A bridesmaid posed for a wedding photo while wearing her breast pump - Because heaven forbid a woman use her breasts for their intended purpose

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Rachael Downs met her husband Tyler in nursing school.

"We're both nurses at the same hospital," Rachael Downs told Insider.

The couple tied the knot on October 25, 2019.

Downs' bridal party included five of her close friends and her daughter.

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Her daughter was her maid of honor. Amber Fletcher Photography

"We didn't have a huge wedding party," Downs said. "They were just all of the people that are close to us."

The couple's 5-year-old daughter, Spencer, served as the maid of honor.

Downs' friend Allison Hepler was one of her bridesmaids.

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They've been friends for 15 years. Amber Fletcher Photography
Downs and Hepler met their freshman year of high school, so they've been friends for around 15 years.

Hepler moved away from their hometown to go to school, but the duo remained close despite the distance.

"We just always stayed in touch," Downs said of their friendship.

"We tell each other everything before we tell anybody else," Downs said.

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They're like sisters. Amber Fletcher Photography
Hepler echoed Downs' sentiments, telling Insider they've "practically become sisters."

"I would do anything for her, as I know she would for me," Hepler said.

Hepler had an infant when Downs got married.

Hepler was still pumping for her son at the time of the wedding, so she had to use a breast pump for him multiple times throughout the wedding day.

Downs understood the experience, as she was actually pregnant with her daughter when Hepler got married a few years ago.

When they were taking bridal party photos, Downs' wedding photographer suggested Hepler pose with her breast pump on.

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Fletcher was inspired when she saw Hepler's pump. Amber Fletcher Photography
The bridal party knew they wanted to take a silly photo together based on the movie poster for the film "Bridesmaids."

When Downs' photographer, Amber Fletcher, saw Hepler using her pump, she suggested they use the setup for a one-of-a-kind photo.

Hepler just had to push her dress down to use the pump.

The picture turned out better than any of them expected.

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The picture was hilarious. Amber Fletcher
"I was so happy with the way that it turned out," Downs said. "We were trying to make it something lighthearted and funny, and it turned out better than I could have thought."

Hepler said she thought the photo was "hilarious."

Downs was grateful the photo could send a positive message about motherhood.

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The bride thinks there's a stigma around the way mothers feed their babies. Amber Fletcher Photography
"It was never a question if she could or not," she said of Hepler posing with the pump. But Rachael added that some people are judgemental about breastfeeding and pumping in public.

"There's still a big stigma around it, especially in the South," Downs said. "But you can't help where you happen to be when your baby's hungry or when you need to pump."

Both Downs and Hepler hope the photo will send a positive message about moms feeding their children — no matter what that looks like.

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Helper thinks whatever way a mother nourishes her child is best. Amber Fletcher Photography
"I believe that as long as a baby is fed, one method is not better than another," Hepler told Insider. "Just because I couldn't breastfeed but I was able to pump doesn't make me a bad mother."

Downs agreed, saying: "Any way that a baby gets fed is a good way to feed a baby. It doesn't matter if it's breastfeeding, pumping, or formula."

"All mamas are rockstars," Hepler said. "That's what I think is important."

And both Downs and Hepler think that when those mothers are feeding their children, they shouldn't be judged for where they do it either.

"You shouldn't feel like you have to go hide in a corner to feed your baby," Downs said.

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Breastfeeding, pumping, and other forms of feeding a baby are part of life. Amber Fletcher Photography
"You can't stop your life for that," Downs added. "It's part of life. So you gotta take it as it comes."
 
Ummm I'm pretty sure you can...milk yourself (eww) and have it stored in the refrigerator for times when you can't breastfeed. That's what every mother in my family has done (since it's been doable). There's no excuse for this other than GIBS ME ATTENSHUN.
 
I agree with this article. All milky mommies need to whip out their big milky boobs whenever they feel necessary, and should not be shamed. 413-4139153_mommy-milky-pepe-hd-png-download.jpg
 
>this is newswothy
Woman Does Literally Anything, Entire World Claps has been a fallback article for awful journalists since time immemorial. Sometimes it's some sad white knight who thinks being hella feminist will get him laid, sometimes it's a whore with daddy issues who thinks female supremacy will make the bad thoughts go away. In this case, it's absolutely the latter.
 
I don't understand why she can pump milk, but she can't breastfeed. Does her kid have some weird problem that makes it impossible to latch on? Or does she just not like her nipples getting cracked? I've never known anyone who would pump and use it to bottle feed when they could just whip out the breast and feed the kid. Pumping is for storing so the baby can be fed while you are at work or something. If you are available, you just breastfeed. That's really weird.
 
One of the best times of my life, was being the best man at my best friend's wedding. While I was obviously there for him, it's sort of an unspoken rule that the wedding day belongs to the Bride. I don't care how close of friends you are or anything else, it's the Bride's day, you want to get your tit out for a pic, do it on your own time.
 
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I don't understand why she can pump milk, but she can't breastfeed. Does her kid have some weird problem that makes it impossible to latch on? Or does she just not like her nipples getting cracked? I've never known anyone who would pump and use it to bottle feed when they could just whip out the breast and feed the kid. Pumping is for storing so the baby can be fed while you are at work or something. If you are available, you just breastfeed. That's really weird.
One of my kids was premie and didn't develop a workable nursing reflex so my wife had to pump and bottle feed. There's plenty of reasons to bottle feed breast milk. I'm not going to judge.
 
I don't understand why she can pump milk, but she can't breastfeed. Does her kid have some weird problem that makes it impossible to latch on? Or does she just not like her nipples getting cracked? I've never known anyone who would pump and use it to bottle feed when they could just whip out the breast and feed the kid. Pumping is for storing so the baby can be fed while you are at work or something. If you are available, you just breastfeed. That's really weird.
This is strange, like at first I had assumed she's just one of those women with a really good flow to the point it starts to hurt.
I'll admit, I am one to judge one's life choices, if your kid is young enough that he needs to be fed every half hour or so, is it really a smart idea to drag that poor kid along to a wedding?
 
It's only in Murica that I see such a fuss about breastfeeding, honestly. Nobody gives a shit, ain't shameful nor is empowering.
I don't know anyone who isn't a sexually liberated women (who usually don't have kids) who actually makes a fuss. Sure there's the occasional weirdo religious purist; but a majority of people I've witnessed don't really pay it a mind. Yeah, nursing is a fact of life, and kids need to eat; and most moms out in public have the foresight to bring a nursery blanket to cover up with as well. It's not like they're ripping their shirts and bras off and making a spectacle of themselves.
 
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