You claim charity hasn't helped you, but if not for charitability, you WOULD BE DEAD, guaranteed.
And you speak so much shit about manajerk, but seriously if you make an ITEMIZED LIST of pros and cons, even being as brutally cynical as you, if you are HONEST, you can see this ISN'T true, when you say he was NEVER kind and respectful.
Here, ill do it for you.
Pros : Thinks you need a friend. Helps buy food, offers rides, took you to cons, probably ton more unmentioned
Cons: fat, alchoholic (maybe?), christian (which is ironic since I believe him being christian helped him DO the pros, but whatever)
So even if you WANT to harp over and over about hes a "fat alchoholic christian" and lets say you even ARE 100% right about the drinking being horribly excessive, he STILL helped you with rides, and food. And WHY would he do this? objectively, because he was being KIND, he was not coerced, he was not ordered by court, he was not intimidated by you, he felt BAD for you, and offered his own resources TO YOU, being kind, and you spit in his face and now have the NERVE to say he "wasn't kind".
And I can only determine 2 ways why you WOULD say that, 1 : you think anyone who helps you is just STUPID, and kindness doesn't actually exist, its all just dummies, OR that kindness means being your slave, or 2, you are so damn BITTER that you'd rather say that to spite him than ever admit you fucked up.
So tell me, what would this "kindness" look like to you, OR, is it just bitterness?