Culture 10 books that are dating red flags - Which titles would ring alarm bells for the Dazed team if we were to spot them on a date’s bookshelves?

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Reading is hot. As John Waters once said, “if you go home with somebody, and they don’t have books, don’t fuck them.” But what if you go home with somebody, and they do have books, but the sorts of books they have are a little… questionable? What if they only read Michel Houellebecq? What about a grown man whose shelves are filled with nothing but young adult fiction like the Percy Jackson series? Should you fuck somebody who says Holden Caulfield is their idol?

It goes without saying that liking Lolita does not make you a pedophile, nor does enjoying American Psycho mean you’re a violent misogynist. And I suppose there are worse things a person could do than enjoy reading fiction aimed at 12-year-olds. But I do still think our literary tastes – and, maybe more importantly, the way we interpret literature – can reveal a lot about our character. For example, if someone has read A Clockwork Orange as a blistering critique of the normalisation of state violence, I’m more inclined to fancy them than if they’ve come away from it thinking that beating up old men and killing women is cool, actually.

Which titles would ring alarm bells for the Dazed team if we were to spot them on a date’s bookshelves? Read on for our very serious list of ‘red flag’ books.

A CLOCKWORK ORANGE, ANTHONY BURGESS​

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A CLOCKWORK ORANGE

Set in the near future, Anthony Burgess’ 1962 novel A Clockwork Orange follows Alex, a 15-year-old juvenile delinquent, as he terrorises members of his local community with his equally thuggish friends. It raises interesting questions about free will (“Is a man who chooses to be bad perhaps in some way better than a man who has the good imposed upon him?”) and exposes the violence that is so often baked into the state; Alex is no hero – he’s a rapist and murderer – but, the novel asks, are the police officers and prison guards who beat and torture him into submission really any different? It’s a thought-provoking read and probably one of my favourite books, but if the person you’re dating thinks Alex is some kind of aspirational antihero, it’s safe to say you should probably run a mile. (SS)

THE CATCHER IN THE RYE, JD SALINGER​

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THE CATCHER IN THE RYE

The Catcher in The Rye follows 16-year-old protagonist Holden Caulfield as he mopes around New York after being expelled from an elite boarding school. It’s a classic coming-of-age story, but the novel isn’t a straightforward, maudlin tale of teen angst. It delves into themes ranging from alienation, to loneliness, to identity, to grief, while Holden is an extremely compelling narrator (if a little annoying, but what 16-year-old isn’t?). He’s since become a sort of patron saint for the disillusioned in the 60-odd years since the novel’s publication in 1951 – and unfortunately he’s been idolised by some pretty questionable people in that time, including Mark David Chapman, the man who shot and killed John Lennon, and more recently, incels. So, yeah, it’s no surprise the book has become regarded as a little red flaggy. Tread carefully if you spot the book on your situationship’s shelves. (SS)

THE ALCHEMIST, PAOLO COELHO​

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THE ALCHEMIST

I don’t know what this book is about, but an ex of mine used to bang on about it all the time and it was very annoying. (SS)

ANY SELF-OPTIMISATION BOOK

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THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK

I’ve always been perplexed by the idea that there are large numbers of obnoxious literary bros out there, bragging about having read Infinite Jest and terrorising the people around them with Jack Kerouac quotes. I have met a handful of men like that in my life, but they don’t exist as a meaningful constituency – most men simply don’t read fiction, if they read at all. If I met someone who loved Pynchon, DeLillo, Bolaño or any other author from the “dude bro” canon, I’d be more inclined to think of them as interesting than as pretentious.

So in terms of what would be a red flag for me, I’ll go with any kind of life-hack book, particularly if it is focused on financial success and doubly so if it has a swear word in the title (Sort Your F*cking Life Out: A Guide to Building Passive Income and Landlording Like a Boss.) If someone was really into books like this, I would assume they are boring, materialistic and vaguely right-wing, and that they would consider me lazy and unambitious, which is unfair: I might not have a property portfolio, but I have read Infinite Jest – for which I deserve great deal of admiration and respect. (JG)

PERCY JACKSON & THE OLYMPIANS, RICK RIORDAN

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PERCY JACKSON & THE OLYMPIANS

It should go without saying that, in 2025, Harry Potter is the ultimate red flag book. I don’t think everyone who shows up at Kings Cross for ‘Back to Hogwarts Day’ is transphobic, but it does indicate a certain indifference or obliviousness to the issue – as well as being deeply corny. But in recent years, as JK Rowling has become more vocal in her “gender-critical” views, I’ve noticed a parallel trend: people recommending the Percy Jackson series as a non-problematic alternative. Some fans have even tried to reframe these books as radical texts: Percy Jackson, they argue, encourages critical thinking and has much better themes of class solidarity. While Harry Potter becomes a cop, Percy Jackson is a revolutionary figure – a cross between the young Che Guevara and Luigi Mangione – who dismantles an unjust system. While Harry Potter sneers at Hermione’s efforts to emancipate the Hogwarts elves, Percy Jackson is committed to doing the work, holding himself accountable, and affecting meaningful change at a grassroots level.

