Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
I go here to talk about random people I do not know in real life. There are weird people I know in real life, I do not talk about them here. There is a warning when you sign up to this website that tells you that you shouldn't reveal personal stuff and provides information on how to not get doxed. There is a tiny sticker of a dragonball scouter that you can use to tell someone they're revealing too much personal information.

The idiots that use this app not only decided they needed to talk about people they know and have fucked but also gave their drivers licenses. It's such an alien concept to me. The very nature of the Tea app draws some of the dumbest people on the planet to it. I bet there's some gold in there.
 
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The post was indeed edited, however this is from the Man Hate Thread may provide some more context. You can search her posts on there and perhaps find more.
So what I’m getting is: this dumb hole didn’t like Null’s choice of verbiage, as it implied his sweeping for her hugbox was less than absolute as she previously believed. She then ran to said hugbox, only for her opinions to not be as universally echoed as she desired. So now she’s calling it quits at being XX-HHH.
 
I go here to talk about random people I do not know in real life. There are weird people I know in real life, I do not talk about them here. There is a warning when you sign up to this website that tells you that you shouldn't reveal personal stuff and provides information on how to not get doxed. There is a tiny sticker of a dragonball scouter that you can use to tell someone they're revealing too much personal information.

The idiots that use this app not only decided they needed to talk about people they know and have fucked but also gave their drivers licenses. It's such an alien concept to me. The very nature of the Tea app draws some of the dumbest people on the planet to it. I bet there's some gold in there.
Holy shit I thought that was a seat belt! NOW it makes sense!
 
The problem is women keep choosing men who are not interested in dating them, and then bitching about it.
And it's not because they lack options. Most men don't except pure maidens. Average women have men in their circle, be it work, be it college, be it some friend groups. The issue is that average men are just not that exciting, and are often rejected multiple times until they give up.

Women are choosers, and they choose casual sex. Again, why is it fault of man who also go for casual sex?
My theory about why women do this is: women believe that men "catch feelings" ...but men (usually) don't.

Yes yes, there are always exceptions to every rule. But in general, men don't fall in love *after* sex.

Women, on the other hand, usually *do* fall in love after sex. Women catch feelings all the time. Ask any woman if the following sounds familiar: you meet a guy that you know is not a good long-term prospect, but that's okay because you're not looking for anything serious right now. So you start having sex with him. Then, one morning, you realize you're in love with him - and it's always a "in the morning" thing. It always happens that way. You wake up and your first thought is, "omfg I'm in love" - it's literally a shock and a surprise.

Seriously, ask any woman who is willing to have an honest conversation with you. You'll see them start smiling halfway through the question because it hits so close to home. They've all experienced this, exactly the way I just described it.

...unfortunately, men don't work that way. But I think most women assume men do. That means these women are dating these men who tell them up front, "I'm not looking for a girlfriend" and the women say to themselves, "oh don't worry, he'll fall in love with me."

He wont.
 
Nope
Women have higher verbal skills that go into factoring IQ
Men have higher spacial and more spread out skills due to allocation of grey matter

Spatial tests aren't in IQ tests

Do the math.
This is literally the same defence niggers use when people call them low IQ lmao
"b-but the IQ test was designed by (((them))) to favor [insert group here] and I'm actually a galaxy brained superior being you guys!"
lmao cope

Not that men can't be pretentious pseudo-know-it-all faggots, but I find it that they are outliers rather than the norm.
Bro you're literally in the Autistic Thunderdome - dudes who get all their interaction with women from torrented blacked dot com videos are out here thinking they're fucking Socrates or some shit.

"Are you winning son?"

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My genuine question is why on Earth would you upload your ID to an app about gossip when literally every woman I know IRL is more than happy to gossip about anyone at any time.
That’s what friends are for, shit talk.
Gonna be real here, the difference between us and them is negligible. Everyone wants to gossip about retards, we just do it with better opspec.
 
Yes really. I have no problem admitting I’m retarded, but it now clicks why that image is used when someone does what’s considered power leveling.
Really? It was always too distinct to be anything else.

Bro you're literally in the Autistic Thunderdome - dudes who get all their interaction with women from torrented blacked dot com videos are out here thinking they're fucking Socrates or some shit.

"Are you winning son?"

Bro, I have a wife. Her name is fleshlight and I like to fill her up with various food items and rate how pleasurable it is on my porn channel. You should check it out.
 
Bro you're literally in the Autistic Thunderdome - dudes who get all their interaction with women from torrented blacked dot com videos are out here thinking they're fucking Socrates or some shit.

"Are you winning son?"
Correction, we are on Kiwifarms. Every single person here is already in outlier territory, but I feel like you have a particular chip on your shoulder that I am not privy to with a projection like that. You also need to keep in mind this thread was in the community features, so the net is wider than what your projection casts.

(Not that i disagree this section is generally where the most retarded in general go)
 
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