Strange things women do/have/endure - That guys wouldn’t know about

[the rat]

Niche issue, but I'm struggling to name my expected daughter and finding a nice decent name that hasn't been stolen by trannies is becoming more and more of a struggle. Maybe tranny derangement syndrome, but I look askance at any Zoeys, Athenas, Minervas, Chloes, Lunas, Liliths, etc I see in online spaces until they're a proven True & Honest woman.

Personally I'd just say fuck it and name her whatever you want regardless if it's popular with trannies or what since you're fucked either way when it comes to something they like to use (which is a lot of fucking things), like fuck them Chloe is a good name and I'm not letting some faggot pervert ruin it, you know?

Maybe Alice? I think it is a nice name.

I've unfortunately been sexualized without my consent so much that it appears to have screwed up my brain and have difficulty trusting people now and feel extremely uncomfortable in certain situations. I also have difficulty taking care of myself and feel quite uncomfortable at the idea of making myself look more attractive due to fear of it occurring again.

But see, if you think about it in a 360 degrees roundabout 8D chess mastermind view, it's actually YOUR fault for dressing like a whore or some gay shit. Enjoy the beheading then rape, inshallah child.

 

[Mandy Stroyer]

I'm going to underline again how early the sexualization of your body occurs.

I often see it touted as ages 14-18, so you know, prime puberty years. Every woman I know marks it below 8, and there's a noticeable decrease in catcalling by 16/17.

And how people will train and teach you when you're very young in an attempt to lessen the amount of sexualization that will occur. Keep your legs closed, make sure everything is long and is not see through. Check to see if someone can see through your dress if you're in the sunlight. If so wear a slip. Are you showing too much cleavage? Are bra straps being seen? Quick, wear something on top.

This starts so young, before there's even "anything to look at" which confirms my above reply. It's as if people are aware the sexualization goes this young and it's the child's responsibility to not appear "tempting" when the only "tempting" thing about them to predators is that they are defenseless. Men do not care what you're wearing, what age you are, if you're even human. None of that has ever stopped them. Recess monitors and church goers alike would tell girls as young as 6 not to do cartwheels, handstands, or run around too much because the boys might get a glimpse of their flat chest or disney princess print pull-up. And god forbid you're older and dare to show signs that you have armpit hair or a training bra, because of the implications. There were 12 year olds being referred to as easy sluts by their peers for even implying they were wearing a bra because that means you have b-b-boobs!

I've unfortunately been sexualized without my consent so much that it appears to have screwed up my brain and have difficulty trusting people now and feel extremely uncomfortable in certain situations.

The same started very early for myself and I would've called it a NLOG phase were it not out of the need for male disapproval rather than the opposite. Doing anything feminine felt like putting a target on my back and I'd much rather have negative attention from girls for being a weird dorky pseudo-lesbian than negative male attention in any form. I still don't like being alone in any setting with a man unless it is in a busy public area.

I also have difficulty taking care of myself and feel quite uncomfortable at the idea of making myself look more attractive due to fear of it occurring again.

If a woman doesn't shave her legs and a man isn't around to tell her it's unattractive, will she still shave "for herself"? I don't ask myself if I'm attractive to anyone, that thought only crosses my mind when the consequences of a "yes" are negative. Ask yourself if you're comfortable, clean, if your skin is too dry, do you need lotion? If your hair is tangled, do you need to comb it out? If your nails are getting too long, do you need to clip them? It should never be about what's attractive to other people, it should be that you are taking care of yourself and making yourself comfortable in your skin. Not hairless from the neck down, caked in make up, and wearing a frilly little number. That isn't taking care of yourself, that's taking care of men's feelings. I can't control if men find my leg hair and Adam Sandler outfits attractive but I can deter most by just not caring if they don't. There is nothing more unattractive to men than not giving a shit about what they like.

 

[NoReturn]

I've only read up to p7 so rate me late please or tarded.
im past me reproductive years and now on HRT, and ive come across a new issue "down there". sometimes when I sneeze im starting to wet myself slightly and clenching my pelvic floor muscles for dear life. I thought I had good control but not so much.
ive got these balls to pop up there, that exercise the pelvic floor, but im too afraid to use them

Don't be scared, they're just weights for a muscle.
Also, what's your normal workout routine? There are things you can do that strengthen those muscles without being direct support (like how overhead presses can work your legs, too).

 

[weegrumpy]

Don't be scared, they're just weights for a muscle.
Also, what's your normal workout routine? There are things you can do that strengthen those muscles without being direct support (like how overhead presses can work your legs, too).

Well, again I’m power leveling, but I’ve also got arthritis in my hips, and I’m scared of putting them up, coz me n mr grumpy haven’t had nookie for 5 years coz of er other issues.
don’t get me wrong, he’s my best fren, and still love him but I guess the fire has gone. Hey hoo
so I’m scared of those wee ball weights getting stuck I know imma dumb.

 

[NoReturn]

so I’m scared of those wee ball weights getting stuck I know imma dumb.

