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- Mar 25, 2019
This is getting tedious, so I'm gonna respond one last time.
My mother is a raging narcissist, I talk from experience.
The switch between Golden Child and Scapegoat doesn't happen overnight, it's not something that changes in a matter of an hour or two: the Scapegoat has to put in some extremely serious work to become a GC, and then there is no certainty that they'll become one or that their status won't go back to being that of the Scapegoat. Always be smiling, always be accommodating, never contradict them, always wear what they want, always eat what they want even if it's too much or too little, always keep your hair like they want, always get the grades that they want. Does it look like Greg did any of this?
Greg has always been average at best, even when he was trying to excel in something (ex. his "porn" photos), meaning that he has never had to work his ass off a single day in his life. He considers everything his little, stumpy hands produce to be made of gold and blood diamonds, and Tammy enforced this opinion by never punishing him, and by protecting him for the crap he put himself into so that he didn't have to go through the consequences of his own actions.
He's the GC, and that's it. If you look at his early years, he was supposed to be aborted, and he broke his skull in an accident; those were the accidents that made Crazy Tammy put him on a pedestal over his sisters, because he was the miracle baby.
He most definitely learned how to manipulate his girlfriends from his mother, but he always shows distaste for both parties involved, just like his mother did with his sisters, while he is above them and is untouchable. Even during Cuddle Gate, he made arguments against both Taylor and Billie, but never criticized himself for what he had done during those months. Hell, he made arguments of Sarah being a rapist when he was accused of raping a girl that lived with him since the age of sixteen!
Children of narcissists, at some point in their lives, realize that their parents are not good people who did everything they did to build character or because it was the right thing to do, but because they are mean, awful people. Before he gifted her with the house and then demanded rent, Greg never said anything even remotely negative about his mother: he said she's an amazing human being, a great mother, always doing her best for him. It's not something random, the fact that he was the last one of her children who was still in contact with her, while his sisters have stopped interacting with her a long time ago and reconnected with their dad. And I'm pretty sure that Greg only used to spend the summers with his dad, which was most likely because of a court mandate, not a decision Tammy took on her own (at least for him).
They have had a very weird, very incestuous relationship that never allowed Greg to fully mature into an adult and that sheltered him from the outside, grown-up world. He's a god who can do no wrong, and Tammy always reinforced that.
