Trans Kids Are Facing a Terrifying New Reality - The nationwide drive to eliminate gender-affirming care has trans youth and their families contemplating a series of agonizing choices.

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Last December, then–US Solicitor General Elizabeth Prelogar and ACLU attorney Chase Strangio stood before the justices of the Supreme Court to argue against Tennessee’s ban on gender-affirming care for minors.


The case, United States v. Skrmetti, seeks to address Tennessee Senate Bill 1, which prohibits “a minor to identify with, or live as, a purported identity inconsistent with the minor’s sex” or to treat “purported discomfort or distress from a discordance between the minor’s sex and asserted identity.” Prelogar and Strangio—the first openly trans lawyer ever to argue a case at the Supreme Court—told the justices that Tennessee’s law violated the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment.

Outside the court, thousands of trans youth, community activists, and families marched and rallied. Efforts were coordinated in large part by the Gender Liberation Movement, cofounded by veteran LGBTQ+ activists Eliel Cruz and Raquel Willis. Soon after the protests subsided, Cruz and about 30 others staged a bathroom sit-in at Capitol Hill. “We understood the stakes, but we also understood the lengths that the government will go to to eliminate trans people from public spaces,” Cruz explained.

The conservative war on trans people was well underway when the protest took place. Since then, things have become exponentially worse, with the Trump administration all but attempting to drive trans people, and trans care, out of existence. Conservative—and, increasingly, Democratic—politicians and talking heads parrot tropes about trans people as a public threat in bathrooms, sports arenas, and libraries. At the legislative level, bills barring transgender service in the military and mandates of one’s assigned gender on their passport are far more than symbolic. Their justifications always sing a familiar tune: that we must “protect women and children,” and that promoting or even acknowledging trans people in the public eye is somehow antithetical to that virtue.

Gender-affirming care for minors is often at the heart of these attacks. Apart from Trump’s efforts at the federal level, 27 states have either restricted or banned gender-affirming care for trans kids; these laws affect an estimated 40 percent of all trans youth in America. Many of the new bills policing procedures like hormone-blocking implants are based on erroneous scientific claims, and ignore that gender-affirming care early on in one’s life can be foundational and life-saving—something well-substantiated by medical literature.

This landscape has forced trans kids and their families to confront an increasingly chilling new reality: one where the care they need is either out of reach or in danger of being cut off.

Daniel Trujillo, a high school senior in Tuscon, Arizona, was at the December rally. He is no stranger to advocating on behalf of trans people. By the time he was 9, he was going to lobby legislators at the Arizona State Capitol. (On one occasion, Daniel passed state Senator Rosanna Gabaldón a sticky note with a message, urging that he be treated like a human being.) Since then, he’s found spaces in which he’s affirmed. “Tuscon is a little blue bubble in a big old Red state,” he told me “We have a lot of community here.” In fact, Tucson became one of the first places with a citywide nondiscrimination policy in the 1970s, with trans people added to the policy 20 years later.

Daniel’s mother, Lizette, had always been an impassioned activist but never expected to become an advocate for trans youth before she had her son. “We began seeing gender incongruence when he was around 2 and a half, but it took us time to figure out the best path forward to affirm him,” she said. As anti-trans rhetoric has become more intense in the past few years, she said, Daniel has gone from a self-proclaimed “shy little kid” to bearing a heavy-felt sense of responsibility. “We drive to a different school district which we were told had really great nondiscriminatory policies,” she said.

Though Lizette and her husband initially thought themselves to be one of the only sets of parents of a trans kid in Arizona, their family has been judicious about finding a fostering statewide and national community. “The December rally almost felt like a family reunion,” Daniel said.

Lisette and Daniel are preparing for every possible outcome of the Skrmetti decision, which legal experts speculate will be handed down in June. Lizette maintained that the number-one focus is ensuring a supportive environment for her son. “To have the government step in and strip him of care feels really cruel.… You hear these statistics about suicidality and wonder how people are finding a continuation of care outside of their state,” she said. Luckily, Lizette continued, “Daniel has never struggled with suicidality because he’s been affirmed.”

One evening in 2021, Derrick Fielder’s wife shared the news that their 9-year-old child had come out to her the night before. “I think I’m supposed to be a boy,” Tallon had said.

From that moment, Derrick, who was deployed with the Iowa National Guard, and his wife confronted their own misconceptions about trans people, consulting medical professionals and parents of trans kids. Eventually, they began having real conversations around whether their son would be safe in Iowa. (The state banned gender-affirming care for minors in 2023, and this February, Governor Kim Reynolds signed a bill that removes state-level civil rights protections from trans and nonbinary people.) They decided to move to Tuscon.

After socially transitioning in late 2021, Tallon was able to begin hormone blockers under TriCare, the insurance provided by the US military. However, a funding resolution under the National Defense Authorization Act passed in December now bans TriCare from covering gender-affirming care for minors. The Fielders have a choice: attempt to switch to a potentially more costly private option, or stick with TriCare and be denied coverage entirely.

Meanwhile, Tallon wants to follow in the footsteps of his father. “He’s already eyeing the junior ROTC program,” Derrick said. But an executive order signed within the first week of Trump’s administration has moved to ban transgender troops from serving openly in the military.

