Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 

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Can you show the truthful posts that were made?
Absolutely not, but I'm also not out here saying that anyone deserved anything (either that all the men earned what was said about them that was made visible to users on the app, or that the women who posted there deserve the broad public ridicule and exposure that some of them are now getting because they stupidly uploaded their faces and/ or IDs).

What I responded to was claims of defamation, false accusations, and the like. Since that assertion was made - and because I haven't actually seen what has been posted* about all the men - I was looking for a foundation of that claim.

* if someone wrote what someone above you posted, that some Olive Garden guy who wasn't interested in x woman must be gay, then obviously that is very stupid of whoever posted that on that app, and ofc I don't endorse that kind of inanity. But also some random speculation like that isn't life-ruinous bc the poster obviously has no personal insight, which is different than " he beat me," which could.

That's the problem with public callouts and life ruination attempts. There will be truthful callouts of bad behavior and there will be total bullshit callouts. All but the most hardened extremists can agree on these points.
Agree. Though as noted, whether saying "so and so was a cad to me" is life-ruining is highly contextual.

The problem lies in the facilitation of baseless claims along with personal identifying information of the alleged bad actor, and a culture that punishes critical inquiry into unproven claims based on the identity of the claimant.

I've no doubt some of these women are bananas, or shit-stirrers, or sociopaths. I have equally no doubt that there are a lot of deserving assholes who were named. What is the proportion of each? Idk.

But getting down to it, free speech is a thing. Short of actual defamation proved in a court of law, are we really on Kiwi Farms saying these people shouldn't be allowed to name and shame? Or that the facilitator (app owner) should have potential defamation-related or identity-revealing or responsibility for the content posted on the app? Agree with @Hellwalker that the most likely lawsuit will be on data security.

This provides a lot of power to hurt someone without evidence and you wouldn't be able to differentiate that from a truthful claim because no evidence is required.
Because it's not a court case. And if the information provided is defamatory, the victim always has legal remedies. Just as easy-peasy as getting a criminal case prosecuted or filing a tort civil suit for any underlying criminal or tortious acts.
 
Additionally, if someone decided to 'anonymously' share my full picture online, along with my name & location attached, while also sharing information about my personal life/habits/etc, to a group of entirely unknown people who could either be in the same city as me or the other side of the country, I feel I should have the legal right to beat the fuck out of them
Do you know where you are?
 
I've known plenty of white women who put off showers because they don't want to get their hair wet. Hygiene takes a back seat to going to bed with damp hair to them.
Pretty sure I’ve read about a trend to never wash their face because someone vaguely Asian said it prevented wrinkles or something. I dunno they do all kinds of stupid shit for beauty care.
 
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Surprise surprise the swamp donkeys and land whales were the ones calling average men a bunch of gay incels.


This is the kind of user that was on Tea app.


Total Gamer Victory

These hags will never be able to live this shit down. Enjoy the many defamation lawsuits coming your way ladies, dont think we will ever forget about you whining to payment processors to censor video games off Steam and having whatever else you dont like censored or destroyed.

Edit: I am curious to see how many of them will make those shitty fake sob videos on TikTok or YouTube to garner simp sympathy or just outright commit suicide to escape the eventual and aptly termed witchhunt.
No girls I would even fancy. Amazing. It's like bottom barrel scrap picking other scrap men from the reject bin of society and then complaining about smell.
The first woman looks like she works in HR. She looks like one of the harpies that supervised me. Absolute wreck of a woman.
 
Pretty sure I’ve read about a trend to never wash their face because someone vaguely Asian said it prevented wrinkles or something. I dunno they do all kinds of stupid shit for beauty care.
Women would swim naked in a waste-water sewage pond at a water treatment plant if you were able to convince them it reverses aging.

Men are equally as bad when it comes to, well cooming. They would do the same for a crumb of pussy.

Men and women both, act like the opposite sex is some predatory alien species that will rip their head and spine out and dsplay it like a hunting trophy at any moment. And society has molded itself to allow that idea subconsciously exist. Abortion, divorce, children born out of wedlock, contraceptives, welfare etc, all these serve to keep either party from incurring too many (if any at all) negative consequences for their actions. And what we are observing happening right now with gender relations is a direct result of half a century of that.
 
This is the largest I've found: , ~220GB



I said this earlier, but I'll mention it again. I think it's just an architecture thing. The backend developers probably put all the large cities on their own buckets for performance reasons. So the main bucket probably got leaked, but maybe not all the others before they developers changed the permissions on everything?

Also I've heard the Google map isn't EXIF data from the photos, but someone ran the drivers licenses through an OCR tool. So all those IDs on the map should relate to a photo with an actual drivers license in it.
After going through the 12GB lol.zip, there's no way I'm gonna go through 220GB of this shit. It would take me an entire week.

The average age seems to be around 40. Can't be too judgemental about old women being ugly, that's just how it is. Only about 1% is cute and pre-wall.
 
After going through the 12GB lol.zip, there's no way I'm gonna go through 220GB of this shit. It would take me an entire week.

The average age seems to be around 40. Can't be too judgemental about old women being ugly, that's just how it is. Only about 1% is cute and pre-wall.
Yeah I guess I was expecting the app to be zoomettes but its almost exclusively older women. I assume its the only demographic that gives out their Government ID to a social media app.
 
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