> moo: On July 29th we were watching TV together alone in her living room. With no warning, prior physical engagement, or sexual conversation she took off her pants and started touching herself in front of me. I had just moved in with Ava and left my job to come work as her assistant. In no way shape or form did I feel like I could say no without somehow risking my job or being asked to leave. She used that against me in order to receive non consensual oral sex.
This seems an admission moo is using chris for the job, that in moo's mind it is oral sex for the job. Was this subjective arrangement ever communicated into the objective? You need to communicate.
It was uncouth on behalf of Chris. However, you have been in a serious relationship for months living together, meeting the family, etc. It isn't a Harvey Weinstein stranger situation. Call it out, shame it, discuss it, and move on. You two were on an ejaculation break, but still did edging-esque activities. Also, what was the movie? Was he jerking to you or it? Netflix and chill has eradicated dignity in many porn addicted youth, it's uncouth but not coercive; witnessed masturbation can be an uncouth sign of protest to a sexual drought, that does, as happened here, result in consensual reunification; obviously communication is better, but that's banging the drum at this point.
It was uncouth on behalf of Chris. However, you have been in a serious relationship for months living together, meeting the family, etc. It isn't a Harvey Weinstein stranger situation. It is a dysfunctional immature relationship situation. Call it out, shame it, discuss it, and move on. You two were on an ejaculation break, but still did edging-esque activities. Furthermore, what was the movie? Was he jerking to you or it? Netflix and chill culture with its sex/porn filled movies designed for hookups, has eradicated dignity in many horny youth, who initiate intimacy watching movies in all sorts of uncouth but still not coercive ways. Such awkwardness deserves shame through communication not reward. Within the bounds of a relationship the act of witnessed masturbation can be an uncouth protest to a sexual drought, which can result in sexual reunification as happened here (and is evidently a common fantasy on pornhub), or result in a communicated "wtf darling, I'm sorry but I'm not ready yet, and I consider that out of bounds, don't do that around me, I do not wish to reciprocate it, let's talk more about our drought and boundaries now or later so we can be clear". There is no need for any of this cringey awkwardness/degeneracy/uncouthness in a relationship, from Chris and from you, just communicate better, both of you!