Lolcow Andrew Peter Carlson / Anaiah Carlson / Tamarlover / Xtamarlover - Jewish/Christian Wannabe Cult Leader, Stalker, Ugly af, dogfucker, mayor of spitsville

[Gustav Schuchardt]

Anniversary dinner was homemade, and still is because it makes it more special.

Agree 100% If you're serious about someone, cook for them. If they turn their nose up at it, dump their gold digging ass.

Hey @xtamarlover, what do you think of this thread?

Also what about this? Marshall is all, like "It's my way or the Yahweh!"

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

Agree 100% If you're serious about someone, cook for them. If they turn their nose up at it, dump their gold digging ass.

Hey @xtamarlover, what do you think of this thread?

Also what about this? Marshall is all, like "It's my way or the Yahweh!"

I already answered before what I think about the drama. I am no longer involved in the drama. I will not speak on this website about Melinda any further. I wish to move past my bad past and be a better person. I think any further discussion about Melinda on this forum is detrimental to my personal progress.

I will still come here to see if anything relevant is being said. And since its alredy been established im sufficient lolcow material in other unrelated aspects, i am free to continue sharing about myself here for all your entertainment. And why would i do that? Its entertaining for me too to talk about myself but more importantly perhaps i can eventually prove myself worthy to the forum here and redeem myself or at least provide a clear and transparent overview of who i am in a way i feel justified

As for what advice people shared about dates and gifts i agree. I simply prefer to go above and beyond for my gifts and presents and dates. Not all the time but occasionally its nice to be especially special for a loved one. And going into debt to have a special time is sometimes worth it depending on your financial stability or security

 

[Rumpled Foreskin]

Andrew, still going to a brain shrink?

 

[Gustav Schuchardt]

I already answered before what I think about the drama. I am no longer involved in the drama. I will not speak on this website about Melinda any further. I wish to move past my bad past and be a better person. I think any further discussion about Melinda on this forum is detrimental to my personal progress.

I will still come here to see if anything relevant is being said. And since its alredy been established im sufficient lolcow material in other unrelated aspects, i am free to continue sharing about myself here for all your entertainment. And why would i do that? Its entertaining for me too to talk about myself but more importantly perhaps i can eventually prove myself worthy to the forum here and redeem myself or at least provide a clear and transparent overview of who i am in a way i feel justified

As for what advice people shared about dates and gifts i agree. I simply prefer to go above and beyond for my gifts and presents and dates. Not all the time but occasionally its nice to be especially special for a loved one. And going into debt to have a special time is sometimes worth it depending on your financial stability or security

Honestly dude, I wish you well.

 

[Cato]

The plan was to put $2000 into stocks every month contingent on my friend investing with me. My friend stopped sending me money for a long time now. So that is tying up my money and preventing my get rich plan from coming to fruition. Liie always i have to do everything myself. Annoyingly. So its a delay in my goals

I know I'm late to respond to this, but I'm surprised nobody else addressed this bit from you, so I feel compelled to.

"Like always [you] have to do everything [yourself]?" Seriously, dude? The reason you aren't homeless right now is because you have parents that support you and provide you with room and board regardless of how irresponsible you are and how bad your decision-making is. And most people don't have friends who hand over thousands of dollars for gambling on the stock market.

In some respects you appear to have made genuine progress compared to when you were discovered here, but come on, man. You should be grateful for what you've been given rather than self-pitying about where such generosity ends.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

I know I'm late to respond to this, but I'm surprised nobody else addressed this bit from you, so I feel compelled to.

"Like always [you] have to do everything [yourself]?" Seriously, dude? The reason you aren't homeless right now is because you have parents that support you and provide you with room and board regardless of how irresponsible you are and how bad your decision-making is. And most people don't have friends who hand over thousands of dollars for gambling on the stock market.

In some respects you appear to have made genuine progress compared to when you were discovered here, but come on, man. You should be grateful for what you've been given rather than self-pitying about where such generosity ends.

