Autism you witnessed IRL - share your stories

[John Andrews Stan]

If he's still little, maybe the mother will wisen up a bit in the years and learn to say ''no'' to the kid and educate him a little. Nowadays seems that saying ''no'' to your kid or punishing them - non phisically, mind you - is basically abuse, when instead some discipline can help form the character. I don't say to use physical punishments, but take away the Playstation for one or two days, turn off their Internet, stuff like that.

Not gonna PL too much here, but I’ve been pretty humbled in recent years to learn just how much of kids’ “misbehavior” is down to an unmet need or a skill they haven’t yet learned. I’m sharing this POV in case it helps someone.

Spoiler: Behavior sperging

Kids, autistic or otherwise, don’t have the cognitive development or language skills to communicate directly (“I know you want me to sit still, but I don’t know how to do it for longer than a few minutes”). So they act out. It’s up to adults to learn to identify the unmet need or lack of skill that’s behind this behavior.

I always thought it was hugely unfair to be held to the same standards as adults when I was a child, but damned if I didn’t find myself having the same inappropriate expectations of kids when I had my own to deal with. Hell, just asking for help is still kind of tricky, so it makes sense my kid might start whining instead of saying “I need help” — especially if they’re feeling embarrassed along with it. The behavior isn’t something they’re “doing to me.” It’s immature to imagine otherwise.

I’ll add that I was raised with a lot of BS about “respect,” with parents who’d take even a facial expression as an insult when they were completely disrespectful to their own kids — calling names, hitting, etc. Luckily it made me allergic to authority instead of growing up into a bootlicker. I want all kids to become adults who think critically and question authority at appropriate times. Which means while being shown complete obedience today would make my life easier, it’s unreasonable to expect and would probably not bode well for my kids’ adult lives.

My understanding of autism is that it can include extreme sensitivity to textures, tastes, smells, and specific physical sensations. I know non-autists who can’t bring themselves to touch a wet sponge or cotton balls, so it’s not shocking that an autistic child might only feel safe drinking a certain way. It’s funny but I do feel badly for him. Life isn’t going to be easy for that one.

 

[DoomsdayElite]

I was waiting to board a bus this afternoon, and a couple of guys next to me were talking about what they like/dislike about wearing masks. One goes "I just don't like when it gets hot, it's hard to breathe"-we were outside, and it was well over 90 degrees, but of course they were both wearing masks (and incorrectly, of course-their noses were still exposed). Once we get on the bus, this scholar is still delivering his thesis. "Just think about how less likely it is people will get sick now" and reeled off some ailments. Colds, the flu, etc.

 

[Quantum Diabetes]

I was doing random Wikipedia shit and was looking up failed tv shows and hit upon a memory.
There was this short lived Chad Lowe sitcom named “Spencer”, kinda standard teen in high school with family show.
A kid in our class became immediately obsessed with it and kept drawing huge, spurting cocks on the chalkboard and writing “Spencer” under it. It was a few times before the teacher put an end to it.
I think she liked the cocks.

 

[Captain Syrup]

Train stations. I saw a girl wearing hot-pants the other day, and some older dude was yelling in her direction, calling her names, "you dress like a ho, I'll treat you like one", "I wouldn't let my wife dress like that!", and so on. He then turned on me: "You got somethin' to say?" Meanwhile I'm just trying to refill my card.

It's obvious she rebuffed his advances and he decided to make a scene. Public transit brings out the weirdos.

 

[Quantum Diabetes]

Train stations. I saw a girl wearing hot-pants the other day, and some older dude was yelling in her direction, calling her names, "you dress like a ho, I'll treat you like one", "I wouldn't let my wife dress like that!", and so on. He then turned on me: "You got somethin' to say?" Meanwhile I'm just trying to refill my card.

It's obvious she rebuffed his advances and he decided to make a scene. Public transit brings out the weirdos.

