Guys, lets take a step back. i think we're talking past each other.
The original argument was that Spoony's former friends don't try and help him. And that they will cry about him if he died, claiming that they all cared for him.
I think that the core of this argument is a disagreement about the definition of "help" in this context.
I don't think that expecting people to try and give Spoony tough love over the internet is a fair expectation in that context. Does that mean that if they tried to talk to him but didn't give him tough love, then they are dishonest if they cry in the scenario where Spoony suddenly dies? I think I think that the original claim was made under the assumption that they all don't care and just ignore him. Not even trying to talk. So that would be moving the goalposts.
If you have a friend that is harming himself, then it is a difficult thing to deal with, You are being put in a precarious position and making a wrong choice doesn't mean that you do not care. i was dissing Spoonys parents for being enablers, but they have the ability to tell Spoony to get the fuck up. They have leverage and authority over him (assuming he lives with them). As a friend, you don't have any of that. You can try and give tough love, but that would mean your friend will cut ties with you. There really isn't anything that any of Spoonys old friends can do for him now And expecting them to do more is unrealistic in my opinion.
Plus, this has another extra layer to it. Those guys aren't just friends, those are minor e-celebs that gets their money from their fans. If they try to give Spoony tough love, that can be interpreted as starting shit with him, and could cause unnecessary drama.