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baron harkonnen said:
it's just too sad to watch someone throw their youth away.
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Throw the whole man away. I'm not kidding. This is a mess.

You're letting compassion and guilt (which may be codependency ...or something else) get in the way of your life.

He may be nice or sweet sometimes or whatever, but he has problems and you're letting them be yours - and you have your own to contend with. Burning your energy on someone else instead of putting it to use for your own needs is a recipe for disaster.

I mean, I'm assuming you don't actually think a man who masturbates all day, kinda sorta wants to be a girl bc he can't think of anything better to do, and can't hold a job is a good bet for a healthy future.
baron harkonnen said:
The fact that what I really want is for him to thrive as a person seems like it's killing him, since he just can't seem to do it.
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You are enmeshed. Stop wasting your time. And it is a waste of time that is only harming you. You need help with yourself, not to pour your energy into an unfunctional grown man. If he's drowning, he will pull you down with him.
 
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baron harkonnen said:
I just can't help and it's just too sad to watch someone throw their youth away.
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'Youth' is a lot longer than it might seem, and there's a lot of development we go through once we're out on our own. I might be wrong, but I'm assuming that you're both in your early twenties. There are some things around that age that are easier to get done, like getting into school and securing a future for yourself. If you've got decent parents who are willing to take care of you while you work and/or do school, then definitely take advantage of that. I say this as somebody who was (sort of) in your boyfriend's position earlier in my life. When I was coasting off savings out of high school wacking off all day she, surprisingly, did not appreciate coming home from school/work while I wasn't putting effort into a future that she saw value in. Shockingly she dumped me.

Really sit down and think about what kind of future this person is helping secure for the both of you. Is his jerking off a dozen times a day in some tranny cord helping either of you get into stable jobs, get into a house, further your education? If you're both young like I think then know that most of us do dumb shit with those years and piss a lot of time away. Sometimes we have to learn these things the hard way, and it might be time for him to have a wakeup call in life to get off his ass and work. He's never going to have that opportunity if he's able to coast off of you doing all of the work.

You've already had your wakeup call seeing his behavior from the outside. He's throwing his time away now, but he's got plenty of it left, and so do you. But you don't have to waste it with him if he clearly doesn't care to invest in you. It's a two-way street, and you don't deserve to waste these years of your life on somebody who doesn't care to invest in his own.
 
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baron harkonnen said:
Basically he is a really nice and respectful partner who takes care of me in lots of ways and is generally attentive and loving, but his porn addiction, depression, and lack of life direction are just so, so bad he can't function as a person anymore. He went from holding down a normal job to quitting it and masturbating like 4-5 hours a day. He won't go to a therapist because he quit his job and doesn't have health insurance anymore, and hasn't applied to a job in like six months or figured out what he wants to do with his life (as a 24 year old). I've tried so much to help him but nothing works. He won't put any effort into treating himself well, and he is just full of despair and self-hatred that he can't manage it. It's extremely sad and I can't feel anything but pity, guilt, and sadness?

I think he's transitioning basically because he thinks being a pretty/hot/confident/powerful futa woman from his porn comics will make him a happy/confident person. But it's obviously not working and estrogen is making him look sick.
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You literally cannot leave fast enough. A nice and respectful partner wouldn't sit around jobless beating his meat for 4 - 5 hours a day.

missnaptime said:
does anyone know how to clear up hormonal acne? i realise this is a very silly thing, but i'm in my 20's and i'm really sick of getting persistent acne and i'd quite like to get rid of it, or at least keep it at bay. if any of you have any recommendations or tips on what worked for you; i'd be indebted!
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How do you know it's hormonal? Are you a woman and it comes and goes with your cycles? If you're male and over your early 20s then it's likely not hormonal. I personally would rule out diet and skincare before turning to medication. That said, none of those lifestyle changes helped me much, and I ended up going on isotretinoin.
 
