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- Dec 17, 2019
I swear, Russ does NOT care about being a songwriter. It’s not his passion, it's not what he wants to do. He wants to be famous and laid by pop stars. He picked songwriting as his avenue into that lifestyle because it seemed easiest and it’s one of the few “Hollywood” jobs you can get, working with celebrities, while being arse-ugly. If someone told him tomorrow he could be an actor, or publicist, or personal trainer to the stars or whatever, and they’re setting that up for him right now, his casio keyboard would be stuffed into the bin within the hour.
god but what a little narc he is
It’s incredible how much harassment women at the school and his work were allowed to go through because firing or booting Russ was too hard. Many women allowed to be constantly harassed, just to avoid inconveniencing one guy.
Women ARE still socialized to be nice and we’re told to tell guys who hit on us that we’re already taken, rather than just a “no”, because it “lets them down easy, it’s so hard for them to ask in the first place”...with the subtext being that it’s also safer. An outright “no” gets you yelled at or cussed out, called a right bitch who won’t give a nice guy a chance, also you’re ugly and it was a pity ask, fuck you, etc. Makes the rest of your day an angry, hurt, horrible one. If you’re lucky, there’s no yelling or swearing and the man strolls off with a passive-aggressive “fine thanks for your time, sorry to waste it, you’re too busy to talk to a decent man I guess” over his shoulder.
God help you if a creepy and persistent man tries to chat you up, they’re the dangerous ones you don’t want to anger, lest you find them loitering around your car in the parking lot later that night after work, and you have to flee back inside and beg a co-worker to walk out with you.
Getting that response over and over pretty much conditions you to turn the other way and lie to defuse a situation and avoid confrontation.
Agree about the socialization, but I'm going to disagree about "letting them down easy" as I (and many others) were not socialized that way. Scenario: Let's say you're a pretty, slim young lady, either high school or college aged. Let's say you get one of these festering ramoras either at work or school. Let's also say you never had "the talk," I didn't, and other girls have, but not in depth because it's not necessarily relevant like the requisite sex talk.
So butternut rolls up and starts attaching himself to you.
You say "No." Because you naively thought No means no. And you know nothing yet about the whiles and ways of that guy. Expect an MLM sales pitch with the usual canned responses. Also notice you start to see shades of the tard rage showing through the cracks in his slimy veneer:
* Why?
You say: Because I can't tomorrow. I've got (insert answer here).
* How about Friday then?
You say: I can't. I'll be out of town to attend (insert thing here)
* Okay, we'll hang out on Monday. alternate response: Okay, ask if you can bring a friend. I'll come with.
You start getting a picture. Slowly but surely. You say: Sorry, but I just don't think I can balance school/work/whatever and a relationship.
* No problem! We will hang out tomorrow and we can fit in something once or twice a week.
Your picture is slowly coming together like the first draft of a Lovecraft short story. Dread builds up again.
You say: I'm a lesbian.
* Okay. I'll watch. You just haven't met the "right man yet."
Get my drift?? Now you say: I have a boyfriend. You never wanted things to get like this...but here we are.
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