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The nigga on the right's hair looks like it's trying to flee from his pinhead lookin scalp. Step away from being cast as Egghead in the 1960s Batman, edging out Vincent Price.

Poor dog is right.
 
Longtime lurker who made this account just to say thank you. I live in an area where "free love" (codeword for swinging and poly shit) is often touted by those around me as the truest, purest, and best form of love, the ultimate goal and bestest ever relationship. It's suffocating, nauseating and horrific. If you refuse to cuck yourself, you're seen as proto-abusive, because "don't you want your partner to be happy?"

To be honest, I was breaking, it was getting to me. I feel like I get surrounded by people like this and seriously gaslit into believing this is the way the world is now. I've expressed issues with polyamory online before, and just got told to "read books and go to therapy". Even googling polyamory sends you to crack psych blog posts telling you that "it's not about you, it's about your partner". It sounds stupid, but places like this remind me that I'm sane. I feel like I'm being brainwashed at every corner to resign to a life of being cucked, but nothing is more empowering than remembering these people aren't the majority. Most of these stunted twenty-somethings grow out of it. It'll pass.

The recent online predominance of pro-poly anti-monogamy shit is a serious problem that seriously fucks with people.
 
Longtime lurker who made this account just to say thank you. I live in an area where "free love" (codeword for swinging and poly shit) is often touted by those around me as the truest, purest, and best form of love, the ultimate goal and bestest ever relationship. It's suffocating, nauseating and horrific. If you refuse to cuck yourself, you're seen as proto-abusive, because "don't you want your partner to be happy?"

To be honest, I was breaking, it was getting to me. I feel like I get surrounded by people like this and seriously gaslit into believing this is the way the world is now. I've expressed issues with polyamory online before, and just got told to "read books and go to therapy". Even googling polyamory sends you to crack psych blog posts telling you that "it's not about you, it's about your partner". It sounds stupid, but places like this remind me that I'm sane. I feel like I'm being brainwashed at every corner to resign to a life of being cucked, but nothing is more empowering than remembering these people aren't the majority. Most of these stunted twenty-somethings grow out of it. It'll pass.

The recent online predominance of pro-poly anti-monogamy shit is a serious problem that seriously fucks with people.
Welcome newfriend. You absolutely are not alone and you aren't crazy.
 
I was browsing Misha Collins' (plays Castiel in Supernatural) wikipedia page and I noticed he has been married since 2001. I thought to myself "wow, a celebrity who has been married that long? And he got married in his mid twenties? Amazing!"

I was very positively surprised. Then I did some more digging, and found his wife authored this

The Threesomes Handbook

I guess that's how.
 
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I was browsing Misha Collins' (plays Castiel in Supernatural) wikipedia page and I noticed he has been married since 2001. I thought to myself "wow, a celebrity who has been married that long? And he got married in his mid twenties? Amazing!"

I was very positively surprised. Then I did some more digging, and found his wife authored this

The Threesomes Handbook

I guess that's how.
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Oh fuck, and they have kids...
 
FWIW they seem to raise their kids well. Misha constantly posts about the kids learning to use tools, cooking, having direct contact with nature (plants, bugs and whatnot), taking donations to the poor and so on (I'm not a Supernatural fan, I follow him for his parenting style...it's nice to see kids learning useful life skills from a present father figure and not being neglected, coddled and/or raised to become self-centered little dipshits addicted to screens).

Perhaps they make an effort to keep their kids blissfully unaware of their sexual proclivities (hopefully)
 
FWIW they seem to raise their kids well. Misha constantly posts about the kids learning to use tools, cooking, having direct contact with nature (plants, bugs and whatnot), taking donations to the poor and so on (I'm not a Supernatural fan, I follow him for his parenting style...it's nice to see kids learning useful life skills from a present father figure and not being neglected, coddled and/or raised to become self-centered little dipshits addicted to screens).

Perhaps they make an effort to keep their kids blissfully unaware of their sexual proclivities (hopefully)
I remember reading a post from a fan praising Misha for being at a con greeting fans instead of being with his kid on his birthday, so I doubt that.
The fact that he posts so much of their kids lives on social media when theres so many crazy SPN fans out there just raises huge red flags for me.
 
Jesus. Imagine the stds in that "relationship anarchy cuddle puddle". Maybe there's an evolutionary and medical reason to be in a relationship and not encouraging that sort of thing.
There used to be some progressive club in the... 60s was it? I don't remember. They did some political activism and aside from that operated as a poly clusterfuck where they all made themselves sleep with each other, irregardless of sexual preferences (the men had gay sex "for the team" but gave up because they couldnt get into it). They all had a sexually transmissive rash that they nicknamed "[group's] std" and prided themselves on.
Maybe these poly fucks see stds the same way.
 
I can imagine. It seems like even since then, it's always been the same type of people as well. Same-looking, even. This has been talked about to death a couple years ago, surprising to see that even after all this time, exact same type of people with just as much lack of self awareness. I wonder why this is. Dorky glasses/overweight or stick figure dnd type dudes with gender non-conforming equally dorky "liberated" gfs. Every couple posts or so is about jealousy, STDs, conflict of some kind or sexual issue. Sounds like it functions now as well as it did back then.

Sidenote, seeing them unironically post cuck memes (playing my wife's boyfriends Nintendo switch while he fucks her) with captions like "same!" and "goals!" is disheartening and pathetic.

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I can imagine. It seems like even since then, it's always been the same type of people as well. Same-looking, even. This has been talked about to death a couple years ago, surprising to see that even after all this time, exact same type of people with just as much lack of self awareness. I wonder why this is. Dorky glasses/overweight or stick figure dnd type dudes with gender non-conforming equally dorky "liberated" gfs. Every couple posts or so is about jealousy, STDs, conflict of some kind or sexual issue. Sounds like it functions now as well as it did back then.

Sidenote, seeing them unironically post cuck memes (playing my wife's boyfriends Nintendo switch while he fucks her) with captions like "same!" and "goals!" is disheartening and pathetic.

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The first one, I know that’s a badly dressed woman, but she looks like a 12 year old boy. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with women wanting to look butch, but get clothes that actually fit you.

The second to last one...well, nobody is a bigger sexual risk to a child than their mother’s boyfriend.
 
"Compersion". I'm so confused about that. The main theme I get from these people is that they are either ignorant to or genuinely don't understand basic relationships, friendship or romantic. There isn't much to say regarding three ignorant, misguided, emotionally stunted adults deciding to live in such a way. The true face of "ethical non monogamy" rears its ugly head when they approach monogamous individuals in an attempt to convert them to the dehumanizing practice of cheating with benefits.

When those in my local community tried to get me on board with this, I was told to check out this website in order to get more familiar with "relearning" relationships. https://www.morethantwo.com/polyformonogamouspeople.html

This is worth a read just to wrap your head around this insanity. I'm kind of a romantic, so everything on this site strikes a nerve with me. I attached my personal favorite passage. May as well call this website "how to convince your partner to let you cheat and guilt them when they express any reservations".

But remember everyone, it's not about you! If you have any problems with being cucked, it's because you need to work on your insecurities, and really evaluate why you have such an aversion to being cucked! And please be respectful to Chad as he enters our lives.
 

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^These people are crazy. Why don't they just get with other poly people if they want to be in a poly relationship so bad? They wouldn't object and wouldn't have any reservations about it like a monogamous person would.

Also they say how monogamous relationships tend to be codependant but that's on the individual. A codependant person wouldn't be less codependant if they were polyamorous.
 
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