Got a few things to share.
First of all, Ragin' Cajun, Christianity isn't the religion of peace and you don't need to go all jihadist on anyone.
Fuck man, everytime I go to this site, I wanna make people sit down and watch an actual rape. So they actually feel traumatized.
Here's the thing about legitimate rape and sexual assault which all these fuckers are neglecting in their sob stories.
With assault victims, there is a consistent pattern of the victims blaming themselves for it and trying to dismantle their logic in regards to the assaulter. Because in the majority of these cases, there is a connection between the two that had been building. The actual grooming period regardless of age.
And yes, people who meet their idols can definitely be groomed in a short period of time. All it takes is a few compliments and sweet talking. I mean, the K-poop sex scandal with a bunch of women having been exploited by men in the industry is a good example of that crash course grooming. Hell, even looking at the women who are directly affected by the scandal paints a picture of how victims behave. The public is more antagonistic than the women but the resounding note is that there needs to be accountability. None of this "I want his head and balls" shit.
So if people would like an example of celebrity/fan relations and the aftermath of such from a varied group of individuals, there you go. Even though there are cultural differences, there is a huge disconnect in how those women handled their situation versus the liars.
And going back to Amber Heard, go read her statements and see how she lies. See the language and behavior she used in court. It's very telling. Look at any woman who has made blatantly false accusations. Zoe Quinn. That literally who chick who tried to through Kavanaugh under the bus. They all consistently behave the same way.
Now, I'm gonna relay personal experience because I recently hit a milestone in my journey of sorts moving past what I went through.
My biggest struggle moving forward has definitely been how my mind has always tried to reason with what happened. This was after making a police report in under 12h after the incident occurred. I didn't doubt what happened even if it was hard to swallow.
I kept going back to the times where this person and I were close. I kept going back to feeling like, "Well, he cared about me and was a good person before that." Or, "What did I do to cause this?" And most importantly, "I wanted him to be happy, to keep caring for me."
This is something a lot of people assaulted go through. There is more self blame and outside blame than accusatory statements. There is a process of coping and accepting what has happened. And absolutely, there are some people who are angry and wish harm to their abusers. But there is a whole mental process that people go through to process trauma, any kind of trauma. I'm sure most of you might have an experience that can give you a personal perspective. It could be anything from losing a job to being in an accident or other misfortunste occurrence, struggling to pay bills or find a job, or even a death of a loved one. There is a process of assigning blame and emotion to different aspects of what occurred, there is understanding what has happened, there's the "why me" phase, and then there is the moving forward phase.
Not everyone goes through a textbook process but you can see indications of how people cope through their perspective of what they're going through or have been through.
If you don't find evidence of that process, it's bullshit.
People saying they want Vic to lay low and get help or whatever are bullshitting. They have never divulged on their reasoning for this nor have they given a good reason for why their behavior flipped like a switch. I'm sure we all recognize this. But there is zero logic behind their statements.
With all due respect, even though she brought it upon herself, I see more evidence in Monica of her processing trauma in regards to the handling of the case than I've seen directed at Vic.
I see her struggling to cope with what's gone down and not because of what Vic didn't do to her, but because of what she opened her door to. Not to mention the fact that she's basically being forced to stay where she can't back down. Jamie and Ron and Lemoine would never let her. If you look at her behavior pattern and how she's slowly become withdrawn, how she's trying to fill a void that only really started appearing once Lemoine came on the case, she's got the hallmarks for it. But like I said, not because of her supposed assault. This would have been present beforehand and would have stayed consistent throughout the case.
But Lemoine joining up really exposed a wound and now that same wound is starting to appear on Ron. His unhinged behavior and back and forth he seems to be doing with Lemoine (such as going to Dunford for advice, taking matters into his own hands and approaching Nick) says a lot.
I don't feel sorry for them at all. But it's been something I've observed and I think it's really interesting to watch play out and how all the different people involved handle situations. I mean, look at how some people behave based on happenings in the case or in regards to its key players. I mean, when the dismissal occurred we watched some KFers and the majority of ISWV experience the five stages of grief (this statement is more of a joke than a literal fact, but yeah people had some strong emotions). And we've seen KV. We keep seeing KV and their aggressive responses where aggression isn't warranted.
I definitely invite some of the more observant Kiwis to go on a deep dive and look at how known trauma victims behave and compare it to what we've seen, as well as known liars and their behaviors.
Anyway, this is my weekly sperg. Like I said I recently hit a milestone and that brought up some strong emotions for me but I wanted to use my experience and my own struggles for something somewhat useful rather than going through the motions and doing nothing. I'm proud of myself for moving forward but some days are just rough even though it's been quite a long time.