Gonna respectfully disagree with you, men can be extremely destructive energy vampires. I’m standing firm on this because my inner armchair psychiatrist is fairly convinced that Ian has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which is widely considered at least one scientific explanation for energy vampires.
Hear me out - I suspect he intended to use Anisa for his own ego. He dates a “girl next door” Twitch thot which he thinks is a win, slaps her in the her face on camera to show what a “man” he is (while smiling), and makes her do OF like a pimp to get that cow to earn him some money. On top of that, claims to never had empathy until 30, threw all his male friends under the bus when he did an image change to gain clout (only to apparently decide to do Content Cop again!), and literally is saying in front of his wife in public that he wants to open a brothel which is of course a form of using people. When I write this all out, you can just see how abnormal, immoral, and stupid it all is but that’s an NPD nigger for you! If Anisa was a nice girl without BPD, she would be the one with abuse victim face. Ian just miscalculated and got played hard.
I am more familiar with NPD energy vampirism than BPD. What I find interesting is that her looks and career plummeted along with him. Her looks being destroyed seemed 100% intentional to ruin Ian’s day, she doesn’t look tired or stressed but she definitely doesn’t look energized! So she also absorbed his life force and seems to have nothing to show for it. My best guess as to why, is that BPD people don’t have that driving goal or dream that most people have, so if they get extra energy/money/fame they don’t know what to do with it.
the truth for it is in the middle, they're both fuckin awful people and should be part of the kiwifarms required reading program for in/femcels to read about and go "actually im good, i think ill just j o 2-3 times a week (for prostate health and/or to help control yourself) and thank god/allah/my sheer willful luck i'm not married to a male or female hasan orbiter." the
biggest issue with relationships doesn't even require fancy armchair psychology or specific muh mentals, it's feedback loops along with more and more people (m & f) being dogshit retarded. example, stereotypical prince charming gets cheated on, then a. (less likely) moves on, separating his next partner from trauma and loving them as if has never been hurt, (wants to make sure people don't hurt like they did) or b. becomes some variant of andrew tate. said tate-ite then rapid fires partners, is an absolute dickbag, (wants the whole world to hurt like they do) and each one plays the roulette again, repeat. it's not gendered, it's not about men or women being more shit on average, same example works if you started with an absolute queen of a woman.
of course that's just in a average iq, normalized society, nowadays you start off with somewhere around 25% women focusing on instagram and makeup tutorials with a newborn who would gladly fuck around with anybody as long as they get away with it or justify it (muh mans can't satisfy me, no i will not even communicate my needs), 25% violent monkey man whore men, and somewhere around half of all men and women think hasan piker/ breadtube is the way and the truth. of course there's always plenty of great examples of men and women and relationships, a good if flawed mother, father, brother, sister, grandpa, grandma, if you're unfortunate enough then someone else's.
but no, if you separated idubbz and anisa, they both suck, nobody deserves them, and they seem to have no capability to change for the better or even be pitied for long because they're hypocritical retards that deserve each other. each gender does have biological/mental inclinations to doing retarded shit from ~caveman times but each individual is responsible for their actions. alternative is blaming one specific gender and joining the heman woman/man haters club, or when not biased, leads into recognizing your own gender has the same shit and hating biological life