So if an Incel/LS had a bad life, they are allowed to blame others for their failures? So if they had a bad life, they are allowed to say it's everyone else's fault that they do not have a partner? Is that what you're implying?
Because there are TONS of people out there that have HORRIBLE lives, far more than "oh I never got a girlfriend" or "my mommy didn't love me enough", and they grow up to do WONDERFUL things. There are victims of poverty and abuse that rise above and do great and beautiful things in this world.
For fuck's sake, there are full on celibates that go their whole lives without sex that do great and wonderful things for the world. They did not need a partner to rise above standard means and do great things... why are incels/loveshy any different? Why can't they rise above on their own? Why must they have a partner? And why is this lack of a partner a permit to do awful things without blame and correction?