I would. But I wouldn't claim it's anything but reprehensible, either. The 41% is a lazy, stupid meme post, but I'm easily amused by shit like that. There are also trannies I'd never consider deadnaming, but not one of them is here. There are a couple I never actually have deadnamed, though, for whatever reason.
My general policy is if someone starts out an asshole and then gets worse, I preempt them by being an even bigger asshole.
I can understand that, and I apologize, I should have elaborated more. It'd be wrong of me to try to change anybody here, that's not really what this is all about. And at worst, as long as there aren't any trolling plans/irl "visits" planned (which, thank goodness, are explicitly against the rules of the site), I assume that this is mostly blowing off steam/making exceptionally crass jokes. I certainly don't think, hope, or want to accuse anybody of acting exactly like they do here in real life! I just always want to be respectful, no matter where I am, at a basic level about that. And that's not something any web administrator can change/enforce, that's just my determination for myself as a person.
That, and I've unfortunately worked with people who acted about as heinously in a professional setting and then doubled down repeatedly because it was "necessary gallows humor" or something like that, so I can't get too judgmental!
This is why I reserve it for people who deserve respect, and very few people with (lolcow) threads on here deserve it. Irl exceptions obviously are if you're in a workplace you don't shit where you eat, so you don't go out of your way to offend people. And then there are people who are actually good people who just happen to be trans, as opposed to aggressively fake troons who don't even pretend to have gender dysphoria or any real reason to give a fuck about their stupid pronouns.
My thing about this is that if I assume every nonbinary/transgender individual is the kind of person we tend to mock here, the people that will abuse people's desire to help them to inflict more pain upon other vulnerable persons, then it'd sort of be like assuming that every Democrat is like Moviebob, or every straight man is like Russel Greer, or every white guy is like Jack Scalfani. It's why I don't want to make 41% comments or anything like that in response to this situation, because what I think makes this truly horrifying is completely distinct from Near identifying as nonbinary.
If the story is accurate and there isn't/won't be any new information released, then they died. They died on the phone with somebody who they thought would help them, or at least provide some comfort that they desperately needed in their final moments. Somebody who evidently just hummed along with the last music Near would ever hear as they lackadaisically prepared a manifesto given power by a death that they, by their own admission, seemingly did
nothing to prevent. And that is so far beyond anything that I can consider okay or acceptable that, well, it's more comforting to talk about almost anything else. God willing, I hope that Near has found peace. And I'm just so ashamed and sorry that they couldn't find it even among their friends.
