The couples accused of destroying Japan's families

By Preeti Jha
BBC News

Mari Inoue is a 34-year-old English professor in Tokyo. She got engaged to her boyfriend Kotaro Usui three years ago. A wedding, they say, is out of the question.

It's not the pandemic that is preventing them, but an archaic Japanese law that requires married couples to adopt the same surname.
Theoretically either partner could give up their family name. In practice it is almost always the woman who loses hers: one study found it's them who change it 96% of the time.

"I find this very unfair," said Ms Inoue. "We should have the choice (to retain both)."

Her fiancé agrees. He considered becoming an Inoue but some relatives were unhappy. "I don't want to make any family sad," said Mr Usui. "We would like to be able to choose whether to change or keep one's name."

Japan is thought to be the only advanced economy to stop couples holding separate surnames after marriage - through a law that explicitly discriminates against women, according to a UN committee.

Six years ago two high-profile lawsuits aimed at changing the rules failed. But the movement for reform - joined by Ms Inoue and Mr Usui - has only grown.


An age-old battle​

Surnames have long been contested territory.

In England a woman's desire to retain her maiden name was linked with unseemly "ambition" as early as 1605, wrote Dr Sophie Coulombeau.

Those who challenged the patriarchal practice met angry resistance, some eventually winning the right to use their names via landmark court cases starting in the late 1800s.

A similar battle was waged by suffragettes in the US. It took until 1972 for a string of legal judgments to confirm women could use their surnames however they liked.

More than 40 years later many in Japan were poised for their own watershed moment.

Kaori Oguni was one of the five plaintiffs who launched cases against the government, arguing that the law on surnames was unconstitutional and violated human rights.

But in 2015 Japan's Supreme Court decided it was reasonable to use one surname for a family, upholding the 19th Century rule. Only Japanese nationals who marry a foreigner continue to be exempt from the law, and can choose to hold separate surnames.
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"It felt like an arrogant teacher was scolding us," said Ms Oguni, still using her birth name informally. "I'd hoped the court would respect individual rights."
Instead the judge said it was parliament that should decide on whether to pass new legislation.

The political sphere, like most workplaces in Japan, is dominated by men. Entrenched cultural expectations view childcare and housework as women's work even if they are employed outside the home. Sexism is rife.
Unsurprisingly then the country has a poor gender equality record, ranking 121st of 153 nations in the last World Economic Forum report.

The government says it wants more women to enter the shrinking workforce but the gender gap seems to be growing - Japan slipped 11 places from the previous equality study.

'A social death'​

Since 2018, Naho Ida, a PR professional in Tokyo, has taken up the challenge of changing minds in parliament, lobbying MPs to back separate surnames through her campaign group Chinjyo Action.

For Naho, who prefers to go by her given name on second reference, the naming convention "feels like the proof of (women's) subordination".

Ida is in fact her ex-husband's name. When they married, in the 1990s, he told her he felt too ashamed to take her surname. Both her parents and his agreed the change was hers to bear. "I felt like I was invaded by my new surname," she said.

The 45-year-old has resigned herself to using Ida professionally, having published under it for decades, while remarriage has foisted on her a third unwanted legal surname.

"Some people are happy (to change), but I feel it is a social death," she told the BBC.

Signs of change​

The advent of Yoshihide Suga as Japan's new premier last year briefly raised hopes among activists like Naho, as he has openly backed surname reform.
But in December the government reneged on its goals for women's empowerment with a watered-down gender equality plan that omitted the surname issue.

It "may destroy the social structure based on family units", warned Sanae Takaichi, a former minister, at the time.

Just last week, Japan's newly appointed minister for women's empowerment and gender equality, Tamayo Marukawa, said she was opposed to a legal change allowing women to keep their birth name.

For many "a woman who doesn't want to take her husband's name disrupts much more than a nuclear family, she disrupts the whole idea of family", said Linda White, a professor in Japanese Studies at Middlebury College in the US.

She explained how Japan's traditional koseki (family registry) system, based on single-surname households, has helped preserve patriarchal control everywhere from government to big business.

Japanese society itself seems open to change. Recent polls suggest a majority favour allowing married couples to keep separate surnames.

An October survey by Chinjyo Action and Waseda University showed that 71% supported giving people a choice.

In this changing landscape nine new legal challenges are in progress. Unlike last time, when all but one of the plaintiffs were women, nearly every lawsuit involves a man too.

It appears to be a conscious strategy in a movement where many of the leading figures are framing the debate in terms of human rights rather than women's rights or feminism.

"It's more an individual identity and freedom issue" than a feminist one, said lead lawyer Fujiko Sakakibara, 67. "We wanted to show that it impacts men as much as women."

Of the 18 plaintiffs now locked in surname disputes, half are men. One is a prominent CEO of a Tokyo-based software firm who legally took his wife's surname upon marriage.

Another is Seiichi Yamasaki. The retired civil servant has been in a de-facto relationship with his partner for 38 years as they thought it was unfair for either to change names.

At the age of 71, Mr Yamasaki wants the next generation to have a choice while showing "there is demand among older people too".

In December three of the ongoing legal cases were referred to the grand bench of the Supreme Court, a move lawyers are viewing positively as it may indicate the court will make a fresh judgement on the surname rule this year.

"That male voice has made a big difference," reflected Naho, acknowledging the role of male allies in ending a patriarchal norm.

What's in a name anyway?​

The fallout of a name change on a career is a big driver for many of the women advocating reform. The burden of changing names on dozens of official documents in paperwork-heavy Japan is another.