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grenouille crétine said:
How do they do it? Is the male simply naturally gifted in this regard?
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It's a mixture of three things: men sweat more, men's sweat has more smell, and men have poorer hygiene standards for both body and clothes.

Only the first of these three has an advantage as men's bodies are better at reulating heat.

Women's appreciation or repulsion to different smell also changes according to hormones, as women on or off birth control pill, as well as pregnant or non pregnant prefer different men's sweat, or so some studies say.
 
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Big Miss Steak said:
YesYou literally cannot leave fast enough. A nice and respectful partner wouldn't sit around jobless beating his meat for 4 - 5 hours a day


How do you know it's hormonal? Are you a woman and it comes and goes with your cycles? If you're male and over your early 20s then it's likely not hormonal. I personally would rule out diet and skincare before turning to medication. That said, none of those lifestyle changes helped me much, and I ended up going on isotretinoin.
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Big Miss Steak said:
You literally cannot leave fast enough. A nice and respectful partner wouldn't sit around jobless beating his meat for 4 - 5 hours a day.


How do you know it's hormonal? Are you a woman and it comes and goes with your cycles? If you're male and over your early 20s then it's likely not hormonal. I personally would rule out diet and skincare before turning to medication. That said, none of those lifestyle changes helped me much, and I ended up going on isotretinoin.
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Yes, it comes and goes with my cycles :(

Will look into seeing how I can change my diet and if anything helps mitigate it! <3
 
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baron harkonnen said:
He went from holding down a normal job to quitting it and masturbating like 4-5 hours a day. He won't go to a therapist because he quit his job and doesn't have health insurance anymore, and hasn't applied to a job in like six months or figured out what he wants to do with his life (as a 24 year old)
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SIX MONTHS. You can set-up a freelance job, get some minor diploma, do an internship in that time. What a waste of time. It's not like it's impossible to work even if depressed and if you truly can't work, you figure out a way to worl on yourself instead.

He's only doing it because he knows you find it hard to move on. The most painful thing will be that he quickly changes what he's doing when you stop enabling him. It'll make you realize he could have done that at anytime.
 
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Fapcop said:
WHAT DA FUCK!!?

Would you accept this if it was a heroin habit?
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I would have more respect if it was a heroin habit, because the nigger would have to hustle to get enough cash to fund a major habit. He would be a significantly more productive and motivated individual. Also, many people successfully quit heroin, but anyone who touches their dick for five hours a day will never stop unless you cut their fucking hands off.
 
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Benzo Samurai said:
i want gf, im nice, but im wild
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Dont make me tap the sign buddy

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isalaide said:
I would have more respect if it was a heroin habit, because the nigger would have to hustle to get enough cash to fund a major habit. He would be a significantly more productive and motivated individual. Also, many people successfully quit heroin, but anyone who touches their dick for five hours a day will never stop unless you cut their fucking hands off.
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True.

If you manage to break an opiate habit, you at least have picked up some very useful life skills along the way. And not just talking about where to fence a laptop.

@baron harkonnen good luck! Seems like you’re perfectly aware at some level of how fucked up this situation is, so not going to harp on that. But if you feel like sharing some more, you know where to find us.

If breaking up is a problem, have you ever considered watching him goon to porn for hours at a time? Like set up a camera or something.

Not a wahmen, so can’t know for sure, but I’d imagine a guy sitting and chasing cummies for five hours while looking at other women would be a pretty big ick.
 
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BongoMongo said:
OMG have you any tips for quitting biting please? Smoking was a doddle to can compared to this.
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I kept them trimmed quite short, if there wasn't enough to bite I wouldn't. I also used to bite them especially bad when I was anxious noticing this trigger helped me consciously focus on not biting them, and somewhat actually helped with my anxiety. I also just tried to keep my hands busy whenever I could, fidgeting with my phone or hair. Once I didn't really feel the urge to bite my nails It was easier to drop the fidgeting, and just less gross.
 
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