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20 Obvious Signs A Guy Has Never Had A Girlfriend​

Izzy Casey
08/06/2021

Guys who have never had a girlfriend — are they shy or downright players?

The reasons why some guys never have a girlfriend vary, and they aren't all bad. Maybe he's been focused on school or his career, or just genuinely hasn't found someone he liked enough.

Your interest in a man shouldn't be determined by his dating history. You deserve true love, and just because he's never had a girlfriend doesn't mean he isn't worth committing to — you just may need to approach the relationship a little differently.

Here are 20 ways to spot guys who have never had a girlfriend.​

1. He's awkward on the first date.​

You can easily spot the signs a guy has never had a girlfriend if he’s mega-awkward on the first date. Sometimes it takes a few dates for someone to warm up to you and truly be themselves, especially if they haven't had much practice.

If there’s not a spark right away, don’t be alarmed.

Hey, it's better than dating a guy who knows how to literally charm the pants off of you just to ghost you (that is if you’re seeking a long-term commitment.)

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2. He's not a great communicator.​

If he's been in a long-term relationship before, he's had to learn how to use "I feel" statements.

Men who haven't dated anyone before will have to learn how to communicate with a romantic partner.

3. Obvious cues go over his head.​

Are you trying to hint that you want a smooch, but he's just not taking the hint? He might honestly have no idea what your goal is!

4. He doesn't mention any past relationships.​

Chances are if he doesn't tell you that he's had an ex, he probably doesn't.

5. He is too eager for commitment...​

Sometimes you can tell a guy hasn't had a relationship based on how excited he is at the prospect of dating someone.

Is he dropping the "I want you to meet my parent's card" way too soon?

Anyone who has been in a serious, committed relationship knows that the process of establishing a relationship takes time.

6. ...Or he's not eager enough for it.​

There's the shy guy that's never had the guts to date a girl, and then there's the guy who is commitment-phobic.

If he's trying to delay the "what are we" talk as much as possible, it could be that he's not ready for a partner.

Or, he's terrified.

7. He doesn't cook for you.​

If he eats like a bachelor king, then he probably is.
No girlfriend would be happy with potato chips for dinner!

8. He has unrealistic future goals.​

If he's not taking you into account, that's a sign he doesn't know what he's doing.

9. He's so obsessed with video games that it hurts.
This one's definitely a stereotype, but a stereotype worth considering.

10. He never plans your dates.​

If he doesn't plan any dates, it's probably because he's never had the experience of someone getting annoyed at him for not putting in any effort.

This problem is easy to fix, you can just let him know you'd like him to pick up some of the dating slack.

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11. There's no evidence of an ex on social media.​

It could also be a sign that he deleted all evidence of her if the breakup wasn't amicable.

But still, you can usually tell if someone's been single forever based on their social media.

12. He can't hold eye contact for more than half a second.​

A guy who can barely look at you on a date probably doesn't get that close to others often.

A shy guy can be a relief to date. While it's difficult to get him to open up, you're less likely to worry about other people catching his eye.

13. Compromise is difficult for him to get behind.​

Anyone whose taken their romantic relationship seriously knows this lesson all too well.

Compromise is the key to keeping a relationship afloat.

If the apple of your eye is taking the "my way or the highway" approach, it's a sign he's gotten too used to flying solo.

14. He's nervous to initiate any physical contact.​

Feel like you're making all of the big moves? That's a sign someone is new to something.

15. He's shy in the bedroom.​

This can take the pressure off of you to impress him, which can ease any anxieties you might have.

Besides, if it's the right person lack of experience doesn't take that much of a toll. Everybody has to start somewhere.

16. He complains about being "friend-zoned."​

Too many hot takes on the concept of friend-zoning is a sign of an unlucky love life.

Men and women and people who have had relationships are less likely to have anything to say about how frustrating the friend zone is.

17. He only has one pillow for his bed.​

Do you really think he had someone else sleeping in the same bed as him with only one pillow?

18. He has a twin bed.​

Same logic as the rule above.

If you want someone else sleeping in the bed, it's time to upgrade, bud.

19. He's a virgin.​

Does this one really need an explanation?

20. He's not a big flirt — or very good at it.​

If they've never had a girlfriend, they're probably not very good at flirting.

Or talking to women in general.

What To Do If You're His First Girlfriend​

If you're his first girlfriend, the worst thing you could do is make it a big deal.

You might have to be a little more patient or initiate a little more, but what's so wrong with that?

Women can do anything, so why not take the lead?

If he's never had a girlfriend, it doesn't mean he's an awful boyfriend, but it doesn't make him a better one either.

Everybody has a different story — ask him his, get connected.