And to those people I would say: you are not actually faced with a binary choice between Harry Potter and Percy Jackson. I’m sure the latter is a perfectly fine children’s series, although I remember reading the first one when I was, like, 11 and thinking “I’m too old for this.” I try not to be too snobbish about other people’s tastes in fiction, because I understand the appeal of reading purely for pleasure and I enjoy some very pulpy thrillers and crime novels myself (while I’m not into romance or fantasy, I get it.) But there are so many fun, easy, plot-driven books for adults, and I don’t really get why you’d opt instead for a series aimed at 9-12 year olds: apart from anything, I want a bit of sex and violence in my trashy fiction, maybe even some swear words if I’m feeling particularly risqué. It doesn’t make you a bad person, or stupid, or whatever, but I would struggle to feel any romantic or sexual desire towards a grown man whose favourite book was Percy Jackson. (JG)

AMERICAN PSYCHO, BRET EASTON ELLIS

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AMERICAN PSYCHO

American Psycho is a pretty good novel and I don’t think owning a copy is a red flag. However, if it was a straight man’s favourite book, that would give me pause… It’s a work of satire and the message obviously isn’t “misogyny is cool”, but it’s just so relentless, lurid and explicit in its depiction of violence against women, to the point where I would think, “why are you enjoying this so much??” I don’t believe in judging people for enjoying transgressive works of art, but that suspicion has been borne out to some extent by the ongoing reappraisal of both the novel and the film adaptation by the far-right. So if a man you’re dating loves American Psycho, just try to make sure this is due to its trenchant critique of consumer-capitalism, and not because he thinks Patrick Bateman is a based alpha giga-chad. (JG)

ANY BOOK BY MICHEL HOUELLEBECQ

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PLATFORM

If they can pronounce Michel Houellebecq’s last name without Googling it first, disengage immediately. Yes, the French author is an acclaimed bestseller in his homeland, hailed as a prophetic and darkly humorous chronicler of neoliberal decay, but the 2025 reader is just as likely to arrive at his work via a dangerous mix of Bret Easton Ellis recommendations, episodes of Red Scare, and vaguely right-wing meme pages. The most obvious entry point is his 1998 book Atomised – a nihilistic novel for the grown-up American Psycho reader – but 2001’s Platform, with its focus on sex tourism and rampant Islamophobia, is an even bigger and harder-to-justify red flag. (TW)

LOLITA, VLADIMIR NABOKOV

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LOLITA

Vladimir Nabokov’s Lolita is, arguably, one of the original Problematic Books. Many publishing houses turned it down before it was published in the 1950s, and who can blame them for not wanting to risk their reputation on an “erotic novel” about a grown man who kidnaps a 12-year-old girl? In 1955, it finally hit shelves thanks to a Paris publisher who specialised in “pornographic trash” and has regularly been named one of the best novels of all time ever since, plus a firm favourite of 2010s Tumblr girls and lascivious older guys. Relatedly: the 2010s also saw Bradley Cooper (38) read Lolita to Suki Waterhouse (21) in a public park, kicking off a seminal round of age-gap discourse. If the disgusted response is anything to go by, the book retains its ability to offend even decades after it was released, mostly because of how it romanticises the abusive relationship between Humbert Humbert and Dolores (AKA Lo, or Lolita).

But I’m going to put my neck on the line and say: that’s also why it’s kind of a masterpiece. Nabokov’s writing is so alluring, and often very funny, that for a moment we might forget the sordid acts we’re reading about and start to really enjoy ourselves – to lose sight of what we find morally reprehensible as we get lost in the author’s language games. Because of this, we’re repeatedly forced to confront the dangerous power of language and beauty in the wrong hands. At least, that was the thesis of my long-lost undergraduate dissertation. But yes, if you’re just reading Lolita and yearning for a Humbert-style road trip with a young ‘nymphet’... big, big red flag. (TW)

