Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Most men end up in red pilled sphere after a court fucks them. Not before.
That might've been the case 20 or 25 years ago, but today "red-pill" ideology is pervasive and often the dominant mode of viewing intersexual relations. Even women are familiar with the concepts.
 
> that Habsburg jaw
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That might've been the case 20 or 25 years ago, but today "red-pill" ideology is pervasive and often the dominant mode of viewing intersexual relations. Even women are familiar with the concepts.
Red pill won thanks to gamergate. Feminazis have given up trying to censor it and fallen back to outright signal boosting the more cringe aspects of it like Andrew Tate in hopes of portraying him as the mainstream version of it.
 
FUCK YOU TOO BISH I AM GONNA HOLLER NOW YOUR DICK IS SMALL
/\ gay on gay violence.

No but seriously though, y'all are way too invested in people you hate.
You won't change them... ever, and your "perfect man/woman" is an illusion from a bygone era.

People from olden time married because they were forced, either by their families, or society as a whole.
So they mostly gambled and took the first man/woman passable enough to be with them until they died.
Marriage for "true" love (and the right to divorce) are shockingly recent.

And when they were introduced and normalized : it fucked everything up. It led to people trying to "minmax" their partner and "find true love"... not realizing it's not actually that common.
ROMANTIC Love aka "passion" (desire so bad it hurts) isn't an emotion most people can even feel, it's basically mania.

And now everyone hates each other and feels lost in a world where marriage has to be earned instead of being forced upon you. (which was not a thing in society before the last century)

Even if we purged dating apps and appeased the women's moral panic toward men : the root issue remains that people do not want to be married, because it's an unfun and not-so-fulfilling chore that forces you out of your comfort zone.

The whole reason for the male loneliness epidemic (except for the "I think love will fix all my problems" retard out there) is that there is still a lot of pressure for men to get women to bear children + reproductive instincts kicking in.
But this pressure is fundamentally one sided due to women not having the same natural instincts (female has the biggest cost when reproducing unlike males, so she has to chose a male fit for the job) and feminism being so strong it has led to women gaining the right to kill children before they come out of the vagina.

I'm not saying anyone is in the right or wrong here, shit's fundamentally fucked.

We either have to mandate marriage (somehow, and at the risk of creating an even more miserable society) or give up and accept the fact most people will die alone because romantic-love is a lie we accepted as truth.
 
We either have to mandate marriage (somehow, and at the risk of creating an even more miserable society) or give up and accept the fact most people will die alone because romantic-love is a lie we accepted as truth.
3 possible outcomes:
1) Western countries introduce arranged marriages and everything collapses due to political instability.
2) Those who are doing this already (the Amish, the Pajeets, the Muslims) out-populate everyone else.
3) Somebody pulls a Yakub and creates semi-artificial man-made-horrors-beyond-our-comprehension that can just mass-produce humans without all the mating bullshit.
 
The whole reason for the male loneliness epidemic (except for the "I think love will fix all my problems" retard out there) is that there is still a lot of pressure for men to get women to bear children + reproductive instincts kicking in.
But this pressure is fundamentally one sided due to women not having the same natural instincts (female has the biggest cost when reproducing unlike males, so she has to chose a male fit for the job) and feminism being so strong it has led to women gaining the right to kill children before they come out of the vagina.
Women decide when to get pregnant and it's not about risk. Most pregnancies are social pressure of feeling left out. So one woman accidentally gets pregnant and her peer group get jealous and all want babies. Then the 1 accident turns into 1 accident and 5 intentional. This happens less with birth control being every where. So it takes a woman to want to stop taking hormones that make her think she's pregnant and start going for the real thing.
 
The whole reason for the male loneliness epidemic (except for the "I think love will fix all my problems" retard out there) is that there is still a lot of pressure for men to get women to bear children + reproductive instincts kicking in.
But this pressure is fundamentally one sided due to women not having the same natural instincts (female has the biggest cost when reproducing unlike males, so she has to chose a male fit for the job) and feminism being so strong it has led to women gaining the right to kill children before they come out of the vagina.
That is the most reality defying take I have read so far on A&N. Outside of religious men there is no pressure from men as a whole to reproduce. And religious women are just as demanding of children as men, there are just less religious women among the younger generations relative to men. And saying women have no natural instincts for child rearing is just stupid. They are so desperate to use their nurture reflex that they will care for dogs, cats, birds, criminals and the mentally ill.
 
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AAAND ofc the men that have best ELO are:
– Tall
– Muscular and shredded
– In military gear
– Angular face
Lowest rated are:
– Brown
– Fat (biggest one)
– Old
– Glasses
– Fucked face structure
Advice for you guys: Unless you are a shitskin (LMAO NIGGA) or your face is a disaster (high doubt), you just need to not be fat with a bit of muscle... at least when it comes to the visual
 
That is the most reality defying take I have read so far on A&N. Outside of religious men there is no pressure from men as a whole to reproduce.
I can't really argue on that point even if I think you're wrong, because it's mostly based on observing that this was still the case, though people word it with euphemisms nowadays.

And saying women have no natural instincts for child rearing is just stupid. They are so desperate to use their nurture reflex that they will care for dogs, cats, birds, criminals and the mentally ill.
The instinct to nurture people and animals is not the same as the one to create a baby. Making a tiny being and caring for it are separate instincts and the best example is that some other mammals don't care for their young but they sure as hell do want to make them.
Nurturing something perceived as cute or weak is an instinct in both gender that we only really share with sapient mammals. (like elephants or whales and dolphins)
 
That is the most reality defying take I have read so far on A&N. Outside of religious men there is no pressure from men as a whole to reproduce.
Do you and your male friends have no relationships with your parents or something? Pretty much every normal guy is getting the same exact "when are you going to give me grandkids?" speech that every woman gets.

The difference is men don't melt the fuck down and take it as a personal attack and complain about it ad nauseam.
 
The instinct to nurture people and animals is not the same as the one to create a baby.
I might be willing to give you that since who knows how much birth control, micro plastics and other environmental factors screw with things.
Making a tiny being and caring for it are separate instincts and the best example is that some other mammals don't care for their young but they sure as hell do want to make them.
Nurturing something perceived as cute or weak is an instinct in both gender that we only really share with sapient mammals. (like elephants or whales and dolphins)
But the rest is a bit naff. There are plenty of animals with high fertility and high nurture. And humans have not speciated in the last 200 years from the industrial revolution.
Do you and your male friends have no relationships with your parents or something? Pretty much every normal guy is getting the same exact "when are you going to give me grandkids?" speech that every woman gets.
Yes but listening to your parents when you move out of the house is pretty far down the priority list. Sure you want to make mom happy, but no man is dating for the sole purpose of making their mom happy.
 
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