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[Screw Danlon]

21. He has sex with his mother and brags about it via text messages.

 

[Milwaukee Macho Man]

I was thinking about this today. It's kinda retarded that I can't just be single because I don't want to deal with women in relationships.

TPTB want you in a relationship because people in relationships spend more money.

People in relationships who want you in a relationship probably are miserable and want you to be miserable too.

 

[Hollywood Hitler]

>Taking dating advice from a 3
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Ah, I see. She's mad that nobody has ever asked her out.

 

[Queen Elizabeth II]

Some of her examples aren't terrible but the way she phrases them is awful.

That and the casual sexism; very shocking for a supposedly progressive empowered woymxn (Not).

I'm 100% behind her with the video games though. There are people who can game in moderation, but far too many more these days who cannot. Same as meth, not even once.

 

[Long Tongue Silver]

>Taking dating advice from a 3
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Looks like she's already hit the wall. Let's see if she's still writing articles in 5-10 years about hectoring the poor sap who gets hitched to that chuck wagon.

 

[Sneed's Feed And Seed]

19. He's a virgin.​

Oh boy, it's the "can't get experience without a job, can't get a job without experience" bullshit CEOs pull.

 

[Smolrolls]

I should add that the women in blue cities who are dead-eggers like the woman who wrote this article, the ones who support #metoo and that men are rapists etc...actually believe articles like this. They believe in shows like Sex in the city because that's what they grew up with, and anything that's on T.V. like the gospels called CNN, FOX news much be held sacred and true. Anyone or anything in the internet that disagrees with these prophets must be heretics.

TLDR: dead-eggers worship the T.V., Everything said by the T.V. is right think, anything, & anyone, outside T.V. is wrong think and should commit suicide.

 

[Stoneheart]

7. He doesn't cook for you.​

If he eats like a bachelor king, then he probably is.
No girlfriend would be happy with potato chips for dinner!

Why would you cook for a woman? they dont have any taste.
Just get a ready made salad for your date and make yourself a steak-

 

[Yamma Damma]

Where is this broad getting these signs from, old Seventeen mags from 2002?! there's no way in hell her dating experience is beyond a vibrator and "her cousin that one time" if she's this retardedly analytical and picky with men.

There's no evidence of an ex on social media.​

It could also be a sign that he deleted all evidence of her if the breakup wasn't amicable.

But still, you can usually tell if someone's been single forever based on their social media.

CREEP ALERT. Social media is not real life. The less of it is on there the better.

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>Taking dating advice from a 3
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In another time and another life, these two could've met and prevented so much hurt and sadness......but still contribute to the rise in autists.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

That was literally a requirement to even consider dating me when I was single. The only guys I know that are “obsessed” with vidja are either touched by the Tism or under the age of 17…Video games aren’t a basement dweller nerd hobby anymore. When my normie friend is talking about playing Ghost of Tsushima or Stardew Valley after work, it’s pretty evident that it’s no longer a niche activity for kissless virgins.

Are the people in media and “journalism” aware that The Breakfast Club and Revenge of the Nerds came out 40 years ago? Actually, after re-skimming this list I’m almost positive this is a copy+paste of a Teen Vogue article I read in the supermarket checkout when I was in middle school. And I’m not sure I haven’t read the same—or a tragically similar article—over the last decade in various online publications.

Nowadays it seems like chatting about video games is one of the main ways men bond/make new friends, just like sportsball talk used to be.

But the thing is, the vidya depends on the subculture. Video games to normalfags means GTA, military shooters, Assassin's Creed, sports games like FIFA, LOL, the latest trendy competitive multiplayer. They have a very narrow range of games to talk about. And if it came off Steam instead of out of a box, they're not going to know about it at all.

And obsession is still definitely an introvert thing. Being a "gamer" as opposed to playing games. Gamers tend to make games a huge part of their life, to the exclusion of other things and to the development of a broader personality.

 

[TowinKarz]

The obsessing over bed size is a tell..... Especially the way she says "spend some money" to "fix" it..... if people can do it in the backseat of cars, they can do it on a twin bed.


That's a pretty big red flag: I intend to move in with you at the earliest possible convenience to me, and that simply won't do for somewhere I'll be sleeping every night.....

And obsession is still definitely an introvert thing. Being a "gamer" as opposed to playing games. Gamers tend to make games a huge part of their life, to the exclusion of other things and to the development of a broader personality.

There's a big difference between "Can't see you tonight, Honey, there's a big game tournament livestream I have to watch" vs. " Me and the guys game on Friday nights"


vs. "I'm over 18 and still have a console I use from time to time"

Bet this writer's idea of "obsessed" is , well, "I'm over 18 and still have a console I use from time to time"

 

[Queen Elizabeth II]

Nowadays it seems like chatting about video games is one of the main ways men bond/make new friends, just like sportsball talk used to be.

