Strange things women do/have/endure - That guys wouldn’t know about

[Major]

Just gonna requote myself here:

Since menstruation is being discussed I have a question:

is fear of blood less common in women because of repeat exposure?

 

[Inside your walls]

I wish I had that 4chan screencap where they call white people the niggers of asia. WHERE DA ASIAN WOMEN AT?

Don't worry, I gotchu covered

 

[Thé au lait]

on the topic of things that are mostly just annoying: seatbelts. i don't know if this is consistent across all makes and models, but oh my god i cannot fucking stand how, if you have anything larger than an a-cup, the seatbelt slides up until it's right against your neck. no amount of adjusting keeps it from moving around either.

i'm sure the design that only considered male bodies worked great back in the fifties, but there's no reason not to change it in current year where almost every single woman i know has a driver's license that she uses on the regular.

I almost cried that I'm not alone on this holy shit, every time I've complained about it I get looked at like I'm crazy

Seatbelts and other straps in general get weird above an A cup.
"Don't put it between the boobs, it look sexual"
"Don't put it under the boobs, that's not safe."
"Don't put it over the boobs, it will choke you."

What bras do you own where putting it between is an option? Asking for a friend

Since menstruation is being discussed I have a question:

is fear of blood less common in women because of repeat exposure?

This is entirely anecdotal, but I only know two people who are afraid of blood (one man, one woman). In both cases, it's caused by trauma from seeing gruesome deaths, so maybe it's even?
I really want to know the answer to this question too

 

[Emo Supremo]

Seatbelts and other straps in general get weird above an A cup.
"Don't put it between the boobs, it look sexual"
"Don't put it under the boobs, that's not safe."
"Don't put it over the boobs, it will choke you."

i could be wrong, but wouldn't the fact it doesn't sit properly on the rider cause additional injuries if there's a wreck? i feel there's a risk of all that forward momentum concentrating on the wrong areas, like, you know, the fucking neck instead of the ribcage.

 

[666 Derpina 666]

We can't freely relate stories of our awkward childhood/coming-of-age experiences the way that men can because of the way we are uniquely sexualized. My favorite male vidyagame youtubers/streamers can openly, unashamedly tell stories of the embarrassing/gross/stupid shit they did as kids, and it's funny! Media like South Park can have joke after joke based on the 9-year-old male characters' sex and masturbation mishaps, and it's funny! If we try to talk about our experiences with that sort of thing, or perhaps try to portray them through art, men will inevitably just treat it as jerkoff material. Someone else has said this before, but you could never have a gender-swapped South Park because when boys do that stuff, it's comedy, but when girls do that stuff, it's porn. I know it's dumb, but I'm really envious of them for that lol.

There's all these fucking buddy comedies and memes and shit centered on the male coming-of-age experience and all the awkward shenanigans that come with it. Boys can watch that shit and feel seen. We don't get that same privilege. Not really, anyway. It is incredibly rare to find a piece of mainstream media with an actually realistic, relatable representation of female adolescence. Tbh, the shit targeted at boys, like Diary of a Wimpy Kid, was usually way more relatable than the shit meant to be targeted at girls.

So many girls end up feeling abnormal or alone because they get this false impression that other girls didn't do the same embarrassing/gross/stupid shit that they did. We also end up left in the dark about stuff that should be common knowledge — stuff like: most women prefer to masturbate via external stimulation, e.g. pillow-humping, and that a lot of us started doing it before we even knew what masturbation was. For the longest time, I felt insecure in that regard and felt that I was masturbating the "wrong" way because we legit never fucking talk about it and they legit never show them doing it that way in movies and whatnot.

This is beside the point, but I think the fact that we very seldom openly talk about this shit contributes to men not seeing us as fully human, since it makes us seem less relatable.

 

[NoReturn]

i could be wrong, but wouldn't the fact it doesn't sit properly on the rider cause additional injuries if there's a wreck? i feel there's a risk of all that forward momentum concentrating on the wrong areas, like, you know, the fucking neck instead of the ribcage.

You are correct. The strap is supposed to go like this:

So you might need an adaptive device to make it sit properly. You can use a metal lock like this:

Or a triangle-type adaptor:


And if you need some additional motivation for why you want to invest in these, this is what an accident injury looks like (NSFW):

Spoiler: NSFW

This private information is unavailable to guests due to policies enforced by third-parties.

Description: Injured breasts of an elderly woman caused by a seatbelt cutting a breast in half

 

[Susanna]

There's all these fucking buddy comedies and memes and shit centered on the male coming-of-age experience and all the awkward shenanigans that come with it. Boys can watch that shit and feel seen. We don't get that same privilege. Not really, anyway. It is incredibly rare to find a piece of mainstream media with an actually realistic, relatable representation of female adolescence. Tbh, the shit targeted at boys, like Diary of a Wimpy Kid, was usually way more relatable than the shit meant to be targeted at girls.

I think this may be part of what made Mean Girls such a cultural touchstone. We've all known a Regina George. I'd make the same argument for Jennifer's Body, which for some reason was marketed towards teen boys but really is more a feminist revenge story that explores toxic friendships and how they can change during adolescence.

 

[LimeRikki]

I think this may be part of what made Mean Girls such a cultural touchstone. We've all known a Regina George.