Whereas some families are seeking out Blue oases to find affirmational spaces for their kin, others are wondering whether staying put might be the best option. In Hooksett, New Hampshire, Rosie’s 8-and-a-half-year-old daughter, Emily, who is nonbinary, attends a Montessori School and summer camp for gender-nonconforming and trans kids. New Hampshire, a Republican-leaning purple state, recently introduced a bill to bar trans people from bathrooms and locker rooms. The bill is a carbon copy of an anti-trans bill in 2024, which passed through the House and Senate but was vetoed by then–Republican Governor Chris Sununu. Some families of trans youth, including Rosie, have their contingency plans at the ready. “This might sound a bit alarmist, but Canada’s not far!” she told me half-jokingly. “Everything has become proactive. We had her name and passport changed, and are proactively getting a hormone blocker implant.… We don’t know if it’ll be available in the next six to nine months.

It’s difficult not to look at the US v. Skrmetti case as causing a similarly impossible situation for families as the rollback of Roe v. Wade did for thousands of women. In both cases, our nation’s vulnerable are being forced to make critical, lifesaving decisions across state lines, risking their health, financial security, and privacy. For some families of trans youth, this is a new and somewhat terrifying reality.
 
Live in fear for the rest of your miserable excuse for an existence. That, or take the easy way out. I'm fine with both.
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Daniel’s mother, Lizette, had always been an impassioned activist but never expected to become an advocate for trans youth before she had her son. “We began seeing gender incongruence when he was around 2 and a half, but it took us time to figure out the best path forward to affirm him,” she said. As anti-trans rhetoric has become more intense in the past few years, she said, Daniel has gone from a self-proclaimed “shy little kid” to bearing a heavy-felt sense of responsibility. “We drive to a different school district which we were told had really great nondiscriminatory policies,” she said.
HE'S 2 YEARS OLD, YOU FUCKING RETARD!

"Timmy's playing with the pink Fisher Price toys, so he must be a Tammy!"

You're pushing all this abstract bullshit on a kid who probably hasn't memorized the multiplication table yet. This is a failure of YOU AS A PARENT, and the doctors who agreed with you.
 
Daniel’s mother, Lizette, had always been an impassioned activist but never expected to become an advocate for trans youth before she had her son. “We began seeing gender incongruence when he was around 2 and a half, but it took us time to figure out the best path forward to affirm him,” she said. As anti-trans rhetoric has become more intense in the past few years, she said, Daniel has gone from a self-proclaimed “shy little kid” to bearing a heavy-felt sense of responsibility. “We drive to a different school district which we were told had really great nondiscriminatory policies,” she said.
Lizette Trujillo

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Lizette Trujillo is a Tucson small business owner and community advocate for transgender youth and families. A volunteer for the Southern Arizona Gender Alliance, Lizette is committed to bringing awareness to the rights and needs of families of transgender youth locally and nationally. Her local efforts have brought her national attention and she has served as a member of the Human Rights Campaign Parents for Transgender Equality National Council. Lizette is a proud mother to a transgender son, and enjoys being a mother above all else.


Lizette and Jose Trujillo
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One evening in 2021, Derrick Fielder’s wife shared the news that their 9-year-old child had come out to her the night before. “I think I’m supposed to be a boy,” Tallon had said.

From that moment, Derrick, who was deployed with the Iowa National Guard, and his wife confronted their own misconceptions about trans people, consulting medical professionals and parents of trans kids. Eventually, they began having real conversations around whether their son would be safe in Iowa. (The state banned gender-affirming care for minors in 2023, and this February, Governor Kim Reynolds signed a bill that removes state-level civil rights protections from trans and nonbinary people.) They decided to move to Tuscon.
Derrick Fiedler (they misspelled his surname) now works for Raytheon. What a surprise.
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Derrick and Ashly Olsen Fiedler
859 W Calle Ocarina
Sahuarita, AZ 85629
Hooksett, New Hampshire, Rosie’s 8-and-a-half-year-old daughter, Emily, who is nonbinary, attends a Montessori School
Rosie Emrich
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Rosie Emrich spent the weekend mulling over what she wanted to tell lawmakers on Monday.

For her third time testifying at the New Hampshire State House against transgender-related legislation in recent weeks, she was ready to oppose House Bill 377, which would ban puberty blockers and hormone therapy for minors. This time, though, something snapped for Emrich, a mom from Hooksett whose 8-year-old child is transgender.

She began to cry as she testified, telling members of the House Health, Human Services and Elderly Affairs Committee that she’s tired of coming to Concord to defend this issue.

“This is painful. I am tired, I am scared and I don’t want to do this anymore,” Emrich said through tears.

She went on to plead with lawmakers to leave children’s medical decisions up to their families and their doctors.
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While testifying against anti-trans healthcare bans, a piece of my testimony was quoted by the Concord Monitor and WMUR saying “Why would I want this for my child?” I want to be clear that what I never wanted for my child was the hate, vitriol and political attacks aimed at them and other trans, intersex and gender non-conforming people. My trans child has given our family a wonderful gift. We are more comfortable in our skins and in the ways we don’t meet impossible standards of the gender binary. We are more understanding and are more willing to seek to understand. We are fiercer and more likely to stand with those being marginalized and most importantly- we have more love because we have created an amazing community for ourselves. My child’s transness is a tiny part of who they are, and a part of them that I love deeply. Having a trans child is not what brought me to tears at the State House, having a trans child who is being demeaned, threatened and attacked by our local and federal government is. My child deserves to play sports, see books that reflect who they are, use a restroom in public without threat, have documentation that matches their name and pronouns, be safe in school, have access to the same medical care and live a long and happy life, just like other children.

Rosie Emrich

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Surprise surprise she is a therapist. With an edgelord hairdo all the she/theys are sporting. Hmm.


Rosie Emrich aka Rosemary Emrich aka Rose Banach
12 Doris Dr
Hooksett, NH 03106

Husband is Ian Emrich who is a "frozen foods specialist" at Whole Foods Market and other than that has little presence (online or otherwise, I'd imagine).
 
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