Asexuality

[Scratch This Nut]

I wanted to make a thread about it instead of talking about it in the LGBT threads, because I don't really think it fits. A lot of people don't seem to think it's a thing and that people who feel that way are making it up for attention. Personally I think that it's valid and I don't really care if someone identifies as it as long as they don't add all of that tumblr demi shit. What about you guys? Any asexuals here?

 

[Dr. Meme]

not wanting to bang someone shouldn't be part of your identity. a lot of people i knew who identified as asexual still masturbated or had sexual thoughts. i'm not saying its fake but i'm gonna say that its only real in people who are literally so mentally retarded they can't understand the concept of sex.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

not wanting to bang someone shouldn't be part of your identity. a lot of people i knew who identified as asexual still masturbated or had sexual thoughts. i'm not saying its fake but i'm gonna say that its only real in people who are literally so mentally retarded they can't understand the concept of sex.

I wouldn't put it that way, but in some cases, yeah. Some autistics tend to be asexual for obvious reasons. They can't really grasp the appeal of it.

Asexuality is a thing, like not being interested in golf ("agolfia"?) is a thing.

I think it's more comparable to atheism.

 

[wheat pasta]

I can definitely understand some people being uninterested in sex, in all honesty I thought for a long time that I was asexual myself.
Some people like to fuck people, some people like to fuck cars. Some people don't like to fuck anyone or anything. It's that simple, really.

But of course, as was said, I don't think people should see it as an identity any more than any other sexuality. That's the issue of it. Ideally an asexual person would be like anyone, in that their sexual preference is not the first thing they tell you about themselves.

 

[bradsternum]

I think there's too much labeling in general. Asexuality can either be its own thing - a genuine disinterest in sex, including sexual acts like masturbation. It can also be a romantic interest without sexual attachment. It can also be an intense denial of an underlying sexuality. It can also be the byproduct of some sort of trauma.

So, who the fuck knows?

 

[AnOminous]

I wanted to make a thread about it instead of talking about it in the LGBT threads, because I don't really think it fits. A lot of people don't seem to think it's a thing and that people who feel that way are making it up for attention. Personally I think that it's valid and I don't really care if someone identifies as it as long as they don't add all of that tumblr demi shit. What about you guys? Any asexuals here?

It's like that shit euphoric atheists say. It's a sexuality like bald is a hair color.

I doubt many people are asexual, but there are probably a few. It's more a spectrum where some people have a sex drive that is not particularly high to the point that practically any other interest the person has is more important.

Nobody gets fucking persecuted for it, though. People get persecuted for who they bump uglies with, not for not caring about it. You can tell this because there's no one syllable slur for it anyway. Anyone you beat the shit out of, you need a good short slur for. Nobody ever shouted at someone that they're a no pussy getting motherfucker and then beat them up for it.

You can't even imagine this happening in reality. "Hey there, you not interested in sleeping with anyone kind of guy, I'm gonna kick your ass!"

 

[MarvinTheParanoidAndroid]

Nobody gets fucking persecuted for it, though. People get persecuted for who they bump uglies with, not for not caring about it. You can tell this because there's no one syllable slur for it anyway. Anyone you beat the shit out of, you need a good short slur for. Nobody ever shouted at someone that they're a no pussy getting motherfucker and then beat them up for it.

No, there is a slur for this; virgin. People who beat up virgins often equate them to homosexual people. Sometimes they're outright accused of being gay; the logic is that they only refrain from fucking someone of their sex because they're afraid of being caught, therefore they fuck nobody.

As for it being a real sexuality? No. It is defined as being the absence of sexual drive of any kind, therefore there is no sexuality, which means it doesn't count.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

No, there is a slur for this; virgin. People who beat up virgins often equate them to homosexual people. Sometimes they're outright accused of being gay; the logic is that they only refrain from fucking someone of their sex because they're afraid of being caught, therefore they fuck nobody.

As for it being a real sexuality? No. It is defined as being the absence of sexual drive of any kind, therefore there is no sexuality, which means it doesn't count.

