Do things for them????? Aren't we always told that they only want to whine and gripe? Any time we start offering solutions they get mad and crash out even harder.
Yes but the lights remain on and garbage men take the trash from the curb regardless who puts it in the can, etc.
So they need it even if they don’t grasp someone’s doing it and themselves care about feelings themselves.
Spaces, once moralized, are nearly impossible to un-moralize. So don't forget why you're here in the first place, and don't let anybody convince you that your grief is less important.
This is fine. The problem is we need to become sophisticated moralizers and dismiss the children who interrupt when the men are talking.
Bluntly, to most people, "moral" is their emotional reaction to a sentence. Nothing more.
If you talk about right and wrong in abstract cases, to make rules that are general and categorical, so that things as best as possible for as many people as possible, including rules you would follow yourself, you're at least started on the way toward meaningful morality and meta-ethical conversation.
Why do I say this? Because it's time to advocate for your own values, interests, wants, needs, and desires, same as every other fucking person. Being socialized to take care of others and be a worker drone stifles you from reaching your true potential. It's not bad to want things or say "No, actually, I think my values are better than yours."
Basal people just go through the motions to fit in. Somewhat sophisticated but limited people might try to alter the social contract to suit themselves as much as they can and carefully build social capital within it to keep pushing the needle - and quietly remove old things they said during prior social contracts, like how old tweets come back to haunt people.
Most of the women we're complaining about (not all women, and likely far from the majority, mind you) are going to be "WHAT I WAAAAAANT" or "I changed the social contract, follow it." Or maybe "I redefined things so I'm good and you're evil."
As you can see, children and niggers are going to be basically at level I. Kinda slow people end up in level II. Level III is where you start having people think about social contracts, shrewd people say "oh I'll change the contract," and people who are actually smart and meaningfully moral start to think about principles that disregard consensus bullshit.
Let's look at the canonical example, the
Heinz dilemma.
Steal the fucking medicine or you're a goddamn faggot.