Disclaimer: I am young and fully aware that this story is, in some ways, a result of youthful inexperience. Feel free to laugh at me for this, just please be kind.
I (21ftm) was at a party where I met a friend of a friend (35m) and we got to talking. Went out to his truck for a cigarette, and in talking about being queer (he expressed he was bisexual with a preference for women) I told him I was trans. He expressed that it would be "fun to get me off" and spoke to me as a man the whole time. He talked a bunch of shit about how he can go for hours and his dick would change my life, but I honestly just wanted some good sex, so I went and met him at his place.
Within the first couple of minutes, he told me to take my binder off and "show him my t*ts." Throughout intercourse, he called me "good girl" multiple times and told me I "sing like a woman." He also said at one point "I can't see your beard in the dark, so that's a plus." He did not touch my clit one time and I came nowhere close to orgasm. He fell asleep shortly after his orgasm, and I left feeling angry, disgusted, and completely unsatisfied.
I want to make it very clear that I understand each person is responsible for their own orgasm during sex, it's no one's job to make you cum. I also understand that at any point I could have called stop, but I felt a sense of obligation once I had started. My question for fellow trans people is this: is this normal? Is it normal to be suddenly misgendered during sex by someone who has been fully respectful of you up to that point? Is it something you have to just accept if you want to sleep with cis people? Seriously considering going t4t only because of this.
EDIT: I have evidently been fed bad information regarding the "each person is responsible for their own orgasm" statement, so I retract that in full. Thank you to everyone for all of your advice and support!
