Women are anonymously spilling tea about men in their cities on viral app - The surveillance state equivalent of the mean girls burn book

When Cid Walker opens the Tea app, she’s greeted by a barrage of posts about men and their apparent "red" and "green" "flags."

“He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

The app, which appears to have been advertising itself online since at least last fall, allows users to solicit feedback about specific men they’re dating.

Walker, 22, is among the 4 million users on the women-only safety app, which this week became the No. 1 free app in the Apple App Store.

It picked up viral traction in the last month after some people began talking about it online on Reddit and TikTok. The app gained more than 900,000 new signups in the last few days, Tea said on social media. Getting off the waitlist can now take days, an inconvenience many new users complained about in comments on the app's Instagram posts.

Upon opening Tea, users are presented with local men whose photos have been uploaded, along with their first names. For each of the men, other women on the app can report whether they deem him a “red flag” or a “green flag” and leave comments about him, such as those recounting negative date experiences or vouching for him as a friend.

“I’ve seen so many people I know on the app, it’s crazy,” said Walker, a Cleveland-area user who joined the app last week after having seen multiple viral posts about it. “Like, oh my God, I would never think all this stuff about them.”

App users can look up individual names in the search bar or create custom alerts for specific men. The app also offers functions that let users run background checks, search for criminal histories and reverse-search photos to check whether a man is catfishing by using someone else’s photos on his dating profile.

The woman-only app was created by a man, Sean Cook, who said on Tea’s website that he was inspired after he watched his mother’s “terrifying experience with online dating,” including being catfished and unknowingly dating men with criminal records.

Cook’s profile on LinkedIn lists him as the founder of Tea since 2022. The description under his role says, “Tea was self-funded by Sean.”

Cook did not respond to a request for comment. A representative for Tea said the app isn’t offering interviews at this time.

Tea’s mission mirrors similar efforts that have gained popularity in other online forums, such as “Are We Dating The Same Guy?,” a Facebook community with millions of members across the country in localized offshoots.

While the communities have stated that their mission is to keep women safe, they have also faced backlash from men online who say they fear being misrepresented or doxxed on the platforms.

The Facebook groups, which advertise themselves as spaces for women to warn other women about “liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behavior,” have for years been criticized online for devolving into places for gossip or for spreading possible misinformation about people. Last year, judges dismissed two defamation lawsuits filed in Illinois and California by men who were posted in the groups.

With Tea, some men have posted in forums asking for others to report the app in hope of getting it shut down, and others have expressed interest in a men-only equivalent on which they could discuss and mock women.

One app has already tried to offer that. The Teaborn app climbed to No. 3 in the free apps chart Wednesday before it disappeared from the App Store.

Shortly ahead of its removal, the app had rolled out an update with “enhanced content moderation and reporting tools” after its creator condemned users for allegedly sharing revenge porn on the platform.

Teaborn told NBC News in a social media statement: “Apple just removed us yesterday because Tea app doesn’t like competition, but we are working to go back with a new brand!”

Apple didn’t respond to a request for comment.

Despite finding apps like Tea entertaining, users like Walker have expressed discomfort with the idea of allowing so many people to anonymously speak negatively about others online.

Signing up for Tea requires users to take selfies, which the app says are deleted after review, to prove they are women. All users who get accepted are anonymous outside of the usernames they choose. Screenshots are also blocked.

On its website, Tea describes itself as “more than an app; it’s a sisterhood.” The app claims it donates 10% of its profits to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

A spokesperson for the hotline didn’t immediately respond to a request for comment Thursday.

“Together, we’re redefining modern dating,” the app says.

Walker said that she has noticed many users focus more on gossip than real safety concerns but that she believes some people have found Tea useful for exposing serious issues like abuse.

“I feel like if people were to use the app how it’s supposed to be used, this could actually save a lot of women from being hurt or harmed,” Walker said. “But at this point, I think it’s like a joke to everybody and just like cyberbullying.”



