Ability too gain a mate is both genetic and environmental. Incels fall at attracting a mate in the first place. Can't have a relationship if a partner can't be obtain due to whatever reason. This is why courtship is a necessary step.
Life isn't fair. It's not supposed to be. That's what incels can't comprehend.
I'm not sure that makes sense. If incels don't understand life is unfair, what are they upset about? Presuming they believe life is fair, why don't they just self-improve and become attractive? I think it is the realization that their attractiveness level is hard-capped by factors outside their control that is the source of their frustration. Whether that is true or not is a matter of your personal belief.
But are you sure that you understand the fabric of their relationship? So many people are locked in loveless marriages. They only stick around for the kids / financial stability of dual income. There is a mountain of anecdotal evidence implying that many marriages have failed, and the two remain together simply to keep up appearances. ~50% of marriages tragically end in divorce. I don't understand this fixation with "rolling on your back". In my experience, many incels I know graduated college, work decent jobs, stay in shape etc. Still, they struggle to meet women. I have witnessed this personally. Maybe it is a personality issue, I could imagine it possible that they sperg out in the presence of women.
In many cases, the incel is upset that they were lied to at some point in their lives. Sometimes the lie the idea that a 10/10 woman will fall out of the sky to love them unconditionally while they don’t have to do anything to improve themselves.
my nigga, i am an engineer and all my friends are engineers, we're all doofy-lookin' niggas, yeah, i know what we're like
You make an interesting point. But I would like to know more about the source of the mental illnesses that run rampant amongst incels. Is it entirely biological? Or is it the result of some painful life experience? Is mental illness the cause of involuntary celibacy, or the effect? The latter would imply there is some other cause of involuntary celibacy which I am unaware of. I'll admit that psychology is not my field of expertise.
DBDR's mom has a cluster B personality disorder and was overly emotional throughout his life. He has every reason to hate her tbh. Come to think of it, mentally ill moms seem to be a common theme among incels along with absent fathers.
I haven’t taken any psychology courses for well over a decade, but I’ll be happy to explain.
yeah, a second playthrough is normally much quicker than a first.
I saw a definition for the types I found quite apt a while ago.I haven’t taken any psychology courses for well over a decade, but I’ll be happy to explain.
From what I recall, cluster B personalities aren’t genetic perse but rather they are formed from
environment. Sometimes the result of being raised by mentally ill parents.
I believe that trauma, more so from parents that are negligent (emotionally or otherwise), does contribute greatly to a person developing a cluster B personality. I think depression is overdiagnosed in a lot of men who demonstrate those traits, especially if The National Institute of mental health is to be believed.
There is a recent source on Incels expressing higher levels of depression than average. If you’re interested in more reading.
Of course, there’s people who become cluster b even within stable households. But I personally believe it has a lot to do with early childhood in the cases of many incels.
Many times, you’ll see these men go from viewing their love interest as well, a love interest, to viewing her as a harpy within mere seconds of rejection. Most normal adults who can regulate their emotions would go “It’s alright if you don’t want to be involved romantically”, and then go for a drink later that day (or do something they enjoy, and get used to the prospect of their crush not being with them romantically).
However, many times incels may either ruminate in their depressive thoughts or start seeing the person they confessed to in the worst light possible. May go as far as to call her a bitch, whore, slut and possibly take it a step further. This isn’t a normal reaction, it’s very much in line with the symptom of “splitting” you’d see in Borderline Personality and Histrionic personality disorder.
Truthfully, my knowledge might be a tad outdated because as I prefaced earlier, it’s been years since I’ve taken any of those courses.
That's nothing. One of my friends in grad school got married a fourth time when he was twenty-seven.
Is your aunt wealthy, per chance? Specifically from life insurance payouts? Once is a tragedy, twice is a coincide… and well, third time is a pattern.
Some people speedrun life and it rarely ends well. I've known people who've become deadbeat dads at age 18 and do not envy them one bit.
Not a single one of them had any life insurance; I had to 'lend' her the money for the funeral of the last one. To have managed to be widowed three times and not have cashed a cheque out of any of them is just bad mate selection frankly. I mean if she had managed to marry anyone that was not a raging alkie that would have been a start, but only a raging alkie could tolerate her, so there's the dilemma.
How old was this specimen? I think anyone over the age of 8 should know how to operate a tissueYesterday, I met an incel. I was at a public place, and sat on a bench. This guy sits close to me. He looks disgusting, unwashed, dirty. He says hi and I, feeling polite, for this is a good day for me, say hi back. Fist bump.
We talk a bit. He complains that most women nowadays don't even say hi or look at him and *grumble grumble*. He is snotty and snorting, and suddenly, he turns away, asks if I have a tissue. I do not. He rubs his nose all over the hand he just used to fist bump me and explains that his face just started leaking.
He is now talking to me with snot running down his face and all over his hand, and I am pretending I see none of it while my stomach turns. He is telling me how his ex looked so pretty like me, with hair like mine. I thank him and beam my best smile and casually, we continue making small talk. He tells me he cannot find a gf and asks if I'm single, no, unfortunately not... Oh, look at the time, I must go now but best of luck to you sir! And hey, check out tinder, I've heard great things!
And that is how I picture the average incel.
