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As a trans masculine person, my period doesn't trigger feelings of anxiety - until I have to buy menstrual products labeled 'for women'​

Canela López
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  • I'm a trans masculine reporter who writes about sexual health.
  • My period has never made my feel gender dysphoria, but the way periods are framed as "only for women" triggers my anxiety.
  • I want more companies to stop gendering bodily functions and make trans-inclusive period products.
My period has never triggered feelings of gender dysphoria as a trans masculine person, but the way people talk about menstruation and frame it as a "women's issue" makes me experience feelings of dread and discomfort.

Gender dysphoria describes the deep anxiety and emotional turmoil many trans people experience when something about their body does not align with their ideal gender presentation. Many things can trigger dysphoria for trans people, and the way we're excluded from conversations around basic bodily functions is one of them.

As a sex and relationships reporter, I get hundreds of pitches a week from companies to review their period products. From period panties to tampons to menstrual cups, my inbox is filled with emails about products marketed as "for her" or "feminine care."

Some days, I can ignore the honest mistake many PR representatives and companies make when trying to sell these products. Other days, I feel like I want to scream and curl up into a ball, in part due to my own dysphoria, but also because I know gendering periods makes it even harder for trans people to access adequate menstrual care.

While I don't have dysphoria about my period itself, it's hard not to feel triggered when I get my period and have to rely on gendered pink products or information. It's an added stress that makes it even harder for me to take care of myself.

Gendering periods can make it harder for trans people to receive proper medical treatment​

The gendering of periods doesn't just make trans people dysphoric - it makes it harder to get the gynecological care we need and deserve.

According to the 2015 US Trans Survey, one in three trans people have had a negative experience at the doctor, ranging from verbal harassment, to misgendering, to physical trauma. Some trans masculine people are refused care altogetherbecause OB/GYN offices are seen as "women's spaces," the report found.

Before I found my current trans-inclusive clinic in New York City, I had experiences with gynecologists who would misgender me, deadname me, and use extremely gendered language around menstruation, making it feel unsafe to bring up any actual concerns.

The 2015 report also found 28% of trans peopleavoid the doctor because of this kind of mistreatment.

Research suggests gendering periods leads to oversights like universities only putting tampons in women's restrooms, which can leave trans men and trans masculine students unable to access tampons unless they enter a space where they don't feel comfortable. According to a report by the National Center for Transgender Equality, 60% of trans people have avoided public restrooms.

Shifting our language in small ways like saying "people who menstruate" when we talk about who gets a period can be a big step towards making menstruation care trans-inclusive.

Overall, gendering periods perpetuates the harmful myth that your body determines your gender and makes it even more difficult for trans people, like me, to live our lives.
 
"Gendering periods can make it harder for trans people to receive proper medical treatment"

But not gendering them makes it harder for girls and women to receive proper medical treatment. Young people, people with limited English skills, and people out of the woke loop are going to find it harder to know whether they can be affected by menstrual issues, which are already not spoken not discussed enough. Ask a 9 year old girl whether she is a "person who menstruates" and she won't have a clue.

By all means ask for a blue inclusive version of products, but insisting that this can be the only way is ridiculous.
 
Let's say one period takes about 15 tampons (5 days * 3/day, when used at a rate of one per 8 hours).

That picture appears to be a case of 34 tampons, so it should last 2 months and all this triggering is over a 6 times per year purchase.

If that's really too much to handle, there are bulkier 96 count packages that would last half a year at both Sam's Club and Costco. If you don't have either membership, Amazon has a 188 pack that should last a whole year.

This doesn't happen any more frequently than your taxes if you don't allow it to. And all three aforementioned stores do have an order online / ship to home option, so it's not like you have to even set aside a specific day of the year to physically go and deal with it.

While I don't have dysphoria about my period itself, it's hard not to feel triggered when I get my period and have to rely on gendered pink products or information.
Pads/Tampons come in different sizes, both because flow differs from day to day and because it varies from person to person. Products tend to be color coded so if someone has to use multiple products throughout their cycle, they can more quickly identify and grab the one they need that particular day. (Also so they can avoid printing words on the products and embarrassing the women for carrying the products, I imagine). I've seen yellows, blues, greens, purples, orange... In eco/reusable things, I've even seen clear and brown. And in really cheap products (free tampons programs), I've seen white.

I have no doubt that pink products do exist, but I feel like it would be harder to deliberately find and use pink products every day than it would be to avoid them. Case in point, the photo in the OP features blue tampons with yellow accents.
 
I was skeptical about xir's story, so I checked out a box of tampons in my bathroom, and it didn't say "for girls." It did however say that the packaging was purse resistant-- certainly triggering language for unprivileged menstruating people who cannot afford purses or who carry wallets in their masculine back pockets.

There was also a website listed called "beinggirl.com." Reader, I literally shook. My browser stopped me twice telling me it was unsafe (seriously; it kept telling me this tampax site was a virus threat) but I went anyway because I wanted to see what toxic material they had dared to publish. It's ALL women on that site. We know that men have periods. This is worse than Afghanistan.
 
She looks like a lesbian. If she wants to go to the women's room for a tampon no one will bat an eyelash.

people who menstruate

Sorry but we're tired of hearing this language that excludes women from women's health because some tranny feelings might be hurt.

You already got Always to take the female sign off their packaging.

As for everything being pink, she's holding up a box that is blue, green and yellow. Maybe try to find the right packaging first? Oh wait... Your dysphoria. Sorry.
 
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