I was in Chicago for lollapalooza a few years back, the red train was stuck at Howard with the doors open. (I had a air Bnb in a shitty spot)
This cracked out homeless guy kept opening cans of cheap tuna and emptying them into the gap between the train and platform. He finished emptying the third can and tapped the gap with a spork and then started screaming all white people should die.
So half of his behavior was normal.
I’ve seen just more normal chimping in Boston or Atlanta. Those Chicago peeps have some real fucked up people there.

 

[Str8Bustah]

I witness autism every morning when I look in the mirror.

 

[Captain Syrup]

Those Chicago peeps have some real fucked up people there.

The worst part is, given a choice, I'd still live in Chicago. IMHO, the most livable of any U.S. city.

 

[MysticMisty]

Funny thing, she would also set the TV to turn off after an hour as to not make me play vidya all day on schooldays. Did anyone else's parents here do that?

I don't know about an hour, but there was a time where my mom would say I had to turn off a game for a while and read a book instead. Luckily I always had my door shut (and locked) and had to keep the TV down fairly low by default so all I had to do was turn it down lower and keep going.

 

[Captain Syrup]

I don't know about an hour, but there was a time where my mom would say I had to turn off a game for a while and read a book instead. Luckily I always had my door shut (and locked) and had to keep the TV down fairly low by default so all I had to do was turn it down lower and keep going.

Back in the days of rear-projection TVs, my mom's boyfriend would check the TV set to see if it was warm. Clever bastard.

 

[Blue Canary in the outlet]

Autism working at it's best not only witnessed but experienced first hand. It's powerleveling, but fuck it.

A "friend", not really a friend more someone I'd talk sometimes, works at Gamestop is somewhere on the spectrum.
When I'm in town and got nothing to do I'd chat a bit with him and his boss.
One day we were talking about consoles and he asked me about consoles my hubby and I use. I said, he's more an XBox guy and I'm more a PlayStation gal but I haven't played really anything recently.
Then he went: "Yeah, you two had other plans."

He referred to my miscarriage. Out of the blue. Insensitive as fuck.

And I was baffled how he made this stretch. Since then I don't talk to him.

 

[Broseph]

Autism working at it's best not only witnessed but experienced first hand. It's powerleveling, but fuck it.

A "friend", not really a friend more someone I'd talk sometimes, works at Gamestop is somewhere on the spectrum.
When I'm in town and got nothing to do I'd chat a bit with him and his boss.
One day we were talking about consoles and he asked me about consoles my hubby and I use. I said, he's more an XBox guy and I'm more a PlayStation gal but I haven't played really anything recently.
Then he went: "Yeah, you two had other plans."

He referred to my miscarriage. Out of the blue. Insensitive as fuck.

And I was baffled how he made this stretch. Since then I don't talk to him.

Jokes on him he's gonna be out of a job in a few months, give or take.

 

[Captain Syrup]

Jokes on him he's gonna be out of a job in a few months, give or take.

They targeted gamers.

 

[Monika H.]

Autism working at it's best not only witnessed but experienced first hand. It's powerleveling, but fuck it.

A "friend", not really a friend more someone I'd talk sometimes, works at Gamestop is somewhere on the spectrum.
When I'm in town and got nothing to do I'd chat a bit with him and his boss.
One day we were talking about consoles and he asked me about consoles my hubby and I use. I said, he's more an XBox guy and I'm more a PlayStation gal but I haven't played really anything recently.
Then he went: "Yeah, you two had other plans."

He referred to my miscarriage. Out of the blue. Insensitive as fuck.

And I was baffled how he made this stretch. Since then I don't talk to him.

Damn I'm sorry that happened to you, I feel for you.
There's always some asshole that has to say their stupid comment when that happens. When we had ours, we had a Herbalife hunbot trying to guilt trip us, according to her if we boughtt her stuff ''nothing would have happened.''

 

[NerdShamer]

When we had ours, we had a Herbalife hunbot trying to guilt trip us, according to her if we boughtt her stuff ''nothing would have happened.''

