Dude was a treasure and I hope his mom is okay.
She’s not going to be “okay.” I had a half-brother (I barely knew him, he estranged himself) die. Even natural causes are awful for a parent. Suicides destroy them. But what a person can do is weather the storm and come out of it still able to enjoy the memory, more than it hurts, and move on with life. Can pray for her emotional trial and wellbeing for his cats. Good to pray regardless of organized religion, don’t let Bible thumpers lead you otherwise. For me it usually means a week, but I may try to go a month of it for him for the gravity of it. I’d like if other Kiwis wanted to do similarly.
so he really did manually decide to kill himself
fucking hell man. I was almost hoping he'd accidentally killed himself in his sleep, maybe out of selfish desire for comfort, some fucked up part of my brain thinks that'd be infinitely more peaceful than going through the amount of turmoil required to actively kill yourself
wont harp on that any longer, i don't want to be rude
That’s not strange at all. Being a suicide means he was unhappy and it makes a million times worse for his mother on top of the already soul scorching nature of it. Deaths of natural causes are tragedies, but they’re not… moral tragedies? Like, it’s random bad luck, you feel like shit for the survivors and the life cut short, but it doesn’t feel like it taints the life that was lead.
his mother is an angel from what i've read about her and I wish nothing but the best for her
I wish I’d seen his posts about her.
if some random internet stranger who barely knew her son can spend three days under the weather thanks to his passing, I can't imagine the kind of turmoil she's going through right now
Hell. Survivable Hell, but Hell.
I have this weird, weepy hole in me - sitting over this thread - and I don’t even understand it. Maybe it would make more sense to me if I’d known someone in person who’d gone through that. Closest was in grade school when a friends dad killed himself, but I’d never actually met the dad. I’m not sure which is worse, losing a dad or a son. I suspect the latter. That family just had to pull through. Son has a family now, himself.
Maybe, if the mother would appreciate it, the community could try to do something constructive, like some thing to offer at a grave.
Edit: I think the above is a nice idea, but I remember a poster said something about an offering to an animal shelter. I wanted to get on the cat detail at my local one but they were sort of cagey. Probably too many volunteers. I dealt with dogs, and that had too many locally, wasn’t enough real work to justify my time. Guess that’s my work to do. Go back and find what exactly is needed with regards to the cats.
. Its heartbreaking when it gets to that point. I've been there. 
