Bootylicious smacks the nail right on the head as to how I've been feeling. I'd agree to disagree with Vic with my con friends; I get why people hate him. But if I expressed a contrary opinion, at best, they'd ghost me. At worst, they would "cancel" me.
EXACTLY, Fap! You're walking on eggshells constantly and the minute they smell "dissent" on you, you get slapped with labels ranging from endorising homo/trans phobias, catering to racist ideologies, paedophile sympathizer, or rape apologist, if not accused of those very things directly no matter how baseless those claims are, especially when you can provide written and pictorial evidence to the contrary.
Ad Hominem Well-Poisoning is, in my humble and ultimately meaningless opinion, one of the more heinous and unforgivable tactics any group can commit against an individual. It doesnt matter if there is ZERO evidence for the claim; they need only say the claim just loud enough to enough people to hear it in order to plant the seed of distrust and rumor that will spread like weeds through the community, and before you know it, half the town believes the target enjoys diddling kids and roofying unsuspecting women on the weekends, and they will have to live with being perceived that way for the rest of their lives.
It's a more potent and far more insidious strain of the Gish Gallop (which it can overlap with if abused enough); whereas one places your target on the defensive by overwhelming them with an insurmountable level of frivolous bullshit that they will then waste time and effort by going out of their way trying to debunk and defend against and making them seem "weak" to those perceiving the attack from the outside, the other attacks with surgical precision and terrible power with one swift stroke, causing everyone in the blast radius to immediately question the moral character of the target, and even retain that uncertainty long after the target's name has been cleared, by preying on humanity's most deeply held senses of moral insecurity. If someone is influenced to believe someone is a predator, they will automatically fear for their safety and the safety of their loved ones; they'll imagine the target doing these things and it triggers survival instinct alarm bells in the most basal lobes of that little lizard brain in the back of our heads. Even if shown exonerating evidence to the contrary, the thought still lingers, for they think "Geez... surely that accusation was made for a reason, right? What don't I know? Did this guy just game the legal system and buy his way out of getting convicted? Cant be TOO cautious, ya know!"
The damage is done... forever. Period. End of story. Do not pass GO. Do not collect $200.... You're done.
Trust me, when these people want someone gone, "cancelled" if you will, they'll try their absolute goddamnedest to ensure that happens by ANY means necessary, and sometimes that is as simple as just whispering into the right ear then sit back and watch as the dominoes start falling.
How the hell did it come to this? NOBODY, be it an individual and especially not a mob, should EVER be allowed to have that level of power where they can end someone's livelihood overnight with a single sentence.
As a bit of words to the wise, does it matter? I'm not trying to be an ass but if you and your friends stand on opposite sides that doesn't mean you can't be friends. I know KickVic people but we are not enemies at all. It's simply a disagreement.
I apologize. I should have clarified; I certainly DO want to remain friends with these particular individuals and cherish the moments I spend with them and the conversations we share. In an ideal world, this would be an irrelevant non-issue and we would chug along like normal as if nothing ever happened.
The sad part is, they enjoy our friendship also, but I know damn well that, having seen the same fate happen to others, that I would find myself on the receiving end of woke Kool-Aid drinking exceptionalism should I, in a moment of weakness, let any word about my affiliation of choice come to be known.
In the meantime, just gotta sit down, shut up, fly under the radar and enjoy the shitshow from the sidelines.