I try to stay away from hating an entire gender. And even now, I still don't. Its stupid and doesn't help anything. But also sometimes I need to vent because this shit is getting very dark.
I am busy most nights of the week with something. I do BJJ/Muay Thai 3x a week. I play co-ed recreational kickball 1x a week. I lift 1-2x a week. I don't wear tshirts outside of my apartment unless I'm going to the gym. I read, and no, not Harry Potter. I have an interesting career that can easily support myself, plus another person (without her working) fairly easily. Kids might necessitate a step up, but I'm nowhere near that. I have a number of other hobbies/interests I am fairly good and developed at.
tl;dr I ain't no scrub.
I have had female friends look over, and even help construct, dating app profiles. I ran into the "you need to expand your search radius" issue a while ago. In a metro area of 3 million.
I have attended 3 singles events so far. Each one, despite all the media wailing, had a severe gender imbalance. I've seen 20m to 5f ratios. Despite being told that these were just overflowing with lonely women tired of the apps. Orly. The dudes there weren't scrubs either. They turn into better networking events for the dudes than their utility in meeting eligible women. Which is really. fucking. sad. My last guy circle at a singles event (the 20-5 one) consisted of me, an MLB sports team staff writer, a chemist, and a self-defense small business owner.
At the other things I do, its similar ratios. Now sure, I'm not asking women en masse to sign up for MMA. But, I am asking for some engagement. Some kind of effort other than just screeching on the internet. And fuck me I do not see it, at all.
By and large, I am learning that at least in 2025, women are the shut ins, and its not even close. And this is actually really really sad, and really bad. I don't know really where this road is headed, but its not anywhere good.