I am grateful but it is frustrating that no one else is seriously trying to help my in my goals. And my goals are good. But no one wants to make the sacrifices j am willing to make. Those who have helped me i appreciate their help but their help isnt to hring about my ultimate goals. So it doesnt help much. But every little bit helps. Even a dollar. And yes i have my parents to thank and appreciate them for more than anyone else by far in terms of what they have done and still do for me

 

[KimCoppolaAficionado]

I am grateful but it is frustrating that no one else is seriously trying to help my in my goals. And my goals are good. But no one wants to make the sacrifices j am willing to make. Those who have helped me i appreciate their help but their help isnt to hring about my ultimate goals. So it doesnt help much. But every little bit helps. Even a dollar. And yes i have my parents to thank and appreciate them for more than anyone else by far in terms of what they have done and still do for me

I have a phrase of the day for you, Andy: The Look.
As Sartre coined it, The Look is that moment when it's brought to your attention that you exist not just as the central agent of your life, but as a mere object in the lives of others. I get the impression you have never felt this, or else I think you wouldn't be so instrumental in your interactions with others: that is to say, you wouldn't treat others as mere objects in your own life, by, for example, demanding they sacrifice their own desires to fuel yours.

 

[Diana Moon Glampers]

I am grateful but it is frustrating that no one else is seriously trying to help my in my goals. And my goals are good. But no one wants to make the sacrifices j am willing to make. Those who have helped me i appreciate their help but their help isnt to hring about my ultimate goals. So it doesnt help much. But every little bit helps. Even a dollar. And yes i have my parents to thank and appreciate them for more than anyone else by far in terms of what they have done and still do for me

Yes, big sacrificer man. Spending thousands you don't have on extravagances to commemorate your relationship. Your goals totally seem well-thought-out, and the mystery of why people won't "make sacrifices" on your altar may never be fully understood.



You've shown no talent for investments, and haven't even been playing market simulations to get better. You're toying around with real dollars earned by people other than you, and spending your money before you have it. Any sacrifice made on your behalf isn't an investment or an advancement toward your nebulous "goals." It's the enablement of a serial grifter and mooch, and it's not going to help you get well.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday because i think homosexuality is wrong and she decided she cant live the rest of her life with someone who disagrees on that issue

 

[KimCoppolaAficionado]

My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday because i think homosexuality is wrong and she decided she cant live the rest of her life with someone who disagrees on that issue

Why is homosexuality wrong? If the answer is "because the Bible tells me so": being a rape victim or fornicator is exactly as wrong, but being a rapist isn't. Also, menstruation, eating clams, wearing polyester, and beating your slave to excess are all equally wrong. Also, slavery is completely right.

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

Why is homosexuality wrong? If the answer is "because the Bible tells me so": being a rape victim or fornicator is exactly as wrong, but being a rapist isn't. Also, menstruation, eating clams, wearing polyester, and beating your slave to excess are all equally wrong. Also, slavery is completely right.

Basically it doesnt matter why i believe homosexuality is wrong. What matters is she isnt open minded to my point of view and is so closed minded she cant be friends with someone who disagrees with her on that issue

 

[AnOminous]

My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday because i think homosexuality is wrong and she decided she cant live the rest of her life with someone who disagrees on that issue

tfw you hate fags so much you lock yourself out of any chance of heterosexual sex

 

[KimCoppolaAficionado]

Basically it doesnt matter why i believe homosexuality is wrong. What matters is she isnt open minded to my point of view and is so closed minded she cant be friends with someone who disagrees with her on that issue

1. Don't dodge the question, Andrew.
2. Are you honestly open-minded to her point of view? Open-mindedness is a two-way street; if you refuse to budge an inch and have her do the hard work of reconciling two different points of view for both of you, I don't blame her for leaving. You aren't entitled to anyone's time or affection.
3. We're talking about something more than friends. We are talking about a relationship that has sex and intimacy and could develop into a marriage, which is usually a very long-term commitment. It's different from being a casual acquaintance with someone who holds a different opinion.

