Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
The Tea app seems to have been vibe coded and the infamous hacker known as 4chan has compromised the public KYC buckets
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You mean literally every society but Islamic ones?
No, retard. The problem isn't that they lack permission to gossip, the problem is that young women (like young men) lack a large social circle where they can readily meet, witness, and talk to male acquaintances without it being some kind of explicitly set-up "date" between complete strangers after a DM sesh. Work also used to fill this role, but now that everyone's scared of lawsuits, even that social avenue has been lost. This is a "social fabric of society" issue.

Nine times out of ten, two men being equal in education, and income, the fit good looking guy will get the girl over the skinny-fat guy. Even if the fit guy is an abusive asshole, and for some women, that's a selling point. Never ceases to amaze how women can get on the internet and say something we all know to be false, yet honestly expect men to buy it hook, line and sinker.
I'm a man. The fit abusive asshole gets the girl because they have sex (and she gets attached) before she knows his real personality. In a more natural/traditional social world, where she gets to see him from a distance before interacting, personality factors would matter. In our present world, she only gets to see a curated image of him before interacting, and sex (thus, for women, attachment) happens before the man can be properly assessed.
 
Never ceases to amaze how women can get on the internet and say something we all know to be false, yet honestly expect men to buy it hook, line and sinker.
I don't think they're (usually) being intentionally deceptive. I think they have so little capacity for introspection that they believe what they're saying in the moment.
 
It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok.
The sign of greatness, only good things can come from the audiences there.
Interesting find on /pol/, i wonder if its real
And shocking absolutely nobody, its for data scraping. Who could have ever foreseen this outcome.
 
For the butthurt womanhaters ITT, please consider that a society where women can freely gossip about men will result in your physical appearance mattering less. Male physique is only so important because women have to make dating decisions with so little information
It's just a lie. A lot of women actively prefer to chase after very attractive(or high status men) over pursuing relationships with people from their social circles. The ones who don't are usually already in stable relationships in their early 20s, and don't need to gossip with their girl friends.
Gossiping will never be a replacement for getting to know someone personally.
 
the app is indeed likely to be abused by a vocal minority of vindictive women
I’ve seen how women who are ‘friends’ talk about each other when backs are turned. Female social dominance in the pack order is determined by who can be the most spiteful, manipulative, sneaky character assassin and win the most support to her side.

EVERY woman who’s not successfully paired up by thirty and regretting it is due to one or more of the following:
  • Cock carousel true believer fallen on hard times
  • BPD/full-blown PD
  • Raging narcissism
  • Living life online not in reality
  • Monkey brancher who ran out of branches
  • Personality not pleasant enough to compensate for other shortcomings
  • Horrible financial decisions made consistently
  • Social media mudshark and proud of it (credit @Made In Wales )
These are all traits that align with the sneaky, nasty bitch mentality that men tend to avoid unless there’s no other choice. “Minority of vindictive women”? Fren, the single-due-to-personal-shortcomings-and-angry-about-it thirtysomething crowd is nothing BUT vindictive women.
 
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In our present world, she only gets to see a curated image of him before interacting, and sex (thus, for women, attachment) happens before the man can be properly assessed.
Mmm... You think God told us not to have sex before marriage to prevent this sort of thing?

No, surely it is just the fun police stopping us from expressing ourselves. Surely.
 
No, retard. The problem isn't that they lack permission to gossip
I mean
(For the butthurt womanhaters ITT, please consider that a society where women can freely gossip about men will result in your physical appearance mattering less
You specifically said freely gossip

I have drawn the conclusion that you are in fact, retarded.
 
I’ve seen how women who are ‘friends’ talk about each other when backs are turned. Female social dominance in the pack order is determined by who can be the most spiteful, manipulative, sneaky character assassin and win the most support to her side.

EVERY woman who’s not successfully paired up by thirty and regretting it is due to one or more of the following:
  • Cock carousel true believer fallen on hard times
  • BPD/full-blown PD
  • Raging narcissism
  • Living life online not in reality
  • Monkey brancher who ran out of branches
  • Personality not pleasant enough to compensate for other shortcomings
  • Horrible financial decisions made consistently
These are all traits that align with the sneaky, nasty bitch mentality that men tend to avoid unless there’s no other choice. “Minority of vindictive women”? Fren, the single-due-to-personal-shortcomings-and-angry-about-it thirtysomething crowd is nothing BUT vindictive women.
You left 'Mudsharker/Coal Burner for the likes and upvotes' out, but otherwise very nuanced and accurate.
 
Mmm... You think God told us not to have sex before marriage to prevent this sort of thing?

No, surely it is just the fun police stopping us from expressing ourselves. Surely.
Can't tell if you're trying to argue with me, but I agree with you. The Sexual Revolution was a disaster for everyone, but especially for women.

I don't think they're (usually) being intentionally deceptive. I think they have so little capacity for introspection that they believe what they're saying in the moment.
This golden example of women's apparent vacuous lack of introspection is, in fact, a man's post.

You specifically said freely gossip

I have drawn the conclusion that you are in fact, retarded.
So, you are just an incel, we get it, go jack off and calm down.
"REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE" (Muslim women absolutely do gossip btw.)


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@ADHD Mate (can't quote because editing)
I'm arguing that gossiping enables some men to be vouched for, which enables women to date/interact with those men with less worry about getting kidnapped/raped/etc. For all the flaws of High School romance, at least kids vaguely knew who they were going out with. Adults, in the absence of such a social environment, are going at it completely blind, and I think that's the ultimate source of a lot of dating problems.

(Also, dating apps concentrate the worst of each sex because the desirable people pair up and leave, so people of both sexes are getting distorted, horrible pictures of the opposite sex. People in real life are different.)
 
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And the best part is that this kind of app isn't the worst it can get. It needs to have more bite to it, like some sort of integration with other apps that automatically makes it so that the guys with lots of "red flags" have sort of easily identifiable mark so that the "normal" women can easily recognize them across all the net, a la Shinigami Eyes but for bitter BPD women. Now that'd be peak societal collapse
 
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as it elevates decent men,
but the implicit trust given to anonymous users of the app is indeed likely to be abused by a vocal minority of vindictive women.
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Its crystal clear exactly what this app will be used for.
an alarming amount of people who couldn't
Unfortunately true I suppose. When it comes to technology people just turn their brains off it seems.
 
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