Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[fitty tucker]

Thanks for all the flower tips, ladies. I have already impressed with some bouqetmaxxing

bouquetmaxxing... other men need to get on this level.

What flowers did you end up going with?

 

[Otis Mallebrok]

bouquetmaxxing... other men need to get on this level.

What flowers did you end up going with?

Aster and chrysanthemums and something i dont know the english name of. My mum in law had back surgery, so that's why.

 

[isalaide]

Aster and chrysanthemums and something i dont know the english name of. My mum in law had back surgery, so that's why.

sending flowers to the ill mother in law <---- you all need to get on this level. I am impressed.

 

[Dread First]

Here’s a different question for the religious and/or spiritual Kiwi sisters among us: how do you maintain consistency with your practice? Open to advice from people of all backgrounds.

I’m able to absorb and digest the theory effortlessly, but maintaining a consistent practise is an area where I’m sorely lacking. I can maintain a practise for 3-4 days, maybe a week, and then I get sidelined with distractions and let it fall apart.

Most of the women in my life are inexplicably able to maintain a consistent practise, regardless of what faith/spiritual background they are. I’ve asked for help once or twice IRL, but the answer I get usually amounts to “just do it and stop complaining.” The men in my life offer similar advice, but they’re equally bad at maintaining consistency as I am.

Minor tangential question: any recommendations for prayer beads?

 

[fitty tucker]

Here’s a different question for the religious and/or spiritual Kiwi sisters among us: how do you maintain consistency with your practice? Open to advice from people of all backgrounds.

I’m able to absorb and digest the theory effortlessly, but maintaining a consistent practise is an area where I’m sorely lacking. I can maintain a practise for 3-4 days, maybe a week, and then I get sidelined with distractions and let it fall apart.

Most of the women in my life are inexplicably able to maintain a consistent practise, regardless of what faith/spiritual background they are. I’ve asked for help once or twice IRL, but the answer I get usually amounts to “just do it and stop complaining.” The men in my life offer similar advice, but they’re equally bad at maintaining consistency as I am.

Minor tangential question: any recommendations for prayer beads?

I'm not religious, but I think the easiest thing to do would be to take prayer beads and put them on your pillow. Then when you go to bed, lie in bed and do your prayers.

I like Tibetan malas, I know people use them for prayer beads. I have a really pretty one made of sandstone with turquoise marking every 10th bead.

 

[Meursault's gun]

I’m able to absorb and digest the theory effortlessly, but maintaining a consistent practise is an area where I’m sorely lacking. I can maintain a practise for 3-4 days, maybe a week, and then I get sidelined with distractions and let it fall apart.

Most of the women in my life are inexplicably able to maintain a consistent practise, regardless of what faith/spiritual background they are. I’ve asked for help once or twice IRL, but the answer I get usually amounts to “just do it and stop complaining.” The men in my life offer similar advice, but they’re equally bad at maintaining consistency as I am.

If your issue is outright forgetting, then maybe having a physical reminder (like prayer beads) and keeping it in plain view would help.

If your issue is getting distracted, then I suspect you may have to look into why you might be prioritizing other things. Maybe ranking your priorities in life and keeping that list around somewhere would give a slight nudge when you feel like you are losing the script? From some of my experience and what I've seen from family, what keeps a practice going is categorizing it as an inherent part of your day and as something that is a non-negotiable. Imagine the excuses you could come up with to not brush your teeth when you are extremely, extremely tired - what makes us drag ourselves to the sink anyway? When simple routine fails us, I believe that pausing and going through the reasons why we do things helps. Spiritually/religiously, this could look like you reminding yourself of the pitfalls of not practicing what you believe.

If you are just starting out, then you could imagine your situation as a kid who is just starting to try and maintain his own routines - you may mess up from time to time, but eventually you will grow into staying consistent without thinking about it (most of the time; ofc you will need to prod yourself back into it sometimes). I believe most people go through a stage where their practices are spotty; those women are probably telling you to just keep at it because that is indeed the only thing that can form the routine you are looking for.

 

[DickMain]

Alrighty, gals, I went ahead and sent out a few swipes this morning after all the discussion last night. I will try to not be a boring autist if something goes somewhere

 

[Big Miss Steak]

Here’s a different question for the religious and/or spiritual Kiwi sisters among us: how do you maintain consistency with your practice? Open to advice from people of all backgrounds.

I’m able to absorb and digest the theory effortlessly, but maintaining a consistent practise is an area where I’m sorely lacking. I can maintain a practise for 3-4 days, maybe a week, and then I get sidelined with distractions and let it fall apart.

Most of the women in my life are inexplicably able to maintain a consistent practise, regardless of what faith/spiritual background they are. I’ve asked for help once or twice IRL, but the answer I get usually amounts to “just do it and stop complaining.” The men in my life offer similar advice, but they’re equally bad at maintaining consistency as I am.

Minor tangential question: any recommendations for prayer beads?

What is your practice? Prayer? Study?

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

Here’s a different question for the religious and/or spiritual Kiwi sisters among us: how do you maintain consistency with your practice? Open to advice from people of all backgrounds.

https://ecosophia.dreamwidth.org/tag/will

you need training of the will ....try it

I usually just try and fail untill i get it right . Its ok to fail

 

[A Cat in a Minefield]

@Dread First If you fall for temptation easily get something you carry with you that you can associate directly with your faith. It doesn't have to be something religious, it could be something like a bracelet or a ring - something you can constantly see. Orthodox Jews use tassels at the sides of their garments to constantly remember the commands of the Lord.