 

[Jaded Optimist]

I might be on the opposite side compared to most people here, but that is probably a good reason to break up. Your partner for life should be someone you share opinions with, by opinions I mean deep seeded beliefs that you doubt will change in your life (things like religion, political leanings, wether you want children etc...). Not saying you can't grow and change those through your life but generally your partner and you grow and change together.

I have to ask though, did you recently start spending less money on her?

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

I might be on the opposite side compared to most people here, but that is probably a good reason to break up. Your partner for life should be someone you share opinions with, by opinions I mean deep seeded beliefs that you doubt will change in your life (things like religion, political leanings, wether you want children etc...). Not saying you can't grow and change those through your life but generally your partner and you grow and change together.

I have to ask though, did you recently start spending less money on her?

I can assure you had nothing to do with me not spending money on her. In fact me spending too much money on her was working against my favor with her she indicated

1. Don't dodge the question, Andrew.
2. Are you honestly open-minded to her point of view? Open-mindedness is a two-way street; if you refuse to budge an inch and have her do the hard work of reconciling two different points of view for both of you, I don't blame her for leaving. You aren't entitled to anyone's time or affection.
3. We're talking about something more than friends. We are talking about a relationship that has sex and intimacy and could develop into a marriage, which is usually a very long-term commitment. It's different from being a casual acquaintance with someone who holds a different opinion.

Im openminded to her view but i am biased against it. But the fact is i was the one constantly trying to reconcile our points of view and she was the one who refused to budge an inch
I was budging for her extremely, radically altering my lifestyle and goals and plans and desires to try to make things work with her. I changed positions, constantly sought compromises, etc. I will say my view on homosexuality was not the sole reason but it was the primary reason. Basically there was a number of things she didnt like about our differences but homosexuality was the main thing that made her unable to handle our differences.

I think we as in i and kiwifarms have been through this before, if you become my friend, i believe as long i didnt do anything to deserve ending the friendship, the person owes me their friendship. so yes, their time affection is I actually am entitled to.

And well she says shes unwilling to even be friends with someone who disagrees with her on that issue.

As for what the bible says on the issues you spoke of, i accept it, with the partial exception of rape. Because society's definition of rape today is ludicrous. Also the bible does support the punishment of both rapists and rape victims if they allow the rape to happen aka they arent rape victims if they actively choose not to resist a "rapist". Also as i said rape by deception doesnt exist. And statutory rape is a misnomer. It doesnt exist. If they choose to have sex it isnt rape. And the whole me too movement wirh the power dynamic being called rape is ridiculous. If you choose/agree to have sex with a person of authority over you, it isn't rape.

Doesnt take the bible to conclude homosexuality is wrong though. Just takes common sense.

And my now ex girlfriend never knew i think homosexuality is so evil it deserves death in an ideal society. I did my part to downplay my rejection of homosexuality. It wasnt good enough for her. So good riddens. Now i am free to do things by my rules. I dont waste my life trying to make her happy

 

[Cato]

Wowee @xtamarlover, you took the first flight back to Crazytown once your girlfriend's moderating influence was out of the picture, eh?

 

[Anaiah Carlson]

Wowee @xtamarlover, you took the first flight back to Crazytown once your girlfriend's moderating influence was out of the picture, eh?

No i never left crazytown. I moved to a better neighborhood. Im still over Tamar and no longer obsessive or stalking her or anyone

 

[Fwiffo]

I can assure you had nothing to do with me not spending money on her. In fact me spending too much money on her was working against my favor with her she indicated


Im openminded to her view but i am biased against it. But the fact is i was the one constantly trying to reconcile our points of view and she was the one who refused to budge an inch
I was budging for her extremely, radically altering my lifestyle and goals and plans and desires to try to make things work with her. I changed positions, constantly sought compromises, etc. I will say my view on homosexuality was not the sole reason but it was the primary reason. Basically there was a number of things she didnt like about our differences but homosexuality was the main thing that made her unable to handle our differences.