Fun fact. The movie Mean Girls was based on a psychology book for adolescent teen girls, "Queen bees & Wannabees"

 

[Tablet County]

I'd make the same argument for Jennifer's Body

I wouldn't. Outside of Patrick Star threatening to feed someone their testicles that movie kind of sucks ass.
It's funnier actually, he says he'll turn someone's nuts into a door knocker.

 

[PandaChai]

realistic, relatable representation of female adolescence

Given some of the posts here, it sounds like Cuties might be a candidate. Not necessarily for the contents (I haven't seen it and refuse to do so) but for it's, I don't know, aura?, of inappropriate sexualisation and general (male gaze) sleaze of it.

 

[Tablet County]

Given some of the posts here, it sounds like Cuties might be a candidate. Not necessarily for the contents (I haven't seen it and refuse to do so) but for it's, I don't know, aura?, of inappropriate sexualisation and general (male gaze) sleaze of it.

I mean, that's what it's supposed to be about. But it's so inherently creepy that the "artistic message" of the film kinda takes a backseat to the deep feeling of unease.

 

[mold]

I was polite and possibly helpful

and that’s what you’re doing wrong

 

[Plantation Barbie]

I think this may be part of what made Mean Girls such a cultural touchstone. We've all known a Regina George. I'd make the same argument for Jennifer's Body, which for some reason was marketed towards teen boys but really is more a feminist revenge story that explores toxic friendships and how they can change during adolescence.

I remember Thirteen being fairly decent despite it's shoe string budget. Although that one was more of a drama and not comedy.

 

[Susanna]

I wouldn't. Outside of Patrick Star threatening to feed someone their testicles that movie kind of sucks ass.
It's funnier actually, he says he'll turn someone's nuts into a door knocker.

That shot overlaid on a SpongeBob clip was the reason I watched the film in the first place. I’d heard someone call it a cult classic and looked it up before, but all the marketing made it seem like a boy’s film I wouldn’t be interested in. Was pleasantly surprised to find it a decent adolescence story about toxic friends. I’m not calling it a masterpiece, just terribly mismarketed.

 

[Not A Bunny]

I'm sure menstruation has come up a lot in this thread, but I'll bring mine: if a man says that he doesn't mind having sex while on my period, I immediately wonder what the fuck he thinks a period IS.

Putting aside the fucking cleanup afterward, it's not like it's just a leak of blood for a few days. Physiologically, it feels weird. It may be different for other women, but categorically the region of my body used for sex at that point doesn't feel like it wants sex; it wants to go to the Winchester and have a pint until this all blows over.

My temperature regulation sucks and I feel not sexy enough to get horny, and my lady-bits are less sensitive to stimulation. Oh, and I'm still reeling from those stories about toxic shock syndrome I was told as a teenager, so no, I don't really want foreign objects of variable cleanliness there.

But sure, YOU'RE okay with it. Meanwhile, my panties look like a crime scene.

 

[Emo Supremo]

And if you need some additional motivation for why you want to invest in these, this is what an accident injury looks like (NSFW):

Spoiler: NSFW

This private information is unavailable to guests due to policies enforced by third-parties.

Description: Injured breasts of an elderly woman caused by a seatbelt cutting a breast in half

reminds me of when one of my clients got into a car accident and the seatbelt left a nasty bruise behind -- i assume it would've been this bad if she wasn't just pulling out from a turn. and making seatbelts less likely to garrote someone would be such an easy fix too. just put the top anchor thing on a little track with locking notches where you can adjust it up or down according to your height, weight, and general preference, and wow would you look at that, now everyone can actually be safe and comfortable instead of the most perfectly average-sized adult men.

i doubt that'll ever happen though, with car manufacturers focusing on cutting costs to the point where they're replacing physical controls with touchscreen buttons. like it's a great idea to have millions of vehicles being entirely controlled by a fucking ipad.

 

[seri0us]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems for women it's more of a bind, because it causes you to have to negate what you are to prevent this kind of attention. Or more likely, just have to deal with it. It's so strange: no picture, no feminine chat behavior, no age, no voice and that's enough to get the attention.

What is "feminine chat behavior"?

 

[FatalTater]

We can't freely relate stories of our awkward childhood/coming-of-age experiences the way that men can because of the way we are uniquely sexualized. My favorite male vidyagame youtubers/streamers can openly, unashamedly tell stories of the embarrassing/gross/stupid shit they did as kids, and it's funny! Media like South Park can have joke after joke based on the 9-year-old male characters' sex and masturbation mishaps, and it's funny! If we try to talk about our experiences with that sort of thing, or perhaps try to portray them through art, men will inevitably just treat it as jerkoff material. Someone else has said this before, but you could never have a gender-swapped South Park because when boys do that stuff, it's comedy, but when girls do that stuff, it's porn. I know it's dumb, but I'm really envious of them for that lol.

Nevermind that stuff guys can talk about doing or weird body stuff they deal with, and it's chuckled over and commiserated, BUT if a girl says it?
"EW that's gross! You're gross! Get away! Stay away! Ew!"
So girls learn very early to be "ladylike" or be shunned.
In some ways the internet has saved the mental health of many a woman, because she can anonymously go on a forum and ask, Does anyone else do this? and have other anonymous women laugh and say Yes.

 

[NoReturn]

What is "feminine chat behavior"?

Back in the day it was using emoticons at all.

 

[Thé au lait]

Back in the day it was using emoticons at all.

Or using exclamation points correctly