I think maybe we just stop trying to force them, and be more lax about it like we were in the 90s, and early 2000s.
A girl wants to be a mechanic when she grows up? Sure, let her.
A guy wants to be a fashion designer when he grows up? All the power to him.
Now forcing the two of them into those careers against their will? That's the problem.
Stop trying to force them to do things they don't want to under the guise of "progressiveness".
If they wanna do those things by their own free will, let 'em.
Otherwise sit down, and shut up. Stop using people's lives for political gain.
You say that now, but imagine how annoying it would be to live with all of them. Not to mention how expensive.