This is what I just don't understand, Dorsia.Reservation. I hate to say this at danger of sounding old, but back in my day when a child was special or different they would be treated as such (appropriately, of course); a child with learning or physical disability, mental illness, or medical condition such as transgender would receive different treatment than the other children, designed to individually fit their needs because it is acknowledged that their needs are unique. What I am referring to was not even 20 years ago, but times have changed drastically. Still I have seen children growing up with severe disabilities, emotional or mental, who are put in regular school and treated blindly as if they are "normal", in fear that the school will be seen as discriminatory.
It is the unfortunate truth that if a child has some sort of condition or nature that differs significantly from others, we have to acknowledge the scope of these differences in order to properly assist the child succeeding.
So naturally one must take an approach to education, socialization, and parenting differently than with a normal child. Thus things like child welfare and social services must assess the home environment to different standards than the average family; the parents are raising a child that may need more support in some areas or some treatments that are not conventional. Because of this, it is a tricky way to identify if the parent is raising their child correctly and in a way that will not harm them. The same thing happened with Gypsy Rose because of her "disabilities", the social workers saw little problem with her acting high on Xanax and unable to talk because benefit of the doubt, it must just be because of her "condition" that she's acting this way. Her mother must be treating her so strangely because it is required for treating her "condition", thus it is fine to treat her that way, as her situation is different. It is SPECIAL. So we must treat her "specially", in whatever way we know how, because we simply don't understand her condition as well as the mother does.
There is no set way for dealing with trans children carefully and appropriately since it is such a newly accepted phenomenon, and thus no one knows whether to cheer or to cry at how parents like Jazz's are dealing with their child's special needs. They do acknowledge that a trans child needs special treatment, but are not sure when to give this special treatment and when to give the child normal treatment. If they are only treated special, they will feel strange and alienated; if they are only treated normal, some of their needs will not be addressed. So people will settle on trying to do both at the same time, ignoring the child's unique needs to make them feel "normal" yet focusing on how these special needs make the child "super special and good". I do not need to explain why this is not a good mindset for a child to have. "If I'm normal, why do I feel so weird? If my special needs are what make me unique and good, why do they make me feel like crap?" We have no way of knowing what many of these children are thinking because their parents speak for them. We give so much treatment to the children when really, it is the parents who need treatment. Their child is a megaphone for their own fucked up issues, a projection of what they want to rip out of themselves, and it's not fair.
I hope I live long enough to see if things have changed in the next 20 coming years, and I hope they change for the better, not for the worse.
The only toys or "favourite things" he really talked about with much depth were the cars. And the that weird, twitchy eye he got when they fell and he picked them up. I hate this.
However, I'm down for a new KF shirt & mebbe some stickers too, thank yew MassaCard!) that Mommie Dearest has been getting all sorts of tiddy skittles to give the little blighter. Perhaps he even snorted some off of Michael Alig's (doorbell chime) because to Mommie Dearest, that shit is SO cash! Just look at the kid... he's beyond rail thin, hasn't grown much & yes, I am aware that puberty doesn't always come a knockin' on 11-12 year olds bodies, but there are zero signs of the testosterone laden hormonal stew that should be simmering within him by now. I guarantee she's been giving him hormones of some sort, perhaps she's using low doses of birth control pills, of which she can just saunter into one of the many Planned Parenthood joints & get an Rx for, but I suspect it's worse than that. NYC has a huge black market for anything one would want & using the "rainbow connection," I imagine with just a few phone calls, Mommie Dearest had gotten him on hormone blockers & lawd only knows what else. This whole situation with this kid has me saddened & worried for the future of kids in this country. I hope this gender bending phase peters out & we see less "muh pronouns are" sorts being pumped out. You wanna cut yer (doorbell chime) off, change your name from Mark to Mary, or vice versa, & you're over 18; GO FOR IT! Before then; leave the damned kids alone & if your son is a tad frooty/daughter is downright macho, leave them be & let nature take it's course until they are physically grown & have some sort of handle on whether or not they want to throw away their chances of procreation, but someone needs to throw the friggin' brakes on the idiots w/ their gender fluid "theybies" & trooning out their toddlers for Victim Points™ & hyper boosted virtue signaling.
