Posted by
u/flower8330
14 hours ago
My child is non-binary. We are a super supportive home and we love them very much. They’ve made friends with a transgender boy whose family is quite religious and does not support at all. Mom takes him to extra church when “gay” things come up. She insists on pink and girlie things. She is anti. Dad would probably be supportive if she wasn’t there, but mom rules the roost. I really don’t know the parents well. She comes off as icy and i have troubles making conversation with her when she picks her kid up from our house.
The boy has slept over our house a few times. My child gave me a heads up of the unsupportive environment that he lives in. In our house we call him by preferred pronouns and his chosen name. With his parents, i have to switch to she/deadname to make sure they don’t suspect anything so they won’t cut us off. I have told him that we are a safe place and if anything happens he can always come to our home. I made sure he has 2nd floor and Trevor project programmed into his phone.
We have a pool, i offered to take him to target to get a boys bathing suit (or whatever would make him feel ok) that we could keep at our house for him; i don’t think he was ready for this and i think he was very embarrassed.
The kids are 13 and in 8th grade.
What else can i do to support this kid? I went through so much with my own child, and I’ve seen their pain with dysphoria and just living even though we are supportive.