Numbers 15:37-41
37 The Lord said to Moses, 38 “Speak to the Israelites and say to them: ‘Throughout the generations to come you are to make tassels on the corners of your garments, with a blue cord on each tassel. 39 You will have these tassels to look at and so you will remember all the commands of the Lord, that you may obey them and not prostitute yourselves by chasing after the lusts of your own hearts and eyes. 40 Then you will remember to obey all my commands and will be consecrated to your God. 41 I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt to be your God. I am the Lord your God.’”

Personally reading the Bible does it for me, but I would be lying if I would not feel the pull of temptation too, from time to time. Stay strong! (And don't forget, that He has come to die for our sins. Fucking up is normal, what counts is that we do our best to pursue and live in righteousness!)

 

[The Stranger]

If you fall for temptation easily get something you carry with you that you can associate directly with your faith. It doesn't have to be something religious, it could be something like a bracelet or a ring

I can attest to this. 9 years ago in the Marines my Sergeant Major got the whole platoon together and gave everyone an " honor, courage, commitment card" (our core values). The point is to leave it in our wallet and whenever we may be about to do something stupid we'd see it peeking out and be reminded to stay on the straight and narrow. I still have it to this day because it works.

 

[DickMain]

I think the bouquet advice is really sweet. I see florists at one of the local grocers as their own little section, is it as easy as just picking out an arrangement you think looks pretty? Or are there flower hacks like combinations of colors and aromas?

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

I think the bouquet advice is really sweet. I see florists at one of the local grocers as their own little section, is it as easy as just picking out an arrangement you think looks pretty? Or are there flower hacks like combinations of colors and aromas?

florists flowers rarely smell compared to flowers from gardens . But Idk about combinations usually florists help you with the choise .

 

[DickMain]

florists flowers rarely smell compared to flowers from gardens . But Idk about combinations usually florists help you with the choise .

I'd heard something about this with roses, where they're bred to be disease-resistant and colorful, but lose their aroma because of it. I guess that must be the same for other store-bought flowers too then?

 

[Justa Grata Honoria]

I'd heard something about this with roses, where they're bred to be disease-resistant and colorful, but lose their aroma because of it. I guess that must be the same for other store-bought flowers too then?

the ones they sell around here dont smell much compared to shit my grandparents grew

 

[Deezy]

I think the bouquet advice is really sweet. I see florists at one of the local grocers as their own little section, is it as easy as just picking out an arrangement you think looks pretty? Or are there flower hacks like combinations of colors and aromas?

You can ask your girl what kind of flowers she likes (if she has animals, it might be worthwhile to keep them in mind, too, as some flowers are very dangerous to cats and dogs), and other flowers do carry specific meanings and historical significance if you’re into that sort of thing.

but, imo, just picking flowers you think are pretty is a kind gesture that anyone would appreciate. A little thought goes a long way, y’know?

 

[DickMain]

You can ask your girl what kind of flowers she likes (if she has animals, it might be worthwhile to keep them in mind, too, as some flowers are very dangerous to cats and dogs), and other flowers do carry specific meanings and historical significance if you’re into that sort of thing.

but, imo, just picking flowers you think are pretty is a kind gesture that anyone would appreciate. A little thought goes a long way, y’know?

Oh, I'm not seeing anybody at the moment, I only just recently started actually using dating apps (I had to be convinced here a few months ago to even download one; and even then the gal next door had to nudge me into actually using it and setting it up), but I will definitely keep it in mind. Never knew that about some flowers being dangerous for critters (I'd known of some kind of berries for cats I think). Happy that it went well for Otis earlier this page though. Surgery can be scary. My father's partner is actually going through the loss of a parent right now, so I think I'll do the same and pick some up.

 

[Big Miss Steak]

Or are there flower hacks like combinations of colors and aromas?

If someone has pets, just tell the florist you can't have any flowers in the arrangement that are toxic to pets. Some florists have websites where you can pick out an arrangement and have it delivered to a specific address, but if you want to be more particular you will either need to call or go in person.

idk if you're talking about some meaning arising from different flower combinations. There are flower codes, but 99.9% of the population knows absolutely nothing about them, and the codes are quite flexible and even contradictory. Would anyone know that, by gifting them a white poppy and a sprig of yellow acacia, you were telling them that they were oblivious to a secret love? Perhaps even an affair occurring under their nose? No. Especially since, according to other codes, those flowers/plants mean different things. Just ask a florist for guidance if you need it. Ex. certain flowers or colors might be inappropriate for a funeral.

 

[DickMain]

idk if you're talking about some meaning arising from different flower combinations.

Naw, I had just meant combinations that are pretty, like color-coordinating them and such. I'm no green thumb so I would probably put together some monstrosity that I thought looked rather nice but ends up looking like a mess lol

I didn't even know there was any of this sort of florist astrology going on, to be honest.

 

[PonderosaPete]

Same, honestly. I just don't know what to say. But I found it to be a good rule of thumb. If she hasn't replied after two messages after a couple of days she ghosted you. And generally I found that if she is actually interested she'll text you anyways.

I get excited when meeting new people but sometimes feel like I've typed out too much in response. Admittedly, I'm not romantically interested in her, but it's been wonderful getting to know someone so hardworking and earnest. In saying that, I really don't want to bother her too much!

Gauging from your posts I think you have a lot of really interesting things to say. You'd be great to have a conversation with! Maybe you're just having some difficulty limiting your options on where to begin? Too many choices can lead to decision paralysis. I do that to myself sometimes. So to breakout I just say the first thing that comes to mind. I'm not saying the results are refined but I find it's a good way to get the ball rolling.