Adoption?

Connor Bible

Connor Bible

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To be honest, I'm kind of ambivalent about the entire idea of taking in and raising children (especially newborns) that aren't your own. While in an ideal world, adoption would work, you've got to realize that humans are humans. I've read and seen a lot of horror stories about fucked-up adoptive parents screwing up or outright killing their kids. It takes a special breed of scum to take in a needy child and then fill it with all their negativity, disappointment, and hatred.
 
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I support the idea of giving a home to a child that needs it. Its also good for well off couples that cant physically have children (due to the womens medical problems) My problem is in domestic adoptions the biological parents can fight for the child back. Sorry, you fucked up, this is my child now. I'm not a fan of open adoptions (where the mother stays in the child's life as "auntie" of a family friend) I feel like that's asking for trouble.
 
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Connor said:
While in an ideal world, adoption would work, you've got to realize that humans are humans. I've read and seen a lot of horror stories about fucked-up adoptive parents screwing up or outright killing their kids. It takes a special breed of scum to take in a needy child and then fill it with all their negativity, disappointment, and hatred.
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I've read horror stories about fucked up parents killing their biological kids.
This is a shitty parent problem, not an adoption problem.
 
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raymond said:
Connor said:
While in an ideal world, adoption would work, you've got to realize that humans are humans. I've read and seen a lot of horror stories about fucked-up adoptive parents screwing up or outright killing their kids. It takes a special breed of scum to take in a needy child and then fill it with all their negativity, disappointment, and hatred.
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I've read horror stories about fucked up parents killing their biological kids.
This is a shitty parent problem, not an adoption problem.
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I'm adopted. I've never met my biological parents, though I'd like to someday. My parents were great and they loved me completely. They are my real parents. I like the idea of adoption far more than abortion. There are so many wonderful people out there who would make awesome parents who are simply unable to conceive. My wife and I have had a difficult time conceiving. We've had at least one miscarriage and really lucked out with Little Dude. We've been trying to have another kid since Little Dude was born with no luck. In short I am an adoption supporter.
 
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My parents were considering adopting before they had me because of the trouble they had conceiving. My mum has a condition that makes it really difficult to get pregnant, and I found out a few months ago that I have it too. Ideally, I want to be able to have a child, but if that doesn't happen I would adopt without hesitation.

The thing that I find a little disturbing is the portrayal of adoption sometimes in the media. Here, in a popular soap opera there's a character who was adopted. She's been nothing but awful to her adoptive parents, and I can imagine people thinking that older children who could be adopted would be like that.
 
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I honestly don't know what the OP is trying to get at with the thread. Shitty people exist. Some of them adopt. I've known enough adopted people in my life to know that there are good ones too. So basically... idk life?
 
jaijai said:
The thing that I find a little disturbing is the portrayal of adoption sometimes in the media. Here, in a popular soap opera there's a character who was adopted. She's been nothing but awful to her adoptive parents, and I can imagine people thinking that older children who could be adopted would be like that.
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Yeah, adoption is kind of a hack-worn concept when it comes to works of fiction. I've considered writing a story involving adoption myself, but I don't want to piss anyone off.
 
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Some people just shouldn't be parents, whether they adopt or have kids naturally.

I know a middle aged couple who adopted a little girl from a teenage mother who nearly had an abortion; she was on the steps of the abortion clinic but decided she couldn't do it. I haven't seen them in awhile, but she's about 14 now IIRC. From what I remember, the biological mom tried to take her back, but she relented and let the couple adopt her.
 
DrChristianTroy said:
I honestly don't know what the OP is trying to get at with the thread. Shitty people exist. Some of them adopt. I've known enough adopted people in my life to know that there are good ones too. So basically... idk life?
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We all have our prejudices.
 
I'm more for adoption than I am procreation. The world's already overpopulated as it is and there are millions of children that need homes.
 
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You probably are. I don't like misanthropes. The world isn't dark enough that such behavior is anything more than irritating to me.

My younger sister was adopted when she was a teenager after her biological mother decided that she wanted to run off across the ocean to live with her internet boyfriend, and she just "had to find a place to live." Because of this, my sister went from living in a hotel with a filthy redneck who viewed her as essentially a tax deduction to a loving middle-class family and a better school. We've given her a million more opportunities in our home than she ever had with her biological mother, and a chance to make something of herself away from an abusive parasite.
 
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jaijai said:
The thing that I find a little disturbing is the portrayal of adoption sometimes in the media. Here, in a popular soap opera there's a character who was adopted. She's been nothing but awful to her adoptive parents, and I can imagine people thinking that older children who could be adopted would be like that.
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One of the portrayals that bugs me the most is when the child is adopted and has only known their adoptive parents their whole lives, the people who have loved them unconditionally and supported them.... All is well.....

Yet as soon as the bio parents show up, the child kicks their adoptive parents to the curb to be with their "real" parents.

It's one of the things that annoyed me the most about Winx Club.
spoiler, just in case:
In the movie, Bloom reunites with her bio parents and almost immediately starts calling her adoptive parents -- who, whenever we see them, have been nothing but loving towards her, supportive of her choices, and accepting of her powers -- by their first names. Her bio parents are her "real" ones even though she's never even met them before this.
What makes all of this worse is that this is a show for little girls. This is a (potential) role model in the show.

Remember, kids! No matter how much they love you your adoptive parents will never be your "real" parents and should be tossed aside when your REAL ones show up! Who cares that these people don't know anything about you and that your adoptive parents were the ones who raised you lovingly and patiently? (an exaggeration, but I hope I made my point)

I'm just of the mind that a parent is determined by actions rather than blood. This bothers me so much. Also, my mother is adopted.
 
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Connor said:
I've read and seen a lot of horror stories about fucked-up adoptive parents screwing up or outright killing their kids.
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That shit goes both ways, you know...

"Adoptees are 15 times more likely to kill one or both of their adoptive parents than biological children.”
 
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You know it took me years to understand that I was not a monster for giving up my kids. Hearing things like the OP didn't help. I wanted to kill myself for it more then once, and it is still a struggle at times. I know I am not a bad person for doing what I did. I know that my kids are happy and well. They say I love you to me all the time. I don't need to be called mom to know that it is true, but hearing things like this cut deep in an old wound. Not all adoptions are bad.
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Having their grandparents adopt them is pretty much the best thing possible in a situation where their biological parents aren't ready. My mom was single between my ages 2 and 17 and for a lot of that time my primary caretaker was my grandparents. She worked night shifts so it did feel like she wasn't ever around.

After around Middleschool we moved for her job (a distance just long enough to change school districts) and as a result I spent the majority of my days alone from 13 and up. It was a very isolating experience that didn't do much for my social development. I'd say that in that case it may have been better to just leave me with my grandparents for a few years, at least until I was old enough to drive. I wouldn't doubt your decision because of this.
 
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That shit goes both ways, you know...

"Adoptees are 15 times more likely to kill one or both of their adoptive parents than biological children.”
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Connor said:
If Jennifer Garner's character adopted me as an infant, I wouldn't regard her as my mother. I would show her no respect, pity, or even mercy. She'd be nothing to me.
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