But wouldn't that make me a hypocrite? If I'm being an asshole too, then that invalidates my complaint on the last page.
They're not friends. Stop being a doormat.
Context is everything. There is a time for diplomacy and a time for shutting people down. A lot of people will dig in no matter what you say, so you might as well pick the diplomacy option. They'll slit their wrists before they ever admit fault; but perhaps you gave them something to chew over overnight, so they'll come around the next day.
That's a nice way to look at it, James. I have tried diplomacy in the past, but one thing I learned the hard way many times is that assholes will rarely ever think about what you said. Even worse, their enablers won't listen to you either. If they did, then they'll only ruminate on your diplomacy to figure out how to tell you you're wrong. That's been my experience. Granted, there were a few rare times in my life where diplomacy worked. I wish it worked more often. It's better than having stupid, pointless fights.
Just accept that people, by and large, are clinically insane and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with them.
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I have the opposite peeve. People who fly off the handle if you offer "help" because they want to feel independent. Now I make eye contact from afar in hopes they surrender and ask for help.
Sounds like my brother. I love my nieces but they’re also spoiled little brats and it’s because he and his vapid bimbo of a girlfriend would rather sit and play MMOs or stare at their phone all day instead of teaching their daughters basic mannersPeople who don’t teach their children basics. Then take them out in the world & unleash the ill behaved brats on the world.
Then complain that they have been bad parents, their kids behavior actually embarrasses them, but, rather than teach a couple 7 years olds fucking basic shit, the parents prioritize “me” time.
Like dancing or dates out, or their fucking feelings…then weeks, months pass; the kids still scream, break shit, shit that belongs to other people or stores, etc, & lie. The kids misbehave so bad.
They likely prefer negative attention over none at all. Fucking shit parents. Teach Basics, even just basics. Such as, not to break shit, don’t yell, tell the truth, think about others.
But the parents are so busy w/ their own head trip, BS, they model that to the kids. Then the parents say, “I feel so bad, I need to get them help, etc.” & the parent never follows through, still has a bratty, shitty, kid. It’s the parents fault