 
Men when they gossip about female lolcows on the freeze peach bastion Kee Wee Farms:
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Men when women gossip about them in their NO BOYS ALLOWED clubhouse:
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Not understanding the difference between bullshitting and venting, versus gossip that leads to delirious actions against people with no evidence or recourse is a self own.

Especially because Kiwi Farms makes people show receipts. And you are on Kiwi Farms.
 
If this was true white women would be fighting each other to date pakis and vantablack niggers from countries where treating women like cattle is legal
Vantablack niggers is the funniest shit I've read today. I had to make stupid noises not to spit coffee on my office computer. I'm gonna keep that one.
 
Ayy man. I'm gonna level with you. They should get over themselves. I'm mixed race ok. You know how many times I've seen shit like nigger lover or coalburner posted in this thread alone? A lot. You'll put this energy in for pussy but nothing else. They should get the fuck over themselves. They don't HAVE to interact with people they don't like. I don't interact with people saying shit like coalburner and I'm not over her sperging out about it and trying to form an army over it. I mean this literally. They should shut the fuck up and get over it. Don't interact with those people. The site LITERALLY has an ignore button. Learn to use it.
And I'm an gay and genuinely do not give a single fuck about the naughty words and 'hatefacts' you can see all over this website. I agree with a good amount of it tbh, fuck faggots.
Unless you are directly attempting to cause physical harm to me IRL, it's all just words on a screen and has no bearing on my life.
 
Honestly, I think the hypocrisy is the worst part of this app. Sure, the doxing and possible slander are obviously bad, but if men were allowed to have their own version of tea for shaming their exes, people would realize why apps like this are a bad idea, and the market would sort it out without censorship. But instead, only women were allowed to censor men, creating an obvious hypocrisy and target for hackers. If both sides had their apps, it could ironically be a good filter for the red flags this app claims to be avoiding because if you see this app on your partner's phone, you would know they are a red flag, but instead, you have women doxing and slandering men who are not allowed to respond and Apple standing by and letting it happen, making it a prime target for hacking.
 
I'm not even joking, every nurse I ever banged was a card carrying member of the Cluster B personality disorder sorority. Either emotionally labile, or cold and emotionless robots.
Fake altruism, and virtue signaling are actually narcissistic traits.
It's the fairly easy career path a woman chooses when they lack the intelligence, and drive to become a doctor. Basically in the same category as teachers, flight attendants, social workers and secretaries. Nurses do work insanely long shifts sometimes, not saying they don't work their asses off. And then on their off days they just want to relax and fuck. But unfortunately most normal men have normal work schedules that don't align with nurse's long shifts. The last one I was with got up at 3am, worked out, showered and went to work. And I didn't see her until after dinner time. The one before that worked graveyard in the ER. Nurses can be great fuck buddies, but don't expect a normal routine. That's why the dating apps are chocked full of them. They want a stable man presence, but their career choice derailed the dream.
Heh, yeah they are freaks. I had to change my dating radius to break the cycle. I had it set to 1 mile out of laziness but I realized there was a hospital nearby. Too much crazy is a bad and dangerous thing. Also word started getting around.
 
amazing.webp
 
I'm not even joking, every nurse I ever banged was a card carrying member of the Cluster B personality disorder sorority. Either emotionally labile, or cold and emotionless robots.
Fake altruism, and virtue signaling are actually narcissistic traits.
It's the fairly easy career path a woman chooses when they lack the intelligence, and drive to become a doctor. Basically in the same category as teachers, flight attendants, social workers and secretaries. Nurses do work insanely long shifts sometimes, not saying they don't work their asses off. And then on their off days they just want to relax and fuck. But unfortunately most normal men have normal work schedules that don't align with nurse's long shifts. The last one I was with got up at 3am, worked out, showered and went to work. And I didn't see her until after dinner time. The one before that worked graveyard in the ER. Nurses can be great fuck buddies, but don't expect a normal routine. That's why the dating apps are chocked full of them. They want a stable man presence, but their career choice derailed the dream.
Dated a nurse for 6 months and would like to back this up she had some weird mental hang ups.
 