ALL ABOUT LOVE, BELL HOOKS

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ALL ABOUT LOVE

I actually don’t think All About Love is inherently a red flag book. But it can be alarming to many when certain people (men) have this book in their possession. When I think about All About Love, I think of that picture a guy took of himself on a beach reading it, and everyone commented that he was only on page one and was already taking pictures of himself 😭. All About Love has become associated with a kind of performance for men. It often sits on the corner of their desks collecting dust, but it’s there so that any potential romantic partner they bring home will be impressed by their supposed desire to engage with hooks’ work and better themselves. Beyond that, I know people have a lot of problems with All About Love, especially because hooks writes that love and abuse cannot coexist. When I first read the book at 17, that particular line triggered one of the worst mental breakdowns I’ve had to date. Now that I’m 25, I understand that what people write in books isn’t always fact and that they can be wrong.

In her essay Feminist Polemic Now! for Lux, Grace Byron writes about hooks as a feminist polemicist (a person who writes strongly worded, passionate, and confrontational arguments that may not always be right but always make us think, or rethink, the world around us). Byron writes: “Whether because she called Beyoncé a culture terrorist or said that love and abuse cannot coexist, these moments of polemical rhetoric force us to confront our own preconceived notions of girlbossery and intimate relationships.” And that’s why I love bell hooks so much! She may be a red flag to many (she was also a landlord, yikes), but she and her writing will always be a green flag to me. (HJ)

ANYTHING BY FYODOR DOSTOEVSKY​

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CRIME AND PUNISHMENT

If you’re seeing someone who is reading a book by Fyodor Dostoevsky, good news! They have a brain cell. The bad news, however, is that that brain cell is deficient in serotonin; this person likely takes themselves quite seriously, has a morose outlook on life, and struggles with chronic depression (at least, if they didn’t when they started it, they will have developed it by the time they’ve finished it). Obviously Dostoevsky’s books are some of the most profound explorations of the human condition in literature, delving into the nature of man, of God, of good, and of evil. But his characters are often spiralling into insanity of some description or contemplating a violent crime – so if the person you’re seeing says they relate to Rodion Raskolinov or Mitya Karazamov in any way, shape or form, run a mile. You have been warned. (TS)

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One of the great things about Dostoevsky is that he talks a lot about people just like OP & how bad they are for society. He called them "peasants", I like to say -2SD or retard. "People" so intellectually lacking that they perceive anything above their understanding as stupid.
OP said "men don't read fiction". That's because all fiction is degenerate erotica written by gooner cat women (see attachment)
On the bright side, if anyone ever asks about "Dunning-Kruger" simply refer them to OP.
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From winning at Wimbledon to doing porn....!
 
It raises interesting questions about free will (“Is a man who chooses to be bad perhaps in some way better than a man who has the good imposed upon him?”)
In all honesty I found it's tackling of these questions rather mundane and only really enjoyed the novel for its prose

ANY SELF-OPTIMISATION BOOK

Absolutely this is just the male equivalent of self-help books that have "burnout", "trauma", "boundaries", etc. in the title
PERCY JACKSON & THE OLYMPIANS, RICK RIORDAN
Correct again

to lose sight of what we find morally reprehensible as we get lost in the author’s language games. Because of this, we’re repeatedly forced to confront the dangerous power of language and beauty in the wrong hands
More insightful than anything I was expecting to read in this article really

AMERICAN PSYCHO, BRET EASTON ELLIS
Honestly I'll never read it only because I doubt it can be better than the movie

or Mitya Karazamov
It's a matter of perspective whether he's a based romantic or a retarded simp. I'd say Ivan is the bigger red flag
 
Set in the near future, Anthony Burgess’ 1962 novel A Clockwork Orange follows Alex, a 15-year-old juvenile delinquent, as he terrorises members of his local community with his equally thuggish friends. It raises interesting questions about free will (“Is a man who chooses to be bad perhaps in some way better than a man who has the good imposed upon him?”) and exposes the violence that is so often baked into the state; Alex is no hero – he’s a rapist and murderer – but, the novel asks, are the police officers and prison guards who beat and torture him into submission really any different? It’s a thought-provoking read and probably one of my favourite books, but if the person you’re dating thinks Alex is some kind of aspirational antihero, it’s safe to say you should probably run a mile. (SS)

I think a lot of people forget to read until the end. Alex grows up and grows out of his penchant for violence after his forced rehab torture session. He starts carrying a picture of a baby with him because he starts thinking he should start a family like normal people even though the reason confuses him. He runs into one of his old droogs who is now a corrupt cop who beats him in revenge for what an awful person he used to be even to his so-called friends. After Alex is rehabilitated no one wants him. His life sucks and he can't even listen to Beethoven anymore because he was conditioned to find it painful. I didn't sympathize with Alex until the end because what was done to him was inhumane and it still didn't make his life any better. If anyone thinks Alex is a cool antihero they must be crazy. He's a horrible murderous psycho who ends up completely broken and rejected by society despite being "fixed". It's a commentary about how fucked up the whole system is from top to bottom.