It's the norm, unfortunately.

At least a spud that a local grocery store hired as a cashier didn't do anything wrong; but he just scanned the items as slow as you'd expect and he was reassigned to cleaning duty within a month.

I haven't seen him around, lately. But at least he managed to get a job, unlike an third of the people who gets a thread on here.

 

[Blue Canary in the outlet]

Damn I'm sorry that happened to you, I feel for you.
There's always some asshole that has to say their stupid comment when that happens. When we had ours, we had a Herbalife hunbot trying to guilt trip us, according to her if we boughtt her stuff ''nothing would have happened.''

Fuck me, that's horrible.

One of the worst thing someone sent to me was: "Try to see it this way, even if it's hard. Maybe the little soul didn't suit you and god made room for another soul."

Fucks sake.

 

[MysticMisty]

It's the norm, unfortunately.

At least a spud that a local grocery store hired as a cashier didn't do anything wrong; but he just scanned the items as slow as you'd expect and he was reassigned to cleaning duty within a month.

I haven't seen him around, lately. But at least he managed to get a job, unlike an third of the people who gets a thread on here.

Gonna take a guess and say that he receives government tard services, which entitles him to government tard vocational rehab services, who have ties to programs that have deals with companies to have visible retards working at public job sites*. So it's more that a team of people got a job for him so he wouldn't sit around all day, and also have a chance to interact with people that aren't paid to be around him and other retards.

*This only applies to actual retards, and only those receiving government tard services. If you're blind or deaf and have trouble finding work, VR can "help" but only in the absolute bare minimum, which is fucking nothing, but the way they phrase it makes it out to seem more impressive than it actually is initially.

 

[NerdShamer]

Gonna take a guess and say that he receives government tard services, which entitles him to government tard vocational rehab services, who have ties to programs that have deals with companies to have visible retards working at public job sites*. So it's more that a team of people got a job for him so he wouldn't sit around all day, and also have a chance to interact with people that aren't paid to be around him and other retards.

*This only applies to actual retards, and only those receiving government tard services. If you're blind or deaf and have trouble finding work, VR can "help" but only in the absolute bare minimum, which is fucking nothing, but the way they phrase it makes it out to seem more impressive than it actually is initially.

He looked like he had Down's Syndrome and it took a lot of effort for him to move his hands scan each item, which is consistent with the condition.

What you said is probably what happened.

 

[Monika H.]

One of the worst thing someone sent to me was: "Try to see it this way, even if it's hard. Maybe the little soul didn't suit you and god made room for another soul."

That's just horrible. I get that in their misguided minds they were doing their best to console you, but that's still something horrible to say. Some people just say the worst things thinking they are actually doing well.

 

[L50LasPak]

Quite a few years back when I was working at a shitbox ghetto grocery store a woman came in with a kid who looked around 16-19 or so. According to his mom he was apparently some kind of autist and thus could not shut up about how uncomfortable the store made him. The part I remember clearly is "I don't understand how this place even, exists,". The gist I got was that knockoff stores made him uncomfortable to be in.

Anyway I flat out agreed with with him when they got up to the register, which I'm not sure his mom (or caretaker?) was terribly thrilled with but man I fucking hated that place so much and I wasn't gonna let him walk out of there thinking he was wrong.

turboautist, you were telling it totally how it was.

 

[FeatureAC]

Autism working at it's best not only witnessed but experienced first hand. It's powerleveling, but fuck it.

A "friend", not really a friend more someone I'd talk sometimes, works at Gamestop is somewhere on the spectrum.
When I'm in town and got nothing to do I'd chat a bit with him and his boss.
One day we were talking about consoles and he asked me about consoles my hubby and I use. I said, he's more an XBox guy and I'm more a PlayStation gal but I haven't played really anything recently.
Then he went: "Yeah, you two had other plans."

He referred to my miscarriage. Out of the blue. Insensitive as fuck.

And I was baffled how he made this stretch. Since then I don't talk to him.

get your tits out