I think we as in i and kiwifarms have been through this before, if you become my friend, i believe as long i didnt do anything to deserve ending the friendship, the person owes me their friendship. so yes, their time affection is I actually am entitled to.

And well she says shes unwilling to even be friends with someone who disagrees with her on that issue.

As for what the bible says on the issues you spoke of, i accept it, with the partial exception of rape. Because society's definition of rape today is ludicrous. Also the bible does support the punishment of both rapists and rape victims if they allow the rape to happen aka they arent rape victims if they actively choose not to resist a "rapist". Also as i said rape by deception doesnt exist. And statutory rape is a misnomer. It doesnt exist. If they choose to have sex it isnt rape. And the whole me too movement wirh the power dynamic being called rape is ridiculous. If you choose/agree to have sex with a person of authority over you, it isn't rape.

Doesnt take the bible to conclude homosexuality is wrong though. Just takes common sense.

And my now ex girlfriend never knew i think homosexuality is so evil it deserves death in an ideal society. I did my part to downplay my rejection of homosexuality. It wasnt good enough for her. So good riddens. Now i am free to do things by my rules. I dont waste my life trying to make her happy

Oh dear. I suppose the answer to “Is Andrew getting better” is a resounding no.

 

[KimCoppolaAficionado]

I can assure you had nothing to do with me not spending money on her. In fact me spending too much money on her was working against my favor with her she indicated


Im openminded to her view but i am biased against it. But the fact is i was the one constantly trying to reconcile our points of view and she was the one who refused to budge an inch
I was budging for her extremely, radically altering my lifestyle and goals and plans and desires to try to make things work with her. I changed positions, constantly sought compromises, etc. I will say my view on homosexuality was not the sole reason but it was the primary reason. Basically there was a number of things she didnt like about our differences but homosexuality was the main thing that made her unable to handle our differences.

I think we as in i and kiwifarms have been through this before, if you become my friend, i believe as long i didnt do anything to deserve ending the friendship, the person owes me their friendship. so yes, their time affection is I actually am entitled to.

And well she says shes unwilling to even be friends with someone who disagrees with her on that issue.

As for what the bible says on the issues you spoke of, i accept it, with the partial exception of rape. Because society's definition of rape today is ludicrous. Also the bible does support the punishment of both rapists and rape victims if they allow the rape to happen aka they arent rape victims if they actively choose not to resist a "rapist". Also as i said rape by deception doesnt exist. And statutory rape is a misnomer. It doesnt exist. If they choose to have sex it isnt rape. And the whole me too movement wirh the power dynamic being called rape is ridiculous. If you choose/agree to have sex with a person of authority over you, it isn't rape.

Doesnt take the bible to conclude homosexuality is wrong though. Just takes common sense.

And my now ex girlfriend never knew i think homosexuality is so evil it deserves death in an ideal society. I did my part to downplay my rejection of homosexuality. It wasnt good enough for her. So good riddens. Now i am free to do things by my rules. I dont waste my life trying to make her happy

What you believe does not signify. The world and how people act are facts; you believing you are owed the time and attention of others unless you break your own rules doesn't matter, and the fact you seem to think it does is infantile.

 

[ThatGayElfFromDragonAge]

Ffs, he is still around and active. New to the thread but not the... saga... this guy is a snake. Feigns self awareness regarding his "issues" while trying to refocus on the good intentions. Reading the justfications for his behaviour is like reading "manipulation for dummies." That said melinda and her current barely literate toy are hilarious and each incompetently filed lawsuit makes me laugh harder every time. For being over her her name still comes up an awful lot.