Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
People are mad about women uploading hard evidence of guys being rapists and pedophiles onto the app
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lol naw
this is the average discourse on that app
 
lack of screening
If you are at a point in life where the idea of having a potential partner get checked for STDs is something that approaches anything resembling being reasonable or let alone necessary, you're already living in an unfortunate state of societal collapse.

It's crazy how normalized this has become. You should not have sex with strangers and you should not have sex without a meaningful long term relationship. STDs aside it fucks you up psychologically in insidious and unexpected ways.
 
Women are choosers, and they choose casual sex. Again, why is it fault of man who also go for casual sex?
Eh, it is a two way street. Women act like whores because that is what they think men want. Men act like whores, because when the restraint is loosened, that's what they would prefer to be.

Luckily for the sane among us, there are men and women who can control their impulses and aren't even inclined, male or female, to seek anything other than a regular monogamous relationship. The alternative is too fucking daunting for either sex with half a brain.
 
A lot of women are not interested in dating plain looking average status man. Because for what reason? They can get exciting sex with hot guys. They can earn their own money. They have their own shit. And there is plenty of guys they can date if they desire, so why settling for someone not exciting?
That’s certainly the mindset that dating apps present as desirable for women. And after those women realize life is better with a loving, supportive partner than getting hollowed out by strangers twice a week, it’s too late. Pair bonding capabilities irreparably damaged, a catalog saved of exemplars that are ‘better’ in sundry ways, an entire life built around physical and emotional exclusion of a partner.

Pets, houseplants and a ‘circle of friends’ can’t provide you with kids, make you coffee on a weekend morning, pick up your dry cleaning when you’re busy, bring home a pizza when you’re too tired to cook.

And by the time these women realize that, it’s already too late. The ‘good men’ are gone, all that’s left on the buffet are non-committing chads who hollow out two strangers a week, violent felons, psychopaths, weirdoes, and Fifty Shades of Brown.

I look at the collage of women who were posted earlier and think “every fucking one of you has turned down at least one man who would have committed to you, given you a family, and enriched both your lives by doing so.” Society, I hope, will forgive me for lacking a single fuck to give.
 
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This is disastrously stupid advice. Even forgetting the whole "HR report for sexual harassment" when people clearly aren't, dating in the workplace, 9 out of 10 times, ends badly. Retards often remember "Don't stick your dick in crazy" but forget "Don't shit where you eat".
So many of the stories I hear out of that are also both of them are cheating on their spouses or boyfriend/girlfriend anyway.
 
I look at the collage of women who were posted earlier and think “every fucking one of you has turned down at least one man who would have committed to you, given you a family, and enriched both your lives by doing so.” Society, I hope, will forgive me for lacking a single fuck to give.
- Man who clearly has many fucks to give and is annoyed that these women aren't willing to take them.
 
- Man who clearly has many fucks to give and is annoyed that these women aren't willing to take them.
Eh, I have no interest in fucking any man except the one I chose to have a relationship with. Other men simply don't exist. Women have the same doubts about men because explain to me where in the existence of any human civilization a man was always honorable and never cheated. About find the same number as of with women, basically zero.
 
If you are at a point in life where the idea of having a potential partner get checked for STDs is something that approaches anything resembling being reasonable or let alone necessary, you're already living in an unfortunate state of societal collapse.

It's crazy how normalized this has become. You should not have sex with strangers and you should not have sex without a meaningful long term relationship. STDs aside it fucks you up psychologically in insidious and unexpected ways.
A number of years ago, this subject came up with a girl I'd just started dating. I called time-out and told her I certainly wasn't having enough casual sex to be remotely concerned about contracting a venereal disease and if she was, I'm suddenly no longer interested.

That was the last time I heard from her. People are fucking disgusting.
 
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