anyone investigated fraternal orders, e.g. the Moose or Elks?

Not to say that you'd be finding srs bsns preppers at Bingo, but these are organizations with buildings and procedures and the coordination of a national organization. As far as people who are looking for things to join, you'd have tradition and name recognition.

Friend of a friend of a friend used to regularly rent the auditorium from a fraternal order for his art stuff, realized it would be cheaper if he were a member of the fraternal order--a few years later, that fraternal order is full of 30-something art weirdos, kicking in dues, drinking after-hours, and doing public service alongside the Q-tips.

Again, this is speculation, and it's more about finding your people pre-apocalypse than post-. I don't know if it'd work better or worse to check out the more religious or male-only fraternal orders; I like esoterica fine but I don't have a penis so that's what I was looking into.

 

[CoolGuy1990]

I would like to add be very careful of anyone that is VERY loud about there abilities (i.e tacticool larpers, Boogalarpers, punisher skull types) as this to me is a huge red flag it means either:
1) Glowie desperately trying to court "like minded patriots" and sell you a sawed off shotgun
or
2) Hot air walmart commando that consistently talks about how he doesn't need cardio/weights cuz he has a gun, and if push comes to shove would sell you down the river for a taste of a big mac

"The smallest of dogs have the loudest barks"

 

[Kheapathic]

Has anyone investigated fraternal orders, e.g. the Moose or Elks?

My Opa was a member of The Elks and The Eagles, and I'd advocate for making friends with them at the least as they're often connected to the local community; and big shock, damn near every member is a current employee or retiree of the big job in town, so the Christmas Party was at the Elk's Lodge every year. Even if you don't meet preppers or anything like that, you at least have friends in the community, and can probably find people who are amenable to certain aspects of prepping or at least know who has good skills to have in an apocalypse scenario.

 

[Sargon's wife's son]

Avoid political groups find a nice Orthodox Church avoid the ones with mixed race couples those people are degenerates and deserve the rope

 

[pentangle]

I need this thread. I have a wife and a lucrative career, but haven't had friends since the Bush era. Making friends in your 30s is really tough.

It's soooo much easier when you're in school. I find uni tends to filter for not only people with common interests but also common intellectual capacities (to a certain extent - at least more than just hanging out with randos outside of school).
Lately I've just been going to as many activities as possible and saying "yes" to every request to a group thing someone sends my way even if I'm not in the mood. I dislike most people (and don't reveal my autistic kf power level to 99% of them unless I can get a read on them) but every now and then I'll find someone actually worth hanging out with one on one. I find just doing this long enough lets you curate and cement a smaller circle of friends whose company you enjoy.

Finding ways to introduce the people you like to each other can also be really fruitful. The dynamics that arise in a group filled with people you like can sometimes be even more special and fun than solo ones.

I just want a friend I can call a nigger too.

This unironically is a huge consideration of mine. It's a straight up filter for whether someone should graduate from friendly acquaintance -> friend. It's happened before though! You do your time with groups of normies until these gems crop up in the process.

 

[2LtMashengo]

Has anyone here heard of FIC (The Foundation for Intentional Community)?

https://www.ic.org/

There's various communities listed on there, all seeking members who align with their values and requirements.

There really is something for everyone, panning around Washington/Oregon looking for wacky stuff I found what looks like a leftist proto-tranch, and also a TERF moon worship village.