Those who opt not to marry because of the law also cite problems in situations such as hospital care where only legally married spouses can make decisions on each other's behalf.

What it ultimately comes down to for many women though is identity.

Izumi Onji, an anaesthetist in the city of Hiroshima, took the unconventional step of divorcing her husband to get her name back. It's called a "paper divorce" in Japan as they are still living together decades later.

"That's me. That's my identity," says the 65-year-old plainly.

Dr Onji, who is also challenging the surname rule in court, knows she is one of a small minority who would actually use a revised law.

The overwhelming majority of Japanese women, like their counterparts in the UK and US, will still drop their surnames on marriage.

As Mihiko Sato (a pseudonym), a mother-of-two in her late 20s explained, adopting her husband's surname was a "natural" decision to feel "more united" as a family.

Many married British women might concur - almost 90% abandoned their names after getting wed, suggested a 2016 survey.

That the name change custom has persisted is a matter of surprise for some researchers in an era of greater gender consciousness and more women identifying as feminists.

Even those who don't, like many in Japan, say that tradition should not be used to stifle choice.

"Everyone should have the right to select their own surname," said Mrs Sato.
 
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I wouldn’t marry her. If she doesn’t want my shapes she can sudoku in hikikomori
 
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Corporation owners: "Fucking and reproducing cuts into our bottom lines!"
Well, if you make Vidya and Manga it does.

NOT fucking and reproducing affects other bottom lines, like those who make baby clothes and washing machines.
 
If she has such a problem with the surname why hasn't she looked for a guy with the same surname as hers? Inoue isn't that uncommon for her not to find a guy with whom she isn't related by blood.
That's just a petty squabble.
 
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A big reason for an academic to keep her last name is to make it obvious that her C.V. accomplishments and publication history are hers and not someone else's.

Also, licensure issues can sometimes crop up. It can get really expensive to change your name on everything.
 
A big reason for an academic to keep her last name is to make it obvious that her C.V. accomplishments and publication history are hers and not someone else's.

Also, licensure issues can sometimes crop up. It can get really expensive to change your name on everything.
Sounds like they could note their maiden name in all those places. And what would they do if they had someone else in their field with the same first and last name?
 
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Surnames help prevent inbreeding by keeping strict track of one genetic line, and defaulting to the man's worked just fucking fine for millenia. Why do progressives always have to try "fix" what was never broken to begin with?

Also, don't the women who insist on keeping their maiden names as a way to bash the evil patriarchy realize that those names are also descended from male ancestors?
Japan is thought to be the only advanced economy to stop couples holding separate surnames after marriage - through a law that explicitly discriminates against women, according to a UN committee.
FUCK the UN, seriously.

If a man even suggested he take my surname instead of me taking his I'd instantly lose interest (and if I was a man and the woman balked at taking mine I'd lose interest as well). Cuck.
 
I feel stupid for saying it, but couldn’t you just legally decide to take one Suriname for both partners then in any other scenario use different last names? Like. That isn’t so fucking hard, is it?
 
Surnames help prevent inbreeding by keeping strict track of one genetic line, and defaulting to the man's worked just fucking fine for millenia. Why do progressives always have to try "fix" what was never broken to begin with?

Also, don't the women who insist on keeping their maiden names as a way to bash the evil patriarchy realize that those names are also descended from male ancestors?

FUCK the UN, seriously.

If a man even suggested he take my surname instead of me taking his I'd instantly lose interest (and if I was a man and the woman balked at taking mine I'd lose interest as well). Cuck.
It's also kind of a lie-- how dose the law discriminate against women if either person can add themselves onto the family registry of the other and assume their surname?
 
>implying they aren't doing it out of malignancy for malignancy's sake
The subversive culture of critique tribe members at the top, who've been pulling the strings and promoting this garbage for decades (centuries?) know exactly what they're doing, but a lot of the whiners on social media are useful idiots who have unfortunately been convinced that they have in fact been "oppressed" since the beginning of time. They are dyed-in-the-wool, true believers. Unrelenting propaganda can be hard to even question, let alone overcome, so part of me feels sorry for them. Not that sorry, but a little bit.
 
With the advent of genetic tracking, the concept of surnames as family line trackers are rapidly becoming obsolete. Within the next generation, people will be known and their family relationships outlined by their mitochondrial DNA, not by some random jumble of syllables. By the time Japan unties the knot in its dick and finally grants this small but very basic human right to its women, it'll already be pointless.
 
I've heard a lot of opinions on the matter, and they never seem that thought out. One group claims surnames are unimportant and of no value, therefore people should be able to choose as they please. But if surnames is such a non issue, why throw such a fuss about it?
Other group claims it's super important for personal identity, in which case, does clinging to your old family really take precedence over uniting your new family?

The man is fully able to take the woman's family name instead. If it's that important for you to cling to your father's surname and your husband refuses just replace him with a cat you crazy bitch.
 
There have been cases of the man taking the woman's family name, it's just less common. Much as how many women will simply attach the mother's maiden name to their last name.

In this case the man is adopted by his in-laws. It can be negotiated when a (usually rich/powerful) family has one daughter and their name will die out with them, or for them to run the family business, or some other reason.
It's not simply taking the surname, it's pretty much a full divorce from your own family to be adopted by your new one. In most cases you give up your original inheritance, too (but gain a new one). It's called becoming a "養子" (youshi)

In any case, this article is simply not true. I'm guessing Japan must make an exception for marriages between a foreigner and a Japanese woman because I know of multiple instances where neither surname was changed.

They have superstitions about number of strokes in the kanjis of babies first name and surname in Japan but still change their surnames later when/if they marry, unlike in China.
 
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