Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
People like Andrew Tate are talked about by mainstream media, so I don't think what you're arguing here is accurate at all.
>women have a self own
>most gracious of shinny white knights must CoRrEcT ThE ReCoRd by wheeling out their usual bogeyman....THAT DASTARDLY ANDREW TATE!!111111!1111

Where? And when is Andrew Tate not referenced in a completely negative context in the mainstream media? out of the 10 or so years I've been friends with right wingers, Andrew Tate has never come up in conversation one single time because his whole marketing campaign is setting up publicity stunts to enrage simps like you and remain relevant through outrage. It's very much in the same vein as twitter prostitutes promoting their OF through gym ragebait videos to mindless gooners. He's not relevant to any right winger with a tripple digit IQ and never has been. But, conversely, his marketing strategy seems to have worked fucking flawlessly on the absolutely insecure fragile egos of the femcel defense squad. God forbid anyone laughs at the double standards of some of these ladies without the entire conversation being reframed in the context of monkey man Tate and what obese NEETS on twitter with anime PFPs posted once.
 
Who wants, or needs, the support of what kind of woman?
If a girl grows up seeing conservatism associated with aggressive male genderspergs, she will not gravitate towards it as an adult.

Also, do you have a source for the data on the voting patterns of married vs. unmarried women? I don't mean this as in "HURR DURR SOURCE SOURCE GIMME A SOURCE" but rather I think that's a very good point and I'd like to read more. Is there pre-21st century data?
 
Some of them also just straight up look like dudes with wigs.
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This one didn't even bother with the wig and he's STILL not in the bottom 50.
EDIT: "Foid" on the right had a higher ELO than foid on the left lmao
 
If a girl grows up seeing conservatism associated with aggressive male genderspergs, she will not gravitate towards it as an adult.

We know for a fact they like conservatism when they have kids. A sperg might irritate them but they'll also be more likely to have the theory of mind to realize "there's a reason behind it" and probably empathy from raising kids to know "the spergs weren't helped and left to mask."

Also, do you have a source for the data on the voting patterns of married vs. unmarried women? I don't mean this as in "HURR DURR SOURCE SOURCE GIMME A SOURCE" but rather I think that's a very good point and I'd like to read more. Is there pre-21st century data?

Happy to oblige:

 
Their marriage is so much worse than you think

Oh no the clown haired joke of a man runs through OF chicks to validate his masculinity. This really is peak alpha male to look like Tekashi 69 and have men still drool over your "prowess". These are the lowest silicone inflated bottom feeders he's laying with but goals boys, goals. His baby mama looks like she does because he doesn't respect the whores he sleeps with. You can't bring OF girl home to your Irish mother. Her though? No problem. That's why she's still needed.
 
A couple of years ago, I was looking to join a Discord server and they asked me to prove my identity by uploading my government ID.
I refused to do that shit because of this very fucking thing. I have no idea how that information is going to be used the second I hand it over.
For all I know, someone could be keeping it in a fucking Imgur album along side everyone else's with the title "Blackmail" for when they eventually crash out.
The fact that the woman on this app didn't even think it was a bad idea to hand over their personal info shows how completely divorced from reality they are,
If any of them ever had to face consequences for their actions (big ask, since they're looking to gossip behind the backs of men), they might have thought twice.
But that's the thing: thinking twice requires you to think in general.
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The average age seems to be around 40
The average age in usa is 39.8 for a woman
That's the advice men give each other. Women, on the other hand, gas each other up and say "NEVER SETTLE GURL A KWEEN DESERVES A KANG" and promise that their male model billionaire werewolf husband is right around the corner.

There is no male equivalent of that.
There is you just call women way out of your league mid and then pretend they are looksmatch for the average male
If you're an unattractive girl stop expecting attractive men to line up around the block trying to get some of your pussy
Bro didn't you admitted you are 4/10 and didn't you malded for some 8/10 that you were trying to bang ?
I'm tired of old bitches who are 35+ thinking they're hot shit, even though they aren't in any man's dating preferences, and simultaneously be the most demanding in terms of dating requirements while also jumping through every logical hula hoop to justify it.
Here is a novel idea : walk away . You know what women do when they find men not worth their time in general, they get hobbies and cats and walk away
Yes. They literally cannot be convinced that some guy named El Cuchillo del Diablo with tattoos of skulls on his eyelids, and a conviction in Costa Rica for septuple homicide, who got out of prison because his associates beheaded the governor's family, should not be allowed in the country, because he's an uwu smol bean and photos of ICE agents arresting brown-skinned smol beans gives them big sads
Yep that's why Trumps second biggest voting group is white women

This bro is just an illusion . We don't need wahmen because they are mean to me

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We know for a fact they like conservatism when they have kids.
They like support for big families, churchgoing, and curbing addicts and criminals, they do not in any way like the “all girls should be married to older men, subservient, and pregnant by 16” shit peddled by the Fuentes crowd, especially if they have daughters.
 
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