Lolcow Andrew Peter Carlson / Anaiah Carlson / Tamarlover / Xtamarlover - Jewish/Christian Wannabe Cult Leader, Stalker, Ugly af, dogfucker, mayor of spitsville

Another thing to consider is that communicating purely with someone via text (or even Skype, there's more to non-verbal communication than facial expressions) is that they can present themselves however they want. You only see what they want you to see. She could be utterly different in person.
I know how she is in person. She revealed herself to me and I also interviewed all her exes except two to get the dirt on her and know how bad it can get. I'm fully aware of what type of person she is. And what they have told me about her perfectly matches my own experience with her online. I've seen it.

I would be surprised that he's relentlessly stalked a person he's never met, but keep in mind Nick Bate did the same thing, and his victim lived on the other side of the country. You can't truly know someone unless you've spent time around them in person. A lot of time. Most of the way we communicate is non-verbal. That's why people say things online they'd never consider saying in real life, mere words don't pack as much punch.

So why don't you think that's the case with me then? If you followed through with what you said and actually truly knew me and spent time around me a lot of time. You would know your concerns for her physical safety are unwarranted. And you would know I am no threat to her. But all you know is what looks crazy without knowing else about me. That's all you have to go on.

But it's not going to stop with stalking, is it? You and I both know that's not in the cards.
I would still try to be her friend, but I would make sure I not do anything to violate the protective order and I would just wait a really long time until I tried again, to give her some space.
 
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of course you would know that

of fucking course

I'd strongly consider violating the protective order if the maximum sentence was only a week in jail. I wanted to know how bad it would be if I were to get the maximum sentence. Its bad enough so that I don't want to violate the order. But short enough that I risked some questionable behavior after being issued the protective order but which I believe is not an actual violation of the protective order. But I have decided not to do that anymore, so instead i'll just wait until the protective order is ended.

Its good to be informed of your options and the implications of your options. That's called being smart. It is smart of me to know what the punishment will be. It helps me make an informed and good decision to not pursue her for the duration of the protective order.
 
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I'd strongly consider violating the protective order if the maximum sentence was only a week in jail. I wanted to know how bad it would be if I were to get the maximum sentence. Its bad enough so that I don't want to violate the order. But short enough that I risked some questionable behavior after being issued the protective order but which I believe is not an actual violation of the protective order. But I have decided not to do that anymore, so instead i'll just wait until the protective order is ended.

Its good to be informed of your options and the implications of your options. That's called being smart. It is smart of me to know what the punishment will be. It helps me make an informed and good decision to not pursue her for the duration of the protective order.

Did you cry in court when the order was issued?
 
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can you tell us what happened when you were in court?

I was in court twice. the first time i was given a protective order for 1 year. I appealed it and i was able to say everything i wanted to say. And the judge decided to make it 2 years instead of 1. and it was made 2 years from that day. I considered attempting to appeal it to the supreme court of Virginia but i decided not to do that because I felt even if i were to have won i would lose and that it might be best to just let the protective order happen so I can have a break from her. Also I realized that the chances of winning in court were extremely slim to none. So I didn't bother trying. The first time everything was rushed. they treated our case like it was not very important and barely had time to say what I wanted to say. i also felt she misrepresented me by some of what she said. and I had wanted to submit some evidence into view. And the first time as I was speaking there were a bunch of people in the room waiting for the next case and they all got to hear me confess my love to her there and talk about what happened. I would have loved to know what those people were thinking in their minds as this was happening. The second time I was in court, there was full amount of time we could use without feeling rushed. So i shared in full my side of the story.

And the judge then said something like "I don't know what to say............I've never seen a case where a protective order was more justified than this one." And he also said that she can sleep with 100 men if she wants to i have no right to get in the way of that he said. And that its over and I need to move on. he tried to give me some advice and counsel. And he then said and if she ever did want to have you in her life it would be on her terms not yours. And basically like I need to stop and respect her right to have in her life who she wants and that she doesn't owe me anything. I told the Judge i think she owes me her friendship and he probably didn't like me saying that. I was pretty forthcoming and honest.

And the judge also said something i found funny. He said something like "Remember you are under oath, though I must say you have been extremely honest and forthcoming thus far. Did you come to court today hoping you would win her heart." (he was asking if i was intending to get her to fall in love with me at court or something along those lines. I said no.
 
so I can have a break from her
You never had her idiot. You can't take breaks from things you've never started.

barely had time to say what I wanted to say
You have nothing worth saying.

i also felt she misrepresented me by some of what she said.
Pretty sure it was all spot on.

they all got to hear me confess my love to her there and talk about what happened
HAHA what? You really are a fucking idiot.

And the judge then said something like "I don't know what to say............I've never seen a case where a protective order was more justified than this one."
Judge of the year. Proof the justice system does work.

I told the Judge i think she owes me her friendship and he probably didn't like me saying that
She doesn't owe you jack shit you fucking psycho. You're lucky you aren't in a padded jacket right now.

I was pretty forthcoming and honest.
Well that's a lie.