Nurturing something perceived as cute or weak is an instinct in both gender that we only really share with sapient mammals. (like elephants or whales and dolphins)
I'm not sure that's the case. Many mammals and even birds with much, much lower cognitive capacity often act tenderly toward babies and it's largely independent of the two species interacting.

They're not always terribly good at it, but you can tell they do modify their behavior.
 
Dated a nurse for 6 months and would like to back this up she had some weird mental hang ups.
Did it amount to "I'm a nurse, I help people for a job, therefore, I'm a saint in anything else I do, especially when I'm being a lying, stealing cunt, and hey, I'm secretly hooked on pills."

Because that's how that shit went for me. I fucking loathe thieves, especially pillhead thieves who make laughably amateurish attempts to gaslight and lie away their thieving. Bitch, you knew I had cameras everywhere! That's how we met! You saw me talking to my dogs through my phone at the bar!
 
And I'm an gay and genuinely do not give a single fuck about the naughty words and 'hatefacts' you can see all over this website. I agree with a good amount of it tbh, fuck faggots.
Unless you are directly attempting to cause physical harm to me IRL, it's all just words on a screen and has no bearing on my life.
I gotta respect any darkie who posts here, you gotta have kevlar skin.

Also, here's the prompt I used for the "piss towel" scene:

Write a Seinfeld scene that takes place in Jerry's apartment. In the scene, Elaine is disgusted that her latest boyfriend has a "piss towel" that he uses to wipe himself and the toilet rim clean. George doesn't think it's a big deal. Kramer bursts in at the end and is upset that he lost his favorite piss towel.
 
Dated a nurse for 6 months and would like to back this up she had some weird mental hang ups.
Real, every fucked up and weird sexual kink I have tried came from Nurses wanting me to do it and it was usually violence related, they were some absolute gold examples of sadistic/masochistic sociopaths.
Good fun, but absolutely you are in danger if you try to settle with a Nurse.
 
I admire the stubbornness of piss-towel man. Faced with the constant piss spatter of peeing standing up, normal people choose:

1) pee sitting down
2) ignore it
3) clean toilet regularly, using paper towels on floor and discarding
You forgot nr 4, piss in sink/shower lmao
 
Did it amount to "I'm a nurse, I help people for a job, therefore, I'm a saint in anything else I do, especially when I'm being a lying, stealing cunt, and hey, I'm secretly hooked on pills."

Because that's how that shit went for me. I fucking loathe thieves, especially pillhead thieves who make laughably amateurish attempts to gaslight and lie away their thieving. Bitch, you knew I had cameras everywhere! That's how we met! You saw me talking to my dogs through my phone at the bar!
I dont think it lasted long enough for me to see that sort of bi polar stuff. She just had really weird taste in Shows to watch...and was super bi-polar on if we were actually dating despite..well her sending me nudes, us having dates like once a week.

Also there was a really weird moment where she told me she imaged what our kids would look like...the day after she insisted that we were not an item.
 
This thread probably would have only gone on for maybe 20 pages of gender spergery. At most.

But we're at page 85 thanks to a fucking piss towel. I haven't laughed this hard at an A&N thread in a good long time, and I've been giving out more winner medals in this thread than Harry Truman gave out in 1945.
 
Medical field personnel are generally quite arrogant. I mean “we literally save lives” can go to your head quite fast.
Try dating a narcissistic surgeon. In my case she constantly called herself the best of the best at what she did, but when I pointed out the fact that she was only a PA (physician's assistant) who still needed an actual MD to supervise surgeries she flipped out, and threw her brand new Iphone into her wall like Mariano Rivera. This Cluster B cupcake actually said with a straight face "I feel like I've been anointed by God to what I do" Even more disturbing was when she had confirmed COVID she continued to do the surgeries on mostly vulnerable old people. When I said I didn't feel that was right, she angrily said something to the effect of "These people need me, I'm all they have " She was the most selfish, emotionally disregulated woman I ever knew. Later discovered through a mutual friend she was a diagnosed Borderline. Holy shit show that nearly year long relationship was. I get on my knees every day and thank God for slamming that door to Hell shut.
I think you have to be a little bit psychopathic to go into the medical field in my opinion.
 
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