I think the weirdest thing I've ever read was Pontypool Changes Everything. And that's probably be pretty normie when compared to what else is out there.

It's not what's on people's shelves you should be worried about. It's how they conduct themselves. Real red flags would be if you found a stash of CP or beastiality.
 
It’s a thought-provoking read and probably one of my favourite books, but if the person you’re dating thinks Alex is some kind of aspirational antihero, it’s safe to say you should probably run a mile.
So wait, this lady actually likes A Clockwork Orange but literally believes other people who own the book think the antihero is someone to look up to? Just what kind of people has she (see below) been hooking up with?
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I doubt she's read any of these books herself, just looked up the synopses for each. And I don't need to see her shelf to know it's full of dogshit by Nicholas Sparks, James Patterson, Stephanie Meyer, and other trash of a similar nature.

most men simply don’t read fiction, if they read at all.

And this is why you will most assuredly die alone, with no one to mourn you but your fucking cats-and they'll just eat you.
 
At first you think "Oh it must be a meme list, there's no genuinely problematic classics or contemporary books" and then you realize it's because these authors have no experience with anything that isn't slop, and think Faulkner is what their ex is doing to his new girlfriend.
 
Imagine getting filtered by one of the greatest authors of all time. Russian authors are almost universally hopeful and concerned with redemption, Dostoevsky being one of them. You have to be a complete fucking troglodyte to think he's a doomer.
Dostoevsky is an incredible filter for people with low reading comprehension & just massive retards in general.
 
I dunno, I found "Catcher in the Rye" unbearably smarmy and annoying when I WAS a teenager and supposedly more likely to find it sympathetic. Anybody over 30 who waxes rhapsodicical over it would be a warning to me.

There's no middle ground with that book. Either you understand the character and love it or you find him to be a smarmy teenage dipshit and hate it.
 
Reading is hot. As John Waters once said, “if you go home with somebody, and they don’t have books, don’t fuck them.”
And there you have it: this isn't about what books are psychological red flags in potential mates, it's about who it would be unfashionable to fuck based on their reading habits.

These people would rather voluntarily contract AIDS than be seen hooking up with a heckin' Chud who looks up to Movie Patrick Bateman.

Agree on the Percy Jackson, and will add any other Young Adult book if you are over 20
Fuck you! If you find a YA book that really clicks with you then you're in for a really good and fun time. I found Ready Player One because RedLetterMedia talked about it and I've read it about 7 times now.

For any book, it is largely how one talks about it (like Reiketa for that movie that I now cannot remember)
Very true. The way Rekieta talks about American Beauty is terrifying. He desperately wants to be that guy who smokes weed in his garage while he works out, and tells his wife to fuck off while he lusts over other, younger women. He is that guy, except it's Galaxy Gas instead of weed because Daddy State won't let him.

Catcher in the Rye is a mitwit tell that screams "i had to read this in high school and haven't read anything since". I would add Jack Kerouac books to the list, but the author only namedropped him.
How about people who get really into books that are often mandatory in high schools, but at a later age? I fell in love with Brave New World and Fahrenheit 451 well after I became an adult. Always wondered what people would think of that.
 
It's not what's on people's shelves you should be worried about. It's how they conduct themselves. Real red flags would be if you found a stash of CP or beastiality
That's the problem of the moron who wrote this article: "I have my preconceived notions of the kind of people who enjoy this, and so everyone should think the same thing, because I am infallibly moral and right."

The one that gets me is the section about "dude bros" reading "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck". Well, who the fuck are you to tell someone how they are allowed to look for self-help? I mean, I understand who you think you are. And that you believe that anyone who should seek help should seek it in the way you would. Because everyone should be just like you.

This kind of judgmental asshole will only get married to someone who doesn't have a personality outside of her. So, either nobody, or a complete simp with no backbone.
 
I don't think red flag books exist for me, although a man with 50 Shades of Grey on his bookshelf would be really sus. I like people who read, even if it's dumb, trashy, or not to my taste.

The actual red flags are how the person talks about the books they read. A grown man obsessed with Catcher in the Rye isn't bad because he loves the book. It's why he loves the book that actually gives you insight into him as a person. "It really connected with me as a teenager, and got me into reading", for example, is a good reason to love any book.
 
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