And the judge also said something i found funny. He said something like "Remember you are under oath, though I must say you have been extremely honest and forthcoming thus far. Did you come to court today hoping you would win her heart." (he was asking if i was intending to get her to fall in love with me at court or something along those lines. I said no.
So you confess your love but you didn't want her to fall in love with you? Way to lie under oath.

Oh and fuck you. Been awhile since I said that.
 
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Did you cry in court when the order was issued?
My emotions are incredibly limited at times because I hold in my emotions a lot. I tried to cry a little bit. The first weekend after the first protective order I was mostly silent and didn't do anything and just lay on the couch in misery. For about 1 week I was horribly distraught and couldn't function or do anything. After about a week after I was able to schedule an appeal date for the following month, I was renewed and refreshed in my spirit. Then after the second court time, i didn't react as torn, but it sucked to get it extended to 2 years. That was really painful. But I was thinking about appealing it but as I thought it over I was realizing that I deserved the protective order. It was then I realized I was wrong. up until that point I was in denial. While i was acknowledging that i had done wrong i was maintaining that a protective order was not justified. But after hearing her own side of the story at the second trial, i realized I deserved the protective order upon further reflection upon it after i was given 2 years. They left me alone for awhile while I wallowed in my shame as i waited for the new protective order to be done. The first time at court after being given a one year protective order, I almost took a picture of her car's license plate, but my friend told me not to do it so I didn't do it. The second time being given a two year protective order, my friend said he didn't see her this time and that she probably parked somewhere else this time just in case.
 
I laughed so hard I think I hurt my throat.

My emotions are incredibly limited at times because I hold in my emotions a lot. I tried to cry a little bit. The first weekend after the first protective order I was mostly silent and didn't do anything and just lay on the couch in misery. For about 1 week I was horribly distraught and couldn't function or do anything. After about a week after I was able to schedule an appeal date for the following month, I was renewed and refreshed in my spirit. Then after the second court time, i didn't react as torn, but it sucked to get it extended to 2 years. That was really painful. But I was thinking about appealing it but as I thought it over I was realizing that I deserved the protective order. It was then I realized I was wrong. up until that point I was in denial. While i was acknowledging that i had done wrong i was maintaining that a protective order was not justified. But after hearing her own side of the story at the second trial, i realized I deserved the protective order upon further reflection upon it after i was given 2 years. They left me alone for awhile while I wallowed in my shame as i waited for the new protective order to be done. The first time at court after being given a one year protective order, I almost took a picture of her car's license plate, but my friend told me not to do it so I didn't do it. The second time being given a two year protective order, my friend said he didn't see her this time and that she probably parked somewhere else this time just in case.

So, seriously, here...Why the fuck are you still on about her? What the fuck goes on in your head?
 
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i also felt she misrepresented me by some of what she said. and I had wanted to submit some evidence into view. And the first time as I was speaking there were a bunch of people in the room waiting for the next case and they all got to hear me confess my love to her there and talk about what happened. I would have loved to know what those people were thinking in their minds as this was happening. The second time I was in court, there was full amount of time we could use without feeling rushed. So i shared in full my side of the story.
what did you say that day? And what evidence did you want to submit back then?
 
You never had her idiot. You can't take breaks from things you've never started.


You have nothing worth saying.


Pretty sure it was all spot on.


HAHA what? You really are a fucking idiot.


Judge of the year. Proof the justice system does work.


She doesn't owe you jack shit your fucking psycho. You're lucky you aren't in a padded jacket right now.


Well that's a lie.


So you confess your love but you didn't want her to fall in love with you? Way to lie under oath.

Oh and fuck you. Been awhile since I said that.

I didn't say I didn't want her to fall in love with me. I said i didn't come her with the intention of getting her to fall in love with me at court. I said something like "to clarify, it was not my intention here to win her heart at court today, because I know she is in a relationship right now. But I wanted to get the protective order removed so that there would be opportunity for reconciliation as friends and that would allow for the possibility in the future of perhaps having a relationship with her at some point."

The one thing she said which was inaccurate was that we had just been acquaintances and had only interacted on an academic level. Also she got some of the timeline wrong in order to make it look like we were just acquaintances.

This is how a judge tells someone to STFU.

Rekt
2 years was the maximum he was able to give. He might've given more if he could but he wasn't allowed to.
 
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I'd strongly consider violating the protective order if the maximum sentence was only a week in jail. I wanted to know how bad it would be if I were to get the maximum sentence. Its bad enough so that I don't want to violate the order. But short enough that I risked some questionable behavior after being issued the protective order but which I believe is not an actual violation of the protective order. But I have decided not to do that anymore, so instead i'll just wait until the protective order is ended.

You can tell how a person will treat you by how they assume others will treat them. That's why this guy thinks the only thing keeping people from raping is fear of punishment. Because this guy would rape if the punishment was lenient enough so he assumes that's normal.

I know it's cold comfort, but at the very least we can take solace in the fact that when he's in court for the rape/murder he will probably commit, he will refuse his lawyers attempts to have him declared mentally unfit and will therefore have the book thrown at him. Fucking terrifying. I hope this fucker chooses suicide instead.
 
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