Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Sure man. inb4 you ignore/dismiss it all anyways.
Stop being gay.

25% of women under 30 have an STD. (Depends on how one defines "STD", can be much higher).
Okay, now explain to me what exactly the conclusion is. The paper says that this is because the decision-making portions of the brain are still developing during adolescence, leading to poor decisions like unprotected sex, which is also on the rise, as is lack of screening. Additionally, by race, it is mostly non-white immigrant or indigenous populations. It doesn’t read to me like what you mean to insinuate. Also, it very clearly states that STIs for men are also on the rise. Are men also whores?

Okay, and a negligible number of those women are artificially inseminated, which means that men are as culpable for this state of affairs, unless you really believe every one of them divorce-raped their ex-husbands or tried to trap their boyfriends with babies.

The "Sexual Revolution" back in the sixties had massive support from women, and still does. As does promiscuity and a disdain for marriage. Over 75% of women support promiscuity, or will admit to it. So yeah, giant whores
The numbers for men are identical. What’s your point if you aren’t trying to prove my point, which is that men and women share blame for why attitudes on sex and relationships are so messed up?

Women support having access to abortion, but most don’t actually do it or even want to themselves. In fact, abortions have been largely in decline since the height of the sexual revolution.
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Most women go along to get along and hate feeling like they are being mean, so they will have squishy stances on things like abortion, but it doesn’t mean most women opt to abort pregnancies.


As for the harassment part, you immediately dismissed the policies in place meant to prevent men from trying to flirt with women at schools, work, and gyms. You dismissed this point because you don't want to admit that you were lying that it's as easy as just going up to a woman in a random place and chatting her up. That's a very easy way to get a harassment complain filed against you if she thinks you're ugly.
Why do you keep doing this? I can simply turn this back around on you. It’s pointless.


You keep trying to laugh off being called out for being devoid of integrity. Maybe your fellow feminists will eat that up with a spoon, but it really isn't convincing. Your kind would be marginally less contemptuous if you just owned what you are doing instead of spewing nothing but lies all the damn time.
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Adults, in the absence of such a social environment, are going at it completely blind, and I think that's the ultimate source of a lot of dating problems.
To add to this, people treat each other better when their behavior gets reported back to their social circle. With online dating, it's trivial to throw someone away over minor gripes because you'll never see them again and no one in your friend's circle ever has to know if it goes horribly.

It's not my fault I'm such a stud that hundreds of women are shit-talking my prowess.
YES IT IS! You could have chosen to become morbidly obese and unhealthy like the rest of us but you CHOSE not to! REEEE
 
Okay, and a negligible number of those women are artificially inseminated, which means that men are as culpable for this state of affairs, unless you really believe every one of them divorce-raped their ex-husbands or tried to trap their boyfriends with babies.
Women support having access to abortion, but most don’t actually do it or even want to themselves
my fucking god, you are beyond parody
 
Good to see they look exactly like the sandblasted ghouls I figured they would be.
Women really need to figure out that there exists an entire class of women that only exist on spite.
They ruined their lives and they now only exist to ruin the lives of others, especially other women with their lives ahead of them.
 
And you have no argument. Now be a good beta and give me my trash can.
You unironically pointed at men and blamed them for women having children in an age where they advocate for abortion, which you said they want available but not want to peform.

You are too stupid to understand how you're wrong or just saying whatever in order to refute who you're arguing with, which are both retarded.
 
Stop being gay.

Okay, now explain to me what exactly the conclusion is. The paper says that this is because the decision-making portions of the brain are still developing during adolescence, leading to poor decisions like unprotected sex, which is also on the rise, as is lack of screening. Additionally, by race, it is mostly non-white immigrant or indigenous populations. It doesn’t read to me like what you mean to insinuate. Also, it very clearly states that STIs for men are also on the rise. Are men also whores?

Okay, and a negligible number of those women are artificially inseminated, which means that men are as culpable for this state of affairs, unless you really believe every one of them divorce-raped their ex-husbands or tried to trap their boyfriends with babies.

The numbers for men are identical. What’s your point if you aren’t trying to prove my point, which is that men and women share blame for why attitudes on sex and relationships are so messed up?

Women support having access to abortion, but most don’t actually do it or even want to themselves. In fact, abortions have been largely in decline since the height of the sexual revolution.
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Most women go along to get along and hate feeling like they are being mean, so they will have squishy stances on things like abortion, but it doesn’t mean most women opt to abort pregnancies.


Why do you keep doing this? I can simply turn this back around on you. It’s pointless.


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Yeah this is exactly what I expected. Ignored and/or dismissed every point I made (again), made up retarded shit about "muh exceptions" to justify it, and always ended at the conclusion that women should not be criticized for their word or actions. With a nice dash of "but what about blaming men?!", as if you have had any shortage of that thus far. You are the purest embodiment of my point about estrogenated men.
 
You unironically pointed at men and blamed them for women having children in an age where they advocate for abortion, which you said they want available but not want to peform.
No, brother. Concerning single mothers, the point was that women don’t spawn children in a vacuum. It very obviously takes male involvement for a child to happen. If women are morally bereft, then why aren’t these single mothers aborting their children?

Yeah this is exactly what I expected. Ignored and/or dismissed every point I made (again),
I made counterpoints to your arguments. They are there for you to refute, but you’d rather argue like a petulant woman instead.
 
No, brother. Concerning single mothers, the point was that women don’t spawn children in a vacuum. It very obviously takes male involvement for a child to happen. If women are morally bereft, then why aren’t these single mothers aborting their children?
You're under the impression single motherhood isn't another immorality.
 
It is, but again, it doesn’t happen without male involvement, which brings me back to my main position: women and men share blame for how things are right now. It’s not “all or nothing.”
Fewer men are having sex and women are having more. Do the math. And you're acting like women are just retarded children who can't help but spread their legs.
 
You say "isolates themselves from society" like it's a bad thing. When the alternative is a batshit BPD narcissist demon bitch who is always on the hunt for men she can scream RAPE!!!!! over bc all men are literal rapists anyway and if she didn't put him away for a rape that didn't happen he would eventually rape anyway, I much prefer being alone up in the hills (which around here means that you're poor and antisocial). I was an incel for a while until I realized that celibacy is a gift in a gynocentered society of predatory fucked up women. So now my celibacy is voluntary, as is being so isolated that the only people who recognize me are the guy who runs the counter at the mailbox rental place and the based ultra-MAGA lady who runs the local greasy spoon. When society is fundamentally fucked up, rejecting it for The Ted Life is a revolutionary act.
Nigga do you need a hug or something?
 
Fewer men are having sex and women are having more. Do the math. And you're acting like women are just retarded children who can't help but spread their legs.
The men that are having sex share responsibility in this. What do you think happens when you treat women like cum dumpsters? Many will start acting like one because they are trained by men through porn, music, and casual sexual relationships that they should be this way. Do I think women are retarded children? To a degree, yes. Woman are largely followers. If you present a vision for them, they will follow it. When that vision was a functional Christian family unit, women strove for that. When the vision
became sex for pleasure and career advancement, women started striving for that. The solution is for men who see the problem to stand up and present a better vision for life instead of bitching on the sidelines.

But I’m curious about something: if you say women are the problem, what is the solution?
 
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