But the thing is, the vidya depends on the subculture. Video games to normalfags means GTA, military shooters, Assassin's Creed, sports games like FIFA, LOL, the latest trendy competitive multiplayer. They have a very narrow range of games to talk about. And if it came off Steam instead of out of a box, they're not going to know about it at all.

And obsession is still definitely an introvert thing. Being a "gamer" as opposed to playing games. Gamers tend to make games a huge part of their life, to the exclusion of other things and to the development of a broader personality.

There are women who avoid men who watch sports for similar reasons; there is in the UK a strong tendency in some middle class circles to dismiss soccer watchers as "Yobbish", lower class and too chavy to touch. We really don't have this back home and it's a curiously English thing despite it being their main sport.

Rugby is more acceptable, albeit someone who went every game would likewise be unacceptable for the same reason a gamer would be (Too much leisure time, lacks ambition).

Not everyone is like this, and all our red flags can be wildly different

 

[big ups liquid richard]

19. He's a virgin.​

Oh boy, it's the "can't get experience without a job, can't get a job without experience" bullshit CEOs pull.

Just fuck a prostitute if you can't get laid. Its not hard. Anyway, the article doesn't say avoid virgins, it just says virgins are spergs and easily noticeable by normal people.

 

[Ughubughughughughughghlug]

There are women who avoid men who watch sports for similar reasons; there is in the UK a strong tendency in some middle class circles to dismiss soccer watchers as "Yobbish", lower class and too chavy to touch. We really don't have this back home and it's a curiously English thing despite it being their main sport.

Rugby is more acceptable, albeit someone who went every game would likewise be unacceptable for the same reason a gamer would be (Too much leisure time, lacks ambition).

Not everyone is like this, and all our red flags can be wildly different

Nobody wants a partner who is completely one-dimensional. Unless they're superficial and that dimension is attractiveness.

 

[LurkTrawl]

17. He only has one pillow for his bed.​

Do you really think he had someone else sleeping in the same bed as him with only one pillow?

What kind of fucking freak only sleeps with one pillow? Fuck I have like five.

 

[The Lawgiver]

The kind of person described in the article is like the shitty consoomer "relatable" ad depiction of men where they're like all lame and bumbling and the message is "haha videogames men bad dumb amirite?" This is the kinda shit that makes incels the way they are lmao. I mean, that on top of the whole "sex entitlement" thing they also probably got from ads. Ever like thought about the potential for shit like that? People basing their entire existence and worldview off really shitty ads? Probably at least one person like that out there.

 

[Sped Xing]

Odds are this bitch can't boil water and she is out here throwing shade on a man providing potato chips. Very few people actually know how to cook these days and it has nothing to do with how many relationships you've been in. The major factor i've noticed is how poor or rich people are; it's an inverse bell curve. The rich tend to learn because it's a hobby and the poor do it because you save tons of money not eating out.

I can cook well enough to feed myself, but I took women out to dinner instead, because "look I can make you a pot of rice and beans for our date" screams "cheapskate."

What kind of fucking freak only sleeps with one pillow? Fuck I have like five.

I have no pillows. I sleep on a folded woolen blanket. Pillows are shit nowadays; mostly air.

 

[Hollywood Hitler]

What kind of fucking freak only sleeps with one pillow? Fuck I have like five.

I need two or three for my head, and one for my side. I love pillows.

 

[Jet Fuel Johnny]

These articles always read like an alien trying to give advice.

Women get fucking weird about the strangest things.

I had more than one get all weird because my little house (I moved off post as soon as I got to CONUS) was decorated, had furniture, pictures on the walls. You know, it was my home. It was clean, decorated nicely, and was comfortable to me.

"It just feels like I'm competing with the rest of your life/your friends/your past."
"It just feels like I'm being judged when I come here."
"I don't feel like there's a place for me in your life."

WTF, bitch? Did you expect a fucking hovel with dirty clothing thrown everywhere, half-eaten cans of food in the sink, and empty booze bottles everywhere?

 

[idosometimes]

I know a certain lady from Ruckersville, VA, who could have used this information about two months ago...

17. He only has one pillow for his bed.
Do you really think he had someone else sleeping in the same bed as him with only one pillow?

18. He has a twin bed.
Same logic as the rule above.
If you want someone else sleeping in the bed, it's time to upgrade, bud.

He might just be poor. The opposite does not mean he is slaying (boi)pussy either. I have a queen bed with 6 pillows and the only "pussy" that's been on it is my cat.