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- Mar 27, 2019
You're a good bloke, @Doggo. I was also a victim of one of Lou's freak-outs for reasons I won't publicly go into because it would potentially give my PL away to him. But this was before he became a world famous internet scammer. I'm an optimist too and don't try to think bad or say bad about anybody unless I've concluded that they are actually a dangerous person. But after watching Lou go off on me and my friends when he didn't even know any of us was it. He wouldn't listen to reason. He wouldn't even listen when gently told to stop, which is what triggered his freak out. My friend group who does not know about this forum still speak of him as 'that apeshit dude'. We're not mean people either.
And I know that you still want to refer to Louis as 'she' out of respect for trans people, but I've seen him spit on RL women and sling every vulgarity and female-coded insult he can at them when he's losing his shit. I understand if you can't bring yourself to do it, but I cannot call that thing that holds nothing but contempt for the gender he claims to be 'female'.
I also want to add that I am a staffer at a large furry con, although I won't say which. (Lou will probably try to guess, but he'll be wrong) And although I can't disclose details lest I reveal too much, I'll just say that if I happen to see you at the convention I help run I will give you extra special nice treatment to the best of my ability.
You're a good bloke/chick too, Turael. Sadly, once people lash out at something or someone, it does kinda become a drug for them, maybe with even the same releases of the brainy-go-makey-worky hormones in some ways. So it makes it easier for them to do it again. I'd like to think that some folks may not think so much about how their words and/or actions can hurt other people. I like to think they're ignorant of this, but I know that sometimes, they absolutely know that their words and/or actions are hurting people, and this is why they do it. I'm not saying anything here, I'm just saying.
I still like to think that Ace is oblivious to any pain they may cause others, and hope that one day they'll realize.
As far as cons go, I'll take it you're in freedomland. I'm kinda down here in a country that flat earthers don't think exists, because they think it would be upside-down. Little do they know how right they are. But I am hoping that once this virus settles down, Freedomland chills out a bit with the protests and riots, and of course I'm in a better position, then I can tour some furry cons, maybe even with my (quasi-)partner, and another friend or two over in the States. I think my (quasi-) partner would love that, even though he isn't much of a furry himself, ditto my friend(s) up there who are furry. Hopefully one day! Maybe if you take a trip down here to one the few cons we do have, then we could meet that way. It'd be lovely to say hi! You're a lovely person, yourself. <3
I’m the same re: Lou’s “pronouns”. It’s not a big deal to me and if you ask me to refer to you as a specific pronoun I’ll do it although if you expect me to remember your “tikitikitembononosarembocheriberiuchipiperipembo-self” neoprounouns I’ll avoid you just to avoid a slap fight.
But Lou? He’s pretending to be transgender for pity bucks. It’s all part of his lie. He’s claimed to have come out and be “new to this whole trans thing” on multiple conflicting occasions, he makes absolutely no effort to present anywhere except in the spaces he’s grifting, he lies about his area and family being transphobic given that through my own PL-related contacting I can confirm there are plenty trans people in his area that feel safe and happy there, and bigoted outbursts or uncomfortable situations are few and far between.
He’s not trans, he’s a man, presents as a man, and only claims to be trans in the same way he claims to be black and Jewish and Native American and everything under the fucking sun. He thinks it gets him more pity and more money, so he lies about it. Simple as that.
I'll address the two comments about being trans together, if I may. I absolutely understand where you guys are coming from. Likewise, I have no doubts in my mind, at all, that *some* folks may be simply claiming to be trans, only for the perceived benefits of being trans. That said, it is *extremely* hard for me to bring myself to misgender anyone. I believe I misgendered people before in my previous posts just to try and fit in, and honestly, that kinda kept me up at night. The reason why I find it so hard to supposedly misgender someone, is twofold, really. First, I have a surprising number of trans friends, and they're all wonderful people, whom I love very much. Some of them might be a bit, um... socially awkward, but hey, I am, too, even if I am trying to work on that. That doesn't mean I love them any less for being different. All I'll ever ask is for someone to be themselves, and all I'll ever ask of someone's gender, is simply what their gender is. Beyond that, I try my best to not question it, even if things don't 'feel' right for whatever reason.
I hope you guys can understand my position. Just know that I don't think of you any less for misgendering some people featured here, nor do I necessarily disagree with you. I just find it hard to misgender someone from their requested pronouns, unless it is categorically proven that they outright admitted "I am not trans, I am doing this purely all for attention and money." Maybe then I would change my tune. And maybe this is a case where I *should* change my tune, but at least for the minute, I don't feel comfortable misgendering anyone; not Ace, not Chris, not even Yaniv, and they're a steaming pile of shit. But I just cannot bring myself to call them 'sir'.
Thank you again, very much, for listening, and understanding. As always, that means a lot. <3