Addressing a much earlier question, can women actually love?
Yes, but women aren't men, and you should neither expect nor want a woman to love like a man does. It's not equal, it's not supposed to be equal, and if what you want is for someone to love you the way a man loves a woman, you're a faggot.
A man loves a woman as her protector and provider. A woman's love doesn't encompass her endangering herself to secure your safety because she, not you, is the smaller, weaker member of the species. She needs your protection, and that need is not a failure on her part. You, however, are in fact failing as a man if you need a woman to protect you.
When a woman loves you, she cares about your well-being in a different way. Her priorities are more on your health and happiness. It will make her happy to see you eating a good meal she prepared, or to know you feel comfortable talking to her. A woman who uses your emotional vulnerability as a weapon doesn't love you. When she gets after you because you eat too many chips, or need to go to the doctor more often, and all that, it's because she loves you. Women don't do that with guys they don't give a shit about. That whore upthread who drove for two hours to ride Private Chadley's dick? She doesn't care if he has a good breakfast or drinks too much.
Also, the reality is that, as her protector, you can't shatter her confidence that you can fulfill your role. Nature made women incapable of securing their own physical well-being, so despite modernity providing them a cocoon, the instinct to drop a man who can't take care of them remains. You have to have your shit together, and in periods where you don't, be visibly working toward getting it back together.
Where things are upside-down right now is that I can tell you, point blank, that you're failing as a man if you don't fulfill your role, but nobody is going to tell a woman she is failing as a woman if she doesn't do X, Y, and Z. Women can't do anything wrong, women are perfect, women are entitled to everything they want, etc. But, the truth is, in a marriage (because that's where love happens, not when you're just fucking each other while looking out for the next good fuck), a woman who isn't caregiving, nurturing, etc is failing at her role.