I wonder if Chantal would have stayed with Peetz (as a girlfriend) if he had slapped her around a bit. This recent saga is telling me the answer might be yes. Perhaps it represents some weird missing discipline that she never got in her life and is the only way to make her behave in non-revolting ways?
I'm inclined to agree with you, but I don't think it's as simple as "mom never spanked me so now I crave being spanked".
I think she needs to be kept "on her toes" in some way. She takes people for granted if she doesn't feel like she needs to work to keep them. Everyone's like this to some extent, but even on her channel she takes her audience for granted. It's shocking how little work she puts in to keeping them, and she makes less and less all the time.
With Bibi, she had to at least act normal sometimes. She needed to make an effort at personal hygiene and tidying up the apartment. She had to hide her pizza boxes, literally and figuratively. That was half the fun for her, doing enough to keep him whilst secretly rebelling and being a pig. Over time, it became less secret. I don't know what straw broke the Bibi's back -- maybe it was her infertility, maybe he just had enough -- but she was genuinely surprised on some level when he called it quits. She thought she had him locked down and could do what she wanted.
Like how she cheated on Peetz, aborted his child, shit talked him to the entire internet, used him to pay for her cat's vet bills, ditched him repeatedly, moved in with him and didn't keep up her end of the bargain for housework/cooking, etc. She does exactly what she wants and Peetz just accepts it. If he'd put his foot down, he'd have set a boundary that she'd need to maintain -- at least officially, and at least for a while. In fact, I'd bet that he did at one point, which is why she was ever interested him in the first place. It would make sense if he was someone she needed to conquer and dominate. That dynamic meshes with their entire relationship, from what I can see.
She will never have a real relationship because she's either pursuing someone who's shitty to her in an attempt to prove herself worthy, or despising someone who literally accepts anything she throws at them because they're obviously beneath her. It's always a hierarchy, never a partnership. She's the abuser or the abused. That binary is all there is -- the authority figure vs Chantal who needs to rebel and in time becomes her own version of an authority figure, one who dictates what treatment her victim will tolerate from her. That's how she sees authority figures -- autocrats and bullies.
So, yeah. Some "discipline," in that sense, gets her off because she thinks she's earning the respect of someone above her by brushing her hair or submitting to their actual physical abuse or whatever. But it's temporary and she'll get defiant/resentful/frustrated and act out eventually. She hates that someone has the power to compel her behavior, even if it's just as simple as not eating her dinner with a backscratcher. But she also wants that person to admire and respect her, because anyone who displays contempt for her is above her.
She wants to be a sexy influencer without losing weight or making any effort at branding herself. She wants to be famous and admired without doing anything of consequence and preferably while making the least effort possible. She wants to be loved -- that is, obeyed and submitted to -- but by someone who dominates her and is superior to her in every way.
She's beyond broken. She can never move forward when she's pulling herself in two directions like this. And there's no possible way she can turn this around mentally or physically; she's too far gone. Her body's dying and so is her psyche.
Lol.