Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
No, the poster said men don't do this. They actually do even worse than this app, to the point people had to make laws to stop them from doing it.
N'wah, they literally don't, as you say so yourself; they do something else (something illegal in fact).
You're grasping for an equivalence that simply isn't there, it's not even comparable, it's an entirely difference motivation entirely; men leak nudes out of spite and for the satisfaction of doing harm (zero possible justification, entirely fixated around how they feel), wahmen gossip for social reasons (more variant justifiableness, about other people), they are not the same at all. You see this surely?
 
This is the irl version of raids on lolcow.
Very unfortunate people are in danger because of this because men will see exes talking shit and go kill them.
The people who'd murder someone for chatting shit on the Internet are the type who'd do it anyway, just look at the melanatedness of the userbase on display; statistical impact from the norm will be marginal.
 
Bruh if you're that bothered by bishes gossiping it says more about you than it does about the foids chatting shit about your spiritual 3 incher :really:

Every long lasting society put women in their place.

Every society that fell from within did not.

This is the irl version of raids on lolcow.
Very unfortunate people are in danger because of this because men will see exes talking shit and go kill them.

lmao
 
The people who'd murder someone for chatting shit on the Internet are the type who'd do it anyway, just look at the melanatedness of the userbase on display; statistical impact from the norm will be marginal.
Well yeah, I’m lamenting the violence that’ll happen because of this specific incident. Kinda like how domestic violence goes up when roidbowl is on.
 
>redditors lying
another day ending with y, have fun with that 4B stuff.
This really shows that gen z and women have no idea what opsec is.
I blame millenials and gen xers for pushing that mentality of putting your name and face on everything.
It's funny how the only "people" seething are foids and their simps.
I hope they get some coochie for it.
 
Every long lasting society put women in their place.

Every society that fell from within did not.
N'wah I'm not talking about muh western civilisation here, I'm questioning the integrity of your manhood; not your purely theoretical GF's.
Well yeah, I’m lamenting the violence that’ll happen because of this specific incident. Kinda like how domestic violence goes up when roidbowl is on.
Also something that happens anyway, it's never energy that comes out of nowhere, "there is no need to be upset" etc.
Be 🌈 the outed idiots who trusted an app made by Actual Indians might get spooked into not being so retarded in future 🌈
 
Two things can be true: it’s bad to give women permission to poison the well of the dating market, it’s the sort of power that attracts the pathological, but also the people most mad at this app are precisely the reason it would exist. The hack kind of proves this since it was hacked for being a frontline in the gender wars and no other reason. Far worse things obviously exist. There are single discord servers doing more damage than this app.
Every long lasting society put women in their place.
This is cope to be honest. It only works if you compare impoverished countries to advanced ones and extrapolate the birth rates indefinitely. Which is all statistical malpractice. And every society has imposed much harsher penalties on men than on women once you tally up criminal justice, conscription, and things of that nature.

tl;dr nobody is going to give the guys asking for revenge their revenge fantasy.

There's no shared foundation on which to even begin to build anything. Both sexes are so cynical and jaded about the other that they're either actively hostile toward each other or have withdrawn completely.
You’re too online.
 
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Also something that happens anyway, it's never energy that comes out of nowhere, "there is no need to be upset" etc.
Be 🌈 the outed idiots who trusted an app made by Actual Indians might get spooked into not being so retarded in future 🌈
I’m gonna say a controversial opinion.
I don’t like seeing women get hurt even if they’re stupid.
 
It's very funny seeing the men saying they "chose" to stop dating, no bro women made that decision for you. Men didn't go their own way they were SENT their own way. Just stop the MGTOW cope it's painfully cringe to see.
also, wild that the BPD app got hacked and now there's a map of women to avoid
 
It's very funny seeing the men saying they "chose" to stop dating, no bro women made that decision for you. Men didn't go their own way they were SENT their own way. Just stop the MGTOW cope it's painfully cringe to see.
also, wild that the BPD app got hacked and now there's a map of women to avoid
Women gatekeep sex, men gatekeep relationships
 
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