I think I used the wrong word in my poll. I should have asked if it was real, not a sexuality.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

I think that asexuality really exists
It is already in the DSM

 

[Derbydollar]

I have an asexual friend, they seem to be legit about it.

Integrating it deeply into your identity seems a bit worthless.
My friend doesn't like me telling them that, though lol

 

[Picklepower]

Wouldn't calling it a sexual identity, be like calling atheism a religion?

 

[bradsternum]

Fun fact: Edward Gorey was asexual. Not like Morrissey "asexual," like actually asexual.

 

[KatsuKitty]

You're not asexual if you have a libido. I'm just gonna say that.

Getting rather tired of people literally making no sense when they claim to be "asexual" yet have a ferocious libido for inflation vore porn.

Being unable to have sex with someone because you have problems that aren't high-priority to fix isn't the same as being truly asexual.

 

[Scratch This Nut]

You're not asexual if you have a libido. I'm just gonna say that.

Getting rather tired of people literally making no sense when they claim to be "asexual" yet have a ferocious libido for inflation vore porn.

I've seen people say that they can have a libido, it's just aimless. I don't believe that.

 

[autisticdragonkin]

I've seen people say that they can have a libido, it's just aimless. Don't really believe that.

Anal Vore isn't a sexual orientation. They are distinguished by being so degenerate that they lack a sexual orientation

 

[caffeinated_wench]

It exists, and it's not necessarily because of trauma or anything like that.

Some people don't like broccoli and will avoid it like the plague.
Some people don't like broccoli but will eat it anyway.
Some people are interested in art, some are not interested.
Some people like blue, others don't.

And some people just aren't interested in sex. It doesn't mean they can't/don't have sex or masturbate. Some people just have a very low sex drive or even a nonexistent one. Some don't display any sexual attraction ever, others only display a sexual attraction after they make a strong mental connection with someone.

It's over-simplifying, I know, but it exists.

 

[bradsternum]

You're not asexual if you have a libido. I'm just gonna say that.

Getting rather tired of people literally making no sense when they claim to be "asexual" yet have a ferocious libido for inflation vore porn.

Being unable to have sex with someone because you have problems that aren't high-priority to fix isn't the same as being truly asexual.

This is true, but we have to draw a distinction between sexuality and a perversion/fetish. I don't think Kinsey was thinking "jackin' off in ma fursuit" when he made his eponymous scale. The current models don't really go beyond human (normal?) attraction.

 

[AnOminous]

This is true, but we have to draw a distinction between sexuality and a perversion/fetish. I don't think Kinsey was thinking "jackin' off in ma fursuit" when he made his eponymous scale.

Only because that giant perv hadn't thought about that yet. He probably would have if he had.

 

[女鬼]

others only display a sexual attraction after they make a strong mental connection with someone.

Are you really trying to sell us the whole demisexual thing?


Honestly, there's probably a rare few people out there that have absolutely no sexuality whatsoever.
But asexuality has been wrapped up in a lot of snowflake rhetoric thanks to places like AVEN and Tumblr.

Splitting attraction in a thousand categories- acting like sexual and romantic feelings are completely separate, making shit up like "primary" and "secondary sexual attraction", is something that strikes me as particularly tupid.
There's no such things as a "biromantic lesbian" or "heteroromantic demisexual".

There's also a fundamental misunderstanding of how non-asexual people operate, which lead to the creation of bullshit identities like demisexual and gray-asexual.
Sorry, but"only wanting sex sometimes" is not an orientation.

And in my experience, a lot of Internet asexies tend to be very homophobic.

TL;DR I'm wary of anyone who's vocal about being asexual, because the whole thing's been co-opted by Tumblrites. And if it's your true and honest orientation, I don't see any reason to make a big deal about it.

 

[Joan Nyan]

Asexuality has a lot of different definitions. Some people would say it means no sex drive, some would say sex drive is OK but no attraction to anyone, some would say you can be attracted to others but not want to actually have sex with them. I mean, I'm sure you could find people who fit any of these but really, who cares?