It's not dumb to consider your own personal medical situation when making fitness decisions. If you have concerns about things like that, maybe talk to your OBGYN directly?

 

[weegrumpy]

It's not dumb to consider your own personal medical situation when making fitness decisions. If you have concerns about things like that, maybe talk to your OBGYN directly?

Well you’re right, PL again I work in out patients and I’ve done a lot of urogyn clinics, so I’ve got the info at hand.
call me old fashioned but I’m still of that mindset even in this day and age that women just need to suck it up and just get on with it. I’m just practicing the old pelvic floor stuff, just getting 5 seconds before I have to stop. I’m going to keep on trying, I’ve nursed long enough to see the outcome if I don’t.
edit
: also thanks for your kindness, I just want you lovely kiwilassies to know what may be instore for you in the future, and always to be mindful of what happens in the old menopause time. One bonus is no more periods yahoo!

 

[Kung Pow Cream]

I often see it touted as ages 14-18, so you know, prime puberty years. Every woman I know marks it below 8, and there's a noticeable decrease in catcalling by 16/17

Yeah for me, the correction started happening around 6, I think. The first time I got incredibly leered at was in my teens. I actually got catcalled more post 18 but I think that was because I was outside more due to taking the bus and such. There was even a time where someone random stranger literally stopped their car and tried to convince me to get in with them.

Even after all this time, I still get confused and worried about what to wear especially in the summer because I'm trying to not die from heat stroke but I also don't want people approaching me. It's to the point where I never wore exercise leggings to do a run outside unless I was wearing shorts on top. It took me years to eventually remove the shorts and I did it only once.

 

[Imp]

Even after all this time, I still get confused and worried about what to wear especially in the summer because I'm trying to not die from heat stroke but I also don't want people approaching me. It's to the point where I never wore exercise leggings to do a run outside unless I was wearing shorts on top. It took me years to eventually remove the shorts and I did it only once.

40 years ago (old) I started a summer intern job in a steel mill. My co worker told me to wear a light jacket that covered my butt (exact quote) any time I was out on the production floor. I did and never had any leering or cat calling. My female cousin worked an office job there so maybe I was granted family status of hands off?

I was so naive that I thought no one 'old' was ever going to be interested in my because I was never interested in them. You have to remember no easy porn then, only girlie mags and maybe a dirty cinema in the nearest large city. I don't know how I survived my naivety back then. My husband mentioned a vibrating butt plug for some reason while we were still dating and I didn't believe it was a real thing. I figured he had made it up (totally in character) and he still teases me about not believing him when I found out it was a real thing in my 30s ish.

 

[Gay Mouth]

I think the problem with tranny names is they always pick modern baby names

They pick names that imply sexuality, rebellion, and uniqueness. Mythologically & biblically significant but “bad” characters. Unusual spellings. Lilith, Zephyr, Alyss, Luna, Judith.

You don’t have to worry about your baby daughter struggling with a “tranny” name in the future because trannies name themselves, instead of their mothers naming them. Mothers name their children pretty, feminine names that they can picture both their infant being cute in and their daughter growing into as a successful human being.

Trannies desert not only their innate nature, but the name their own mothers gave them. When they “adopt” a “feminine” gender, they do so though the male gaze, so instead of a name that implies all the innocent hope of what their mother dreamed for them, their name is wished into existence through the paradigm of lust and the lack of female kinship.

I went with classic Roman names think Julia Claudia Cecilia Aurelia Cornelia Fabia Lucretia and so on.

Personally I'd just say fuck it and name her whatever you want regardless if it's popular with trannies or what since you're fucked either way when it comes to something they like to use (which is a lot of fucking things), like fuck them Chloe is a good name and I'm not letting some faggot pervert ruin it, you know?

I know a lot of big families with lots of girls, and a theme often emerges. All the girls are named after jewels, flowers, shades, alliteration or rhyming or a culture guides the process.

Penny
Ruby
Scarlet
Ginger

Isabella
Gianna
Maria
Magdalena

Rose
Lily
Poppy
Daisy

Kristen
Kayla
Kylie
Kimberly

Pearl
Jewel
Cristal
Opal

I could go on and on. Women’s names are usually up to their mothers, and usually have some integral reason to have come to be. And even when they aren’t especially significant- why should some asshole being named your dream baby name stop you?

I often see it touted as ages 14-18, so you know, prime puberty years. Every woman I know marks it below 8, and there's a noticeable decrease in catcalling by 16/17

There was even a time where someone random stranger literally stopped their car and tried to convince me to get in with them.

I was the most harassed on the street between the ages of 11-16. By 12 most females have to learn the polite brush off.

call me old fashioned but I’m still of that mindset even in this day and age that women just need to suck it up and just get on with it.
You think other women should just suck it up? You are starting to pee yourself when you have to clench your pelvic floor, and this distresses you, but you resent other women wallowing in their own pain and discomfort?

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

Yeah for me, the correction started happening around 6, I think. The first time I got incredibly leered at was in my teens. I actually got catcalled more post 18 but I think that was because I was outside more due to taking the bus and such. There was even a time where someone random stranger literally stopped their car and tried to convince me to get in with them.

You guys live in a crazy country or alternatively I must have been one ugly fuck as a child because I never experienced this

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

You guys live in a crazy country or alternatively I must have been one ugly fuck as a child because I never experienced this

You might've not noticed it

 

[isalaide]

I've only read up to p7 so rate me late please or tarded.
im past me reproductive years and now on HRT, and ive come across a new issue "down there". sometimes when I sneeze im starting to wet myself slightly and clenching my pelvic floor muscles for dear life. I thought I had good control but not so much.
ive got these balls to pop up there, that exercise the pelvic floor, but im too afraid to use them

You know you need to see your GP or whoever is prescribing your HRT to tell them this to see if a dose change will help.

Also, don't be fobbed off with the continence clinic, there are pelvic physio services and you can get referred to eventually see them. I was fucking paranoid about this and went for pelvic physio privately after every kid. It is good. I have a bit of lingering nerve damage that causes random and fucking painful spasm and the exercises for that really help. They do make you do a lot of exercises which are different from the standard Kegels so those alone are not the only thing available.

Older friends tell me the new(ish) Tena pants which are thin and 'like real pants' are great for the odd wee stress leak and have helped their confidence a lot.

It's shite being female, to paraphrase Irvine Welsh, but there are things available. They are both badly advertised and often a bit expensive, but I want to put the years of peeing my pants off as long as I can. Good luck.

 

[hotpocalypse]

The back of the bra is incredibly uncomfortable imo.

 

[PandaChai]

Would you ever consider going back to bodies/stays/corsets?

 

[NoReturn]

Would you ever consider going back to bodies/stays/corsets?

Corsets weren't all that bad, especially since most clothing at the time they were popular was made to your specific measurements and most of what people were wearing weren't the waist-cinchy things.
Stays are fully boned, so that would be uncomfy.
Jumps were comfy, but because they were comfy they were immoral.

https://thedreamstress.com/2013/08/terminology-whats-the-difference-between-stays-jumps-a-corsets/

Learn more

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNwTqanp0Aw

 

[2mm and 99 others]

I'd say all the issues with boned corsets and such were a rich lady problem that was fairly irrelevant to the most of women. The working ones had some plain vest or bodice with lacing on sides or in the front, and a fancy embroidered version of the same thing to wear at festivities and such. Look up folk costumes from any euro country and you get the idea.
Thinking everyone wore a boned corset back in the day is a survivorship bias, because those things were most likely to get preserved, also there was no need for warnings before ordinary woman's everyday attire.

 

[Otterly]

the LONG CHILD

Oh man, the inability to name the thing. You know, the thing, that does the stuff. With the whatsit, by the thingy. I used to laugh at my mum for doing this and now I do it.
Or when you mean one child and reel off the names of the other and a cat before theirs because you cannot get the word in your mind.
I swear this started happening to me after I stopped doing the times cryptic
I feel like that Gary Larson cartoon with the kid with his hand up in class saying ‘please may I be excused? My brain is full.’

 

[PandaChai]

Corsets weren't all that bad, especially since most clothing at the time they were popular was made to your specific measurements and most of what people were wearing weren't the waist-cinchy things.
Stays are fully boned, so that would be uncomfy.
Jumps were comfy, but because they were comfy they were immoral.
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https://thedreamstress.com/2013/08/terminology-whats-the-difference-between-stays-jumps-a-corsets/

Learn more

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNwTqanp0Aw

Aye, s'why I asked. I've both watched on the 'tube and known personally people who prefer those older forms of bust (and garment) support over the too often uncomfortable and overengineered brassierres of today.

 

[NoReturn]

Aye, s'why I asked. I've both watched on the 'tube and known personally people who prefer those older forms of bust (and garment) support over the too often uncomfortable and overengineered brassierres of today.

Your boobs also determine what's going to be most comfy. Size and shape are better served by custom fits than a one-shape-fits-all approach.
Also sister sizes are bullshit.

 

[𝕺𝖑' 𝕯𝖎𝖗𝖙𝖞 𝕱𝖆𝖙𝖘𝖔]

I'd say all the issues with boned corsets and such were a rich lady problem that was fairly irrelevant to the most of women. The working ones had some plain vest or bodice with lacing on sides or in the front, and a fancy embroidered version of the same thing to wear at festivities and such. Look up folk costumes from any euro country and you get the idea.
Thinking everyone wore a boned corset back in the day is a survivorship bias, because those things were most likely to get preserved, also there was no need for warnings before ordinary woman's everyday attire.

Folk costumes were still only a 19th century invention due to the idea of romantic nationalism and national symbols gaining popularity. Most poor women historically wore simpler and less embellished versions of what rich women wore which honestly still is the case today with designer vs fast fashion garments.

By the late 19th century you had mass produced corsets which poorer women also wore, often with a mass produced shirtwaist (blouse), apron and skirt.

As an aside, the idea that a woman's ankle was scandalous is annoying because working women often wore shorter mid calf length skirts for practicality.