There is something particularly revolting about Sanders. And it's not just that he has the face of a bad 3D character model in a bloopers reel. The way he attaches himself to his brother's misery and pushes and supports all of the horrific shit is so vile to me. The mother is a BPD horror show, of course. But it's just...what does he get out of it? He doesn't seem to be having luck with the ladies (which, constantly virtue signalling for the gays will do that, if you see someone out and about with pride merch you just suspect he's a massive fag, regardless of what you've heard from Tumblr, talking about gay rights isn't an aphrodisiac for women), his family has money so he doesn't need to grift that hard and even then he doesn't seem to be making much of anything out of his social media marketing whatever, it's his brother who is the tranny not him, etc. I can't for the life of me figure out what his deal is aside from he just unironically believes all the slogans, which even the people who came up with them and repeat them don't, they're not actual beliefs or opinions...just tools. And he didn't get the memo.
In that house, there is a woman in charge who will insist that her little boy is a girl and have his dick cut off. She'll get a cake to celebrate it. She will put it on TV. Anyone who says anything against this will be cast out and have their life ruined publicly. And their father will not protect them.
It doesn't matter how much "
ok but it's more complicated....it wasn't just Jeanette...." context and social bs gets piled on top of it because we are talking about mother and father stuff, deep seated stuff, the most formative and primal stuff. Everyone there knows, even if it's just on some subconscious lizard-brain level buried under a bunch of TikTok videos, that mom is potentially 100% in charge of your life narrative and will sell it to the world and cut your dick off.
Everyone there has been damaged by it. Maybe they'll have bad relationships, drink a little too much, need a bunch of therapy, or who knows what else. Sander is simply the most outwardly obvious and public about it.
Personally I think he's obsessed with being an "ally" and looks constantly unhinged because he's the closest to becoming aware of how bad it is and is trying to keep himself from realizing it. Like it hasn't surfaced and maybe never will, but it's closer to the surface, so he has to keep insisting that
this is all great, actually because the alternative- mom is a demon and their family should be torn to shreds forever and it's all an evil tragic lie - is simply unbearable.
The worst has already happened to Jaron. Now he just haunts the family like a ghost. Sander is the one who is waiting for something horrible to happen- unresolved trauma from mom being a monster, some stunted little boy part of him that
literally fears castration (I'm not a Freudian but holy shit), or just mostly misplaced guilt and suppressed dread that all this will hit the fan someday. I wouldn't be surprised if Jazz or Sander joined the 41% but my money would be on Sander.
