after observing the narcissist’s reaction to direct questions or ANY question for that matter, it becomes obvious that being asked a question is a source of paranoia for the narcissist.
Ask them a question and more often than not:
1.) they pause. because they’re threatened and/or intimidated by questions because it requires them to think…
2.) they have to think about what lies they told in the past, what lie they’re about tell in that moment and maybe, what lie they’ll have to tell in the future
3.) it stumps them. all of that lying damages a person’s mind, it’s a lot of mental gymnastics to keep it all straight.
4.) it’s like they’re tounge locks up. they’ll just look at you like, “huh”?” people who live with narcissists learn to never ask them anything. they don’t know anything and don’t remember anything about anyone or anything.” (that’s an excerpt from the book What Makes Narcissists Tick”…very good reading. I highly reccomend it.
the narcissistic people I’ve known and/or dealt with for many years seemed to have a strong dislike of being questioned—especially if the question is one that directly calls them out in a way that is threatening to them in whatever way. yet, I also observed a particular narcissist being averse to answering a simple question like: “are you hungry?” “I’m going downstairs to make a snack so feel free to join me if you’d like.” to which I was given a “non-response”—-he just sat there as if I wasn’t speaking English or maybe he suddenly went deaf or maybe he was just such a fickle pickle he became overwhelmed by such a distressing question or maybe he was engaging in a childish power play—take your pick. later on I asked him if he purposely didn’t acknowledge my question just to confuse me, provoke me, anger me, basically to get a reaction from me. call me crazy but I’m inclined to think he wanted all my attention on him and what better way than to sit there like a deaf mute in complete silence? guess what? I recieved no answer to that question either. at this point you just shake your head in disdain and realize that a person who goes to these lengths just to feel in control